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Libido all messed up

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Salandrion

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So the last time I had sex was March of last year. This was when I broke up with my ex and since then things haven't functioned properly with me.

I have had a couple of encounters, one of which resulted in the ol' embarrassing unable to get it up syndrome, and since then I have had low drive to try and meet women to have sex even if they seem willing.

I'm not sure what is going on, I used to have a really strong sex drive but I don't seem to have any drive or the same confidence that I used to. I am a relatively attractive guy, and this isn't me being shallow or conceited but I don't think its because women find me repulsive. I am afraid that my MDMA use has screwed up my brain wiring. I have always been very harm reduction forward with my usage, but since I started using MDMA 2 years ago, I don't seem to have the same drive or motivation towards carnal endeavors. Has anybody experienced this? Any advice to get me out of this slump? maybe some supplement ideas to get my sex drive back?

It has taken me a long time to come to this forum and ask these questions. I am only recently becoming worried because I used to be able to hit the ball on command and now I'm rarely able to lift the bat :/ Help
 
Diet is a major factor for libido. What and how regular are you eating? Have you been able to masterbate?
 
I eat 2-3 meals a day, and I'm 22 and eating mostly fresh and antibiotic free stuff (I'm planning on moving out of my parents house at the end of the summer so this may change...). My masturbation habits haven't subsided, its just the actual drive to have sex with someone else is a difficult task.
 
Salandrion said:
I eat 2-3 meals a day, and I'm 22 and eating mostly fresh and antibiotic free stuff (I'm planning on moving out of my parents house at the end of the summer so this may change...). My masturbation habits haven't subsided, its just the actual drive to have sex with someone else is a difficult task.
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Do you ever get morning wood?
 
Some people do experience sexual side effects with MDMA. I'm not sure of the mechanism on that, think it's purely speculative at this point. Do you take any other drugs?
 
This is going to be a bit speculative but I'd imagine that since MDMA makes you a bit hyper-sexual, long-term use would diminish your libido when you're sober. It would make sense but I don't really have any basis for saying that other than speculation so don't take my word for it.

How often do you use MDMA?

I've noticed that when you get yourself into a mentality where you're not even trying to have sex anymore, after a while your libido tends to just go down/disappear on its own (to spare you the frustration I guess haha). I've had periods where I would go a couple months without any and not think about it once, but then once I did I'd realise I did actually miss it. So sometimes it's worth kinda 'forcing' yourself to go out and make an effort to find someone to get yourself out of that rut.

Also, think you might be depressed?
 
Pagey said:
Also, think you might be depressed?
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this is really important as mdma use has been linked with depression/anxiety and depression can kill your libido

also any antidepressants of the ssri variety are good for killing a sex drive.
 
Pretty_Diamonds said:
Stop masturbating.
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yea.
Now that I look at it, my "morning wood" question could be taken for joke, but I was being serious.

If your dick is getting hard, and you are masturbating, then there is nothing wrong with your libido.

Any worries over MDMA use is just needless anxiety.

Go on the no-jerk-till-u-find-a-sex-partner-official-challenge.

If your shit is actually never getting hard, go on the cialis or viagra challenge.
 
Drugs and freedom to masturbate = better than Partner with dynamic needs.

I prefer to call it sexual self-sufficiency.
Others will think its unhealthy, but sex without reproduction is really just as baselessly hedonistic as plugging oxytocin.
Regular ejaculation is waste of energy and depletes your zinc like crazy.
Let alone the endocrine desensitization that makes orgasm less interesting over time - a depressing fact.

Oh btw, it's good to keep zinc levels up, meat, fish, tablets whatever. Shellfish are so high in zinc it can be toxic if you eat enough or are the right amount of pregnant.
But shellfish translate into increased arousal as you digest it. So have mussels with your clam, or clams for your muscle - either way.
I found the hardcoreness and frequency of porn use made it hard to get erect and to actually cum, even tho a great time had been had. Trust me, its frustrating being unable to finish up.
Maybe stop masturbating and try not to think about it for a while.
It's better when your not hanging for it, least expect it, you'll be confident that you don't need it and that's a sexy outlook to have.
 
Thanks for the advice. To answer some questions.

My MDMA use has been infrequent. I have used regularly over the course of 2 years, but usually with at least 1 month and often 3 months of wait in between.

I masturbate regularly and don't use any other drugs at this point, even cutting out my cannabis usage for job reasons. Depression may be something, but I don't feel like I don't have motivation to do things, but rather a bit more jaded about existence.
 
If you can masturbate there's nothing wrong with your sexual response or your libido. Your hang-up is between your ears. Perhaps you are feeling pressured when a girl is waiting. Question of one failure leading to a series of failures ... Difficult to know what to advise, but perhaps a visit to a prostitute might work, at least it might if you don't feel pressured to perform.
 
Well thats reassuring I suppose. I just remember a day not too long ago when I would feel like I could seal the deal always. now I just kind of feel washed up...
 
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