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pokepoke420

pokepoke420

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How many of you have done this? Have they worked? Were they permanent or temporary? I am about to enter into the realm of long distance (for about 6-9 months) and I just wanted to get some feedback.
 
I think it can but both have to be willing to work together. Communicate often and see each once a month, twice a month, whatever you agree to. Also have to enjoy each other's time when you do get together and not spend it fighting which I see people do on here. There is also an element of trust too. And then I think there has to be basically a light at the end of the tunnel sort of thing... like one day one person will move to the other's location.

It has to be both parties too who agree. There are people who do long distance relationships because they can keep the other party away from them basically. So, they can have a guaranteed fuck buddy basically while never having the other person think that there is a "relationship" and want it to be more. So basically, I think both parties have to think or understand that while right now you can only see the person once a month or once every 6 months even, but that once everything settles down for both parties that one person can move.

It's not fun having a long distance relationship knowing the other person is never going to want anything more. So there has to be communication and a lot of it and a general understanding that there is potential even though it's not possible at the moment.
 
I did this and here are the things that worked for us
1. when you meet, always have the next trip scheduled to each other (so you wont really say gbye!)
2. have a plan as soon as you can to figure out how to move closer to each other
3. meet every 3-4 weeks (at least) in person

why it is so hard
1. you can kindof share your life, but not really - feels like being stuck in between
2. if there is a time difference it becomes really hard to find intimacy
3. if plans work out, or the other person want to take their time to figure out moving, it becomes very frustrating
 
I have been forced to enter into long-distance relationships ever since I was in my first proper relationship.

I met her on holidays on a beach at a bonfire.

We had to adapt to each other living in different parts of our country and would travel to each other only once every couple of weeks.

That same inclination existed in my last relationship where we were living in different parts of the world and would travel to each other only once it was possible.
 
I doubt anyone would intentionally or consciously fall in love with someone they couldn't see as much as their hearts desired
 
kicsicsillag said:
I did this and here are the things that worked for us
1. when you meet, always have the next trip scheduled to each other (so you wont really say gbye!)
2. have a plan as soon as you can to figure out how to move closer to each other
3. meet every 3-4 weeks (at least) in person

why it is so hard
1. you can kindof share your life, but not really - feels like being stuck in between
2. if there is a time difference it becomes really hard to find intimacy
3. if plans work out, or the other person want to take their time to figure out moving, it becomes very frustrating
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I like this, but realistically I think we will only be able to see each other 2 times throughout this experience. I'm glad I got mostly positive feedback. She is going to be in Colombia, and between my work and school schedule getting time off is going to be nearly impossible. Whatever is meant to be will be though, right? Thanks for all of your feedback.
 
pokepoke420 said:
I like this, but realistically I think we will only be able to see each other 2 times throughout this experience. I'm glad I got mostly positive feedback. She is going to be in Colombia, and between my work and school schedule getting time off is going to be nearly impossible. Whatever is meant to be will be though, right? Thanks for all of your feedback.
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yes, tough. even tougher, if you guys lived together or in the same city at least before... starting from long distance and build up the relationship is I think easier
 
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