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Meeting girls at raves

biocloudy said:
when i started raving in the mid 90's i remember girls asking guys if they were there for the girls, the drugs, or the music... obviously there was only one right answer but people fucked this up all the time. I have never hooked up or seen anyone i knew hook up with someone they didn't already know at a rave, and were are talking 15 years of partying (fuck i am old.) These days I go with the GF and she gets hit it on intensely and even after making it clear shes attached they often times don't go away, its both silly, annoying, and amusing at the same time.

When I go to a party I want to find a corner and dance all night and generally be left alone with the occasional check in from friends. Random sex, chasing girls, never enters my mind. Go find girls were you can actually get to know them, have more in common then drug use and music or you will end up a Divorcée like myself.
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Friend of mine has been falling into this habit. We try to warn him but in the end i think it's gonna take him getting decked by a drunk ass to wake up.
 
This thread makes me laugh but also confuses confuses me. When I'm rolling sex is pretty much the last thing on my mind. I just want to dance and maybe cuddle and kiss.
 
Well, I'm a few months into the whole rave/electronica/rolling/tripping world, but as a girl I have experience a few of these things myself.

This past weekend I went to a huge event and throughout the whole night when I'd be dancing or walking around random guys would just come up and interact with me in some random little way, then disappear. Like I got a hand on the arm sometimes when walking and I'd turn around and smile but had no idea what it meant. And when I was dancing I'd open my eyes (I like closed eyes when I roll) and some guy would be nearby noticing I was rolling and either just try to pump me up real hard and we'd do a crazy dance for a minute and then it'd be over. Wtf? I never understood it but went with the flow.

My first time I rolled (I'm always the one girl with all the guys) and went to Rusko they stayed around me the whole time and made sure I was gonna be good rolling and all. I went to Borgore a week later and rolled and now that I was more comfortable with what to expect from the molly I went and danced with like 5 different guys through the thing. I feel like when you roll it just feels good to dance with someone. One guy stuck with me for most of the time and I thought he was gonna try and pick me up or something but at the end he was cool as shit and was like hey, thanks for the fun, that was awesome. And we smiled and that was that.

HOWEVER, I also find that if I want to dance by myself and just do my own thing, guys always always always come up to me and dance on me. Like try to grind. And I don't know how to be like 'I just want to dance alone' without upsetting their happy dancing roll or come off as a bitch.

I'm clean and like to keep shit classy but fun. I'm just at the rave to dance my face off with everyone there to do to the same thing. I've never met someone at a bar or club or rave and gone home with them. Hello that's dangerous. Any girl with sense or class isn't going to go home with you. And I realize that some guys understand that its a 'just for the concert' thing but it's hard to read. I'd hate to lead a guy on without knowing it and have him upset and blueballed (haha blunt, yay) at the end of the night. And also, yes, hate to say it but drugs bring around the sketchers so you really just have to pick and choose to the best of your judgement.

So I think that's where most girls come from when it comes to meeting people and dancing with them.
 
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On the just wanting to do your own thing. Last time i took a girl with me and guys would do that she would put a hand on their chest and just keep dancing at an arms length away. Most the time they would just chill and dance there or keep moving.

If it's a good crowd most guys will realize what you are up to and leave you alone.
 
This thread got me crackin up. I admit , I am not looking for girls when I got to raves/events but if one so happens to be interested so be it. I always have "moments" at raves. Last event I went to , I massaged a girl for 4 hours. Weird..but it was very harmonic. Felt right. I believe in the whole "organic" thereoy. If it happens . it happens. Dont force it.
 
Most girls at raves aren't there for sex, if they were it wouldn't be a rave it would be a sex party, although people ocasionally go back to the car at raves to relieve thier urge.. It's more about the good drugs, good people. Everyone i see walking around swinging thier dick around gets looked down on
 
Fuck raves IMO. Go find other heady music events / shows where people party, or try music festivals. Somewhere where its not all about being fucked up.....and where there are different types of people and more age groups.

I am a female, I am in my 30s, but I still LOOOOVE to flirt on MDMA. Heres the thing: Sex drive turns into more of an empathy on MDMA. Sexy situations are great, but actually hooking up is not on the agenda normally for me. It is to start, I might WANT to in the beginning of the night, but after the dancing and connecting and then coming down and dealing with that, it diminishes, unless something REALLY cool happens. Many times I have hooked up on MDMA and it was crazy and fun, but its pretty rare. I think people are just getting off mostly on what is there to begin with and everyone is just in the moment.
But thats too bad, because MDMA initially makes it easy for me to flirt and its great to connect with people and develop crushes. I am lucky, I usually party with a crowd of really awesome people. That makes a huge difference! But yeah, MDMA is funny with the horomones. In one way it totally helps, but in another it totally blanks that stuff out.
 
My buddy on the other hand, who got separated from our group early in the night, DID end up finding a chick to dance with and make out with all night. However, like the guy in the first post said, she was not willing to leave her group of friends to come party at our hotel, which is obviously understandable. But on the same token after making out and cuddling/dancing with my friend for the past 4 hours, it was understandable that he would also at least TRY to invite her back.
 
I find it very easy to make friends at raves, and it comes REALLY easy as soon as your networked a little bit, girls at raves don;t go there to get picked up or go home with anyone though they go there to preform dance and be weird on drugs, it's a different crowd and there is alot of love going on in the rave scene you just gotta make yourself an item to the whole community first :D I love all my new friends, my colorful pretty new friends!
 
Funny story. Last girl I met at a rave I hung out with at another one, then proceeded to hang out with her 3 weeks later then loose my virginity to her. That was a good day (:
 
Assuming you like the music, find a good 2 step/garage/jungle night and dress well. These are always a little more sexy, and the girls dress differently. Its a shame that theres hardly any of this on the West Coast these days (that I can find)
 
from my experiences, I find that girls are more easier to pick up at regular bar/clubs than raves. Just like how gay guys sometimes approach me and give me a massage, I'll allow the massage but it won't go further than that. E doesn't totally cloud my mind to the point that I lose inhibitions. I feel that it's the same with the girls. In fact, I feel that girls are that much more on the guard knowing very well that they're rolling and a bunch of guys will hit on them. As pointed out, raves are not the spot to meet girls. but if it happens, it happens. but just don't expect raves to be the place for hooking up.
 
You always find someone when you aren't looking. That lesson has given me incredible life experiences, and has also lead into some serious disasters. If you're looking to meet up with a good, intelligent girl, a rave isn't the place to go. I'm not trash talking rave girls, I only mean that in the sense that at raves, girls tend to just want to have a good time with thier friends. I guess in summary, don't pressure yourself to find someone but at the same time be prepared for it to happen. You don't wanna drop the ball
 
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