I disagree personally, I have had sex probably more times while high on stuff other than weed more times than ive had sex sober. I like sex sober more, its become normal while on drugs. Mostly MDMA and meth and especially nitrous, I dont think I could ever do nitrous inside ever again because its the exact same trip every time and it doesnt feel good, whereas if im outside I get different sensations and a different high off the nitrous.
If I really loved the person then for the first time at least id want to be sober(that doesnt mean I dont/didnt love my partner at the time when I was on something) for that first night, I wasnt sober when I lost my virginity, it was actually the first night I ever had a whole MDMA pill rather than half and it was one of the best and most memorable nights and whole weekend for that matter. I wasnt high that whole time though but they were goooood pills, those love heart shaped ones but we all know theres a million different types of hearts.