Lost my virginity yesterday and I feel like shit.

[RedRum OG]

Losing your virginity is like the biggest anti-climax most people will ever experience (no pun intended)

In pop culture and social ways its built up so much, and usually isn't that great, unless its like in a special relationship sort of situation. The first time is usually somewhat awkward and not all that great, so sort of a let down for how much it gets built up

Once you get more experienced you'll feel a lot better about it, also as you said drinking will always make you feel shitty the next day

 

[ricardo08]

No point stressing over what you have no control over. It happened just like it happened to most people (that I know, anyway). It's not a big deal, you'll realise this soon enough.

 

[Serotonin101]

I found losing my virginity very disappointing, as sex had been built up to be this amazing thing only to discover it's just wanking with someone's vagina, only you've got less control.
Then again maybe that's just my disconnected apathetic nihilistic perspective shining through.

This is what happened with me. I lost my vcard to a chick I knew all of 15 minutes. I was hungover from a night of drinking and heavy mdma and covered up the hangover with about 20-30mg hydrocodone (no opi tolerance). Needless to say I didn't cum, it wasn't really enjoyable and she let me do anything I wanted to her (she said since it was my first time I could do whatever).
OP dont let it get you down man. I don't know anyone who's still with the person they lost their virginity to. You'll have great sex (sober sex is by far the best in my opinion and I have boned on LSD, mushrooms, k, amps/methamp, mdma, various opis, barbs, benzos, booze, alcohol, and weed) and you'll have bad sex. Its part of the sexual journey most of us experience. Maybe the intoxication, and anxiety of it being your first time made for a lackluster experience, I know that was the case for me.

 

[95Land]

Yeah..... As just about everyone else has said, there's nothing overly magical about the first time.
I think the best part about it for me was that I wasn't a virgin anymore and I could reap the benefits of that. IOW's, I was now able to give a bunch of shit to my remaining high school friends that were still virgins and didn't have to take shit for it anymore. And, girls in school that I/we hung out with now knew I was capable and available for more sex.
That sounds completely ridiculous, but that really was the best part of it. The act itself lasted 2 minutes, maybe. I took no magic away from it. Besides that that sex would beget more sex, which would beget more sex.
It gets better and better. Don't be depressed about the first time being gone. It's more just a hurdle to clear on the way to good sex.
Just be glad it's out of the way. If depression creeps back in, remember that there's still poor souls out there that are 20-30-40 years old that are still waiting on that first time. Now THAT'S something to be depressed about....

 

[!_MDMA_!]

i understand completely why you did have sex, you're a guy and the pressure to lose your virginity and get respect from your peers is big in highschool where people use sexual experiences as a way to feel superior to others

i felt the same way as you, i had sex for the first time when i was 17 because i was saving myself for a special gf but eventually i just wanted to get laid to get it over with

there's nothing wrong with wanting to only have sex with someone special no matter what your peers say, i feel like this generation is slowly losing this mindstate but thats not how i was raised by my parents
if i were you i'd look for that special someone because the best times of my short life (im 19) were dating and hanging out everyday with this one girl for like 2 weeks

we didnt even have amazing sex, i just valued her companionship and our time together that much

 

[lars90]

He is a guy, so I doubt it physically hurt.

The alcohol (read: hangover) is definitely contributing to your feeling shit.

My first time I was on near a gram of DXM, and I'm not sure I would've been comfortable getting naked if it weren't for the DXM (had no trouble the following times sober)
I laid there like an overheated corpse, as my recently ex (at the time) rode me until I had to push her off to go puke.

I found losing my virginity very disappointing, as sex had been built up to be this amazing thing only to discover it's just wanking with someone's vagina, only you've got less control.
Then again maybe that's just my disconnected apathetic nihilistic perspective shining through.

Saint you were an a Gram of dex? Haha would that men when you close your eyes you'd be hallucinating the fuck out of the world? Lol how the fuck did you even manage to keep hard silent it like almost I'm possible on dex? :D it always made me not want to have sex for 3 days after :D wow just imagine you try to enjoy the sex and close your eyes and its like the whole thing lasts a year and your just in a different demention haha :D

 

[lars90]

I hate to say this but isn't it ironic that in this case it's a male that's having these feelings. Usually it's the woman who regrets the first time.

Listen OP, you've gotten some very sound advice here and it is what "you" make it. Hopefully she's not pregnant, you protected yourself and the regrets are all in your mind. Hang in there and always try to remain "in control" to some level at all times. Alcohol can really push the "limit" thing very easily. Call it a lesson learned and move on. Good Luck!

I'm sure she regretted it about 10 times as much the next day :DD

 

[trip.more]

My first time was with 2 girls, we got a hotel room. I had a fist sized bag of OC80's and a zip of coke. Was pretty entertaining.

 

[Pagey]

^Wow, you didn't lose any time did you

 

[HYDRO_CHRONIC]

yea i regret my first time i wasnt really into at all ....i was 14 she was like 21 or so and i just didnt want to but she pulled me in the room ,and i was so not into it that it wouldnt get up for like 15 min....and yea i was "happy" i lost it but i felt like shit too

 

[dopemaster]

My first time was quick. I had done some coke with a friends mom and well she fucked me. I came quick and she realized I was a virgin. I was 16. She was hot and I think the coke is why she fucked me. It was awkward but not that bad. I came hard and was kinda glad to lose my virginity so I would last longer when I fucked a girl I actually liked. I never saw her or the friend again. Your making a big deal out of nothing. Some times are better than others. At least you will not be nervous next time. If intimate sex is what you want you will find it. Personally I think its better to shag someone you dont love sometimes. Intimate sex is a wonderful thing and completely different. But yeah at least you got your first time out the way, cuz the first time is awkward.