I met this girl 45 days ago in a concert. She is from a small town about 1000 miles from where I live. She just came to see the band and went back. The two nights she was here we were together, she came to my apartment and we were up all night looking into each other's eyes and shit. We fell deep in love. She's 28 and I'm 22. I look and talk like I'm 30 and she looks and talks like she's 17 so age is kind of not a problem. Plus i live alone and she lives with her parents.
A month after we met I took 23 hour bus ride and spent two nights in her town. Only to find out that she hadn't told her family or most of her friends about me. The thing is, and take my word on this one, that she's a fucking coward. She does love me, she even told me that she wanted to come and live with me in my city once she finishes school (she's a lot closer than I am from her degree) and I know she means it. But she was the youngest child of a lot of brothers and sisters, you could say she's a homegirl.
Now I asked her to come to my house in january (we got a break from school and work) and she had no choice but to tell her parents. She told her mom and she was happy for us, but now she (the girl) is saying that "it's going to be kind of hard for her father to ALLOW (she's twenty fucking eight years old) her to come on january".
The thing here is. I know she loves me. I know she's the kind of person I was looking for my whole life. I know she's caring and giving and whatnot. But I need her to show me that she can step up for us. I couldn't feel really comfortable going to her town again and taking the whole trip, not because of the long ride but because of the action to take the trip.
Am I being to harsh on her if I push her into stepping up to her father? (also I'm almost sure that it's not that she doesn't get "permission" rather than she feels guilty about leaving her father because he's 74. I mean I know we're just starting but we're already talking about living together I feel like I need her to show me how much is she willing to sacrifice for me.
Thoughts???? please!!!
A month after we met I took 23 hour bus ride and spent two nights in her town. Only to find out that she hadn't told her family or most of her friends about me. The thing is, and take my word on this one, that she's a fucking coward. She does love me, she even told me that she wanted to come and live with me in my city once she finishes school (she's a lot closer than I am from her degree) and I know she means it. But she was the youngest child of a lot of brothers and sisters, you could say she's a homegirl.
Now I asked her to come to my house in january (we got a break from school and work) and she had no choice but to tell her parents. She told her mom and she was happy for us, but now she (the girl) is saying that "it's going to be kind of hard for her father to ALLOW (she's twenty fucking eight years old) her to come on january".
The thing here is. I know she loves me. I know she's the kind of person I was looking for my whole life. I know she's caring and giving and whatnot. But I need her to show me that she can step up for us. I couldn't feel really comfortable going to her town again and taking the whole trip, not because of the long ride but because of the action to take the trip.
Am I being to harsh on her if I push her into stepping up to her father? (also I'm almost sure that it's not that she doesn't get "permission" rather than she feels guilty about leaving her father because he's 74. I mean I know we're just starting but we're already talking about living together I feel like I need her to show me how much is she willing to sacrifice for me.
Thoughts???? please!!!