make her go

[rayoflight1993]

I have a gf that finds it easiest to orgasm with fingering without penetration. Or if she rubs herself on my member. Its very rare if ever that she goes from being penetrated. Doesnt help that more recently I dont last as long and my refractory period seems to be very very excessive for a 20 y/o. What can I do to make her orgasm from penetration for what I like to think of as an outtie type of girl? And what could be wrong with my refractory period? Used to be someone who had usually a 20-60 min period. On healthy diet and not on any drugs.

 

[cg9256]

Lol great vocabulary dude. Can u use your fingers on the outside while ur going in?? AS for your refractory period, u should be proud of yourself for lasting that long. I havent had number like that since i stopped opiates. Since quitting i usually last 5 mins then explode then roll over and pass out.

 

[llama112]

Many females cannot orgasm from penetration. You can't necessarily do something. You can keep trying different techniques but don't be disappointed if it doesn't work.

 

[severely etarded]

Let her ride that shit man

 

[What 23]

Sometimes I find staying on the outside to be very pleasurable... just between labia.

Maybe you can divide your time inside and out, or work on getting her off first?

I try to contact my body at least with the external area, to use my lower abdomen in sex, and not just in-out it. Maybe its just an aim, but it seems to work. I aim toward her around her naval area, I think. This may translate to their "g-spot". Certain angles may help. Visualization. Attention.

@ cg9256, do you know what a refractory period is? Its not how fast you get off... its how long it takes before you can be ready for sex again.

...Mine is sometimes nil. Sometimes I don't feel I came hard enough, so within a minute I can go again, or I can "push through", and keep going. I'm 31. I think it is psychological. But then again its all linked..

Usually I'm satisfied after one time, but if we are laying there naked, in contact, soon is possible.

I'd say it might be psychological... Sorry to be so vague. But you may feel let down that "your way" doesn't get her off. Focus on her first. Of course enjoy yourself but pleasure her before you are expended. Recognize what gets her off, and work with it. This may also in turn shorten your refractory periods.