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Masturbation - Always/Sometimes/Never?

motherofearth

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I'm going to sound like a sexual infidel, a coital philistine, certainly not a brash wank artist, when I ask, as a 26 year old male, should I be masturbating 3-5 times a day? Should I reserve it, ya know, in light of that whole chi theory? Or should, I not start a thread, and just listen to my biology? I'm about a week clean from a pretty severe heroin/cocaine habit, and I'm exercising again which typically rushes my libido and blood flow. I'm apprehensive to ask, but does masturbating excessively (whatever that means) diminish ones vivacity? Help SLR....
 
Thats way too many times,

maybe when you first discover masturbation but not that many times a day. Your going to end up with a whole number of problems. They say 3-4 times a week.

The problems you will face are psychological, and physical , google it you will see.
Btw i suffer from Chronic bacterial prostatitis from having surgery when i was younger, and i believe a simliar pain/condition can arise from masturbation, it feels like your dieing or something when you ejacuate or when you pee at the end. its just not a nice feeling, and it can last for quite a while after too.
 
Orgasms increase in intensity over a daily stretch, IME. I've had a burning sensation after having sex and masturbating multiple times in a day, immediately went to the doctor, was checked out, cleared, and told that's natural.

In America, there's still a healthy amount of misinformation regarding this subject, and while I've never heard physical problems can result, I've heard vitality/personality can diminish.

Furthermore, while I masturbated 3 times daily in approximation of the first 3 months of discovering the, erm, activity, I pitched to my zenith during my 21st year since I was exercising and was engaging a partner completely and utterly physically complimentary to me. It seemed to me then, the more frequently I engaged the mechanism, the more it craved stimuli, and I didn't feel adverse consequences. But then, I had a sexual sink in my partner then, so I didn't worry about it like now. Anyway, most people don't tart masturbating in their sexual pique, so wouldn't it be normal to reach your apex at a later time rather than upon discovery?
 
Listen to your biology. Everyone is different. I know a guy in his 30s who masturbates up to 6 times a day and still has a strong sex drive. Me, I abstain for spiritual reasons. There IS, in my experience, a lot to the "chi" stuff.
 
There IS, in my experience, a lot to the "chi" stuff.
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I'm starting to see this as truth myself.

I've been a once-a-weeker and a 3-5-times-dailyer and everything in between. It really all just depends. My level of sexual activity at the time doesnt really factor in.

I'll say that when I'm doing it more than once a day it's because my headspace (and timing ;)) is all fucked.

Oh, well there was this period of time with my ex where we played the 'your my slut game'. I dont think I wanked it once in that whole time. But I was getting head like non stop. literally.
 
subopm420 said:
Oh, well there was this period of time with my ex where we played the 'your my slut game'. I dont think I wanked it once in that whole time. But I was getting head like non stop. literally.
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I loved that phase, and still masturbated very frequently. I was running 4-5 miles daily, and obviously that affects things. Now, after depleting my body w/ addiction, I'm eating/running again, and the tsunamic force of nature that's my libido is flooding my conscious. I need a disease free, consenting, casual partner, really. Sadly, I'm entering inpatient treatment tomorrow, and I don't think I should get romantically/sexually involved w/ someone until I'm in better head space. Uuuuuuuuugggggggggghhhhhh.
 
^^i have to agree. Once you get over the sickness and everything it might change. Listen 2 ur body lol. Different strokes for different folks (litterally in this case) lmfao. Best of luck with gettin (and more importantly STAYIN) clean.
 
Man i'm on methadone since April 17th. During that time i've wanked a dozen times.... & ejaculted once. One (1) sexual encounter too. I got a great stiffy & it felt great & yup she was quivering like an electrocuted octopus but cum i did not.
 
My frequency varies. Sometimes I'll masturbate like three times in one night. Other times I won't touch myself the whole day. I'd say it averages it to 8 or 9 times a week tops. If the chi concept is relevant and true, then I could probably benefit from cutting down.
 
Its strange.. When i was younger in the self discovery days, it was sometimes twice a day.. then i tapered off and grew out of it. But when I started using meth, I would masturbate to porn for 12 hours, only stopping to top up.. the next day I would have this red swollen mess where my dick used to be.. but it didnt matter at the time.

Now I don't toss off during the week, too tired because of work.. but only get amongst it when I get on the shit.. when will i ever grow up? lol.. congrads on being clean.. more power to you.. all the best
 
sockpuppet said:
In my experience - the more satisfying awesome sex and sexual release one has the more sexual and alive one feels in general - not the opposite. If you feel it's too much then it is - otherwise don't listen to anyone else who thinks they know how much sex is right for you. Enjoy and good luck staying clean....
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This is where I've arrived, considering my past, and not truly believing it risks physical harm, outside of abrasions. Funny, to me at least, is I'll get 3 wet dreams a night during acute WD of heroin before I can even put in any work. Thank you for the insight and wishes.

blahman8000 said:
My frequency varies. Sometimes I'll masturbate like three times in one night. Other times I won't touch myself the whole day. I'd say it averages it to 8 or 9 times a week tops. If the chi concept is relevant and true, then I could probably benefit from cutting down.
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W/o referring to it as the chi component, I can acknowledge, at minimum and similarly, a diminution in my general spirits and energy - but as I said, this seem due to the mounting intensity consecutive orgasms over a day, for males. As the orgasms pique, the xanax-like afterglow extends, and this may be the root of the chi hypothesis....
 
Lol.. I am a female and I am also a binge drug user. I am basiclly a binger in general BC I binge masturbate. Sometimes I go weeks w/o doing it, other times I do it everyday. I have a regular lover and I try to abstain when I know I am going to see him however I can masturbate and cum then see him and cum a few more times. So there ya have it. Girls do it too. BTW it is normal when coming off opiated to have an increase in libido..yeah? Eh theres my 2 cents
 
For males, opiates don't increase the libido; rather they often decrease it. Personally, they make me not give a fuck about girls I normally find attractive, which for a little while is cool: "Yeah, whatever, I'm warm and fuzzy and you have no power over me, baby," *drags cigarette* I mean, I'll still fuck, forever if my partner is up for it, but that's b/c coming is impossible. Is the female orgasm hindered by opiates? Also, not just on opiates but in general, exes have relayed to me the intensity increases over consecutive orgasms, as is the case w/ me. westsidewoman66, do you find this to be the case? Also, if orgasm is attainable whilst affected by opiates for you, I have never been more envious - that, in addition to the multiple orgasm, makes me extremely desirous to be a lady for a day.

EDIT: Sorry, I misread: you said coming off opiates. Then the answer is yes. Affirmatively and emphatically, yes.
 
Haha, I don't agree that it is enough. Haha shoot for 10!

lol no usually I go 5-8 times a day. only like 3 times a day for the past week or so because I've been busy.

Whatever satiates your libido man.
 
As long as you're not hurting anyone, do whatever you want.
 
3-5 times a day? Damn. I would call that excessive, personally. I find it really hard to believe there are no adverse effects from wanking so much.. physically maybe not so much, but mentally definately. When I haven't released for more than a week there is a very noticble difference in my energy.. the capacity for focus/concentration is greatly enhanced, you get a lot more done physically and mentally.

There's two conflicting schools of thought on this issue. The Western medical apporach and the subtle medical approach of some Eastern countries/traditions that have beliefs about sex/sexual energy. It is up to the individual I think to listen to their body and observe the changes in their life when making a decision about this VERY important issue. For me personally I think masturbation is incredibly insidious, like you are being moved to release the energy by something external to yourself rather than you deciding to.
 
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