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Social Is Socializing Healthy ????

it is a vital part of human existent...man is a social animal some say.Internet comunication can't replace it in any way....ask my self a bout social isolation and i am not fully isolated.got wife and daughter by me..no man....this takes it's toll mentally.....a live connection...eye to eye....touch to touch...and there is so many people that live in socium and are isolated.....not nessery to be hermit like me
 
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I am a loner by nature, who can adapt to social situations but as Axl Rose sings, in the song 'Patience' "I sit here on the stairs. 'Cause I'd I rather be alone" that is how I feel most of the time.

We have all been through shit, whether it is was problems we created ourselves or in many cases things we can't help, or had no control over. That is the reality of life.

The thing I really hate is when people lie, deceive and manipulate constantly. This is the main reason I come across as so angry at times. I look at the news media first, then at the politicians regardless of party although their is plenty of blame to go around there are so many people in the media, politics and nameless, faceless beauicrats that will lie, sabotage, manipulate and do anything to ruin those they disagree with. With no regard for all the hundreds of millions of lives that they could potentially hurt and destroy to get there own self centered ego driven, holier than thou way. The worst part is all the people they will hurt and destroy, who did nothing to deserve it. And in many cases they have a truly evil and self serving agenda.

These are the people that take credit for things they didn't do that worked out well. Then conversely will blame everyone but themselves when something goes wrong that is totally 💯% their own fault.

Then when exposed and caught will make up and use any and every excuse they can to try squirm their way out of it. Even relatively minor things that if they were to just be honest and sincerely apologize, that would be the end of it.

But no, in their warped and twisted tiny little minds they have deluded themselves into thinking that they are perfect, when they are in fact part of a tiny little minority of the most fucked up pieces of shit to ever walk the earth.

Look at Sean p Diddy daddy puffy puff combs or whatever he is calling himself this week. Oh, I almost forgot Brother Love.( Yes I know he is a talentless entertainer and a corrupt businessman and those are his 2 least horrible qualities). But you get my point?

On a side note he started calling himself, brother love. A
comedian, whose name escapes me, said he better change his name again before he goes to prison.🤣🤣🤣🤣

Conversely, they are also the same unforgiving and merciless hypocrites who are the ones to go after others for doing the same stuff and even worse to others, it is sick and wrong.
Rant over.
 
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Jnowhere said:
The thing I really hate is when people lie, deceive and manipulate constantly. This is the main reason I come across as so angry at times. I look at the news media first, then at the politicians regardless of party although their is plenty of blame to go around there are so many people in the media, politics and nameless, faceless beauicrats that will lie, sabotage, manipulate and do anything to ruin those they disagree with.
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if you hate these people in the media so much, why do you keep watching/reading?
i get many people feel the need to keep themselves informed about what's going in the world. but if knowing that comes with the cost of you getting angry at people and by that losing the possibility to meet people who aren't like that, what's the benefit?

people can be dicks and jerks and assholes.
superficial opportunists.
hypocrites.
but not all are like this, and if you don't give people a chance to prove their worth to you, socializing will become very hard.
 
I don't socialize anymore, because I don't/ can't drink and smoking pot ain't my thing.
Long story. But there is a group of people, near but being the only sober one at a party is very annoying. Do you know what I mean.

And it is like a few houses away that they party, or at another house a few houses away in other direction.

But, do you know what I mean about how annoying it is to be the only sober one around a bunch of people drunk/and or high at a party?
 
Jnowhere said:
But, do you know what I mean about how annoying it is to be the only sober one around a bunch of people drunk/and or high at a party?
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yes, i get this.
and i never went to parties where i couldn't drink unless they were alcohol free events
but then, i have never been a party person to begin with. i prefer having fun with a few good friends rather than going to parties.

i think everyone should go about socializing in a way they feel comfortable with and not let themselves being pressured into becoming a party fiend or feeling like they aren't worthy beings because they only have 5 people on their contact list.
but also, if someone feels lonely, they should start thinking why, and look for ways to meet other people in an environment they feel comfortable.
 
Socializing is healthy but I empathize with anyone who feels awkward or uncomfortable in social situations because I've felt like this most my life.

Finding the environment you feel comfortable in can be difficult also, but it's worth trying. I do enjoy getting together with a few friends though.

I've always wished I was one of those people who sits down in a group of people like at an airport and pretty soon is engaging with several people around them. That person isn't me! Hahaha 😀.
 
kris66 said:
Socializing is healthy but I empathize with anyone who feels awkward or uncomfortable in social situations because I've felt like this most my life.

Finding the environment you feel comfortable in can be difficult also, but it's worth trying. I do enjoy getting together with a few friends though.

I've always wished I was one of those people who sits down in a group of people like at an airport and pretty soon is engaging with several people around them. That person isn't me! Hahaha 😀.
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It, depends on my mood but in IRL, I have found that if you can be observant and make a hilarious comment and get a few laughs, then hit them with more jokes that are funny, gotta read the room, that it is almost always the easiest way.
 
kris66 said:
I've always wished I was one of those people who sits down in a group of people like at an airport and pretty soon is engaging with several people around them. That person isn't me! Hahaha 😀.
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what keeps you from being that person?
 
Jnowhere said:
It, depends on my mood but in IRL, I have found that if you can be observant and make a hilarious comment and get a few laughs, then hit them with more jokes that are funny, gotta read the room, that it is almost always the easiest way.
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i think this goes for every situation.
"irl" is not much different than lets say here, or someplace away from your usual habitat.
the difference is that in most case you can escape internet life by not going online, and other places (like staying for a month with someone for example) by just leaving.
 
I like starting up chats with strangers I meet in the grocery store, on a walk, on a bus, anywhere. Places where most people won't generally initiate. And I'm sure sometimes people thing I'm a little weird ( though I don't give off creepy vibes) but I'm very friendly and genuine in those situations.
But making close friendships or whatever? Not so easy. And in bars? Not really. I'm more of a drink a beer alone sort of guy.
 
chippermonk said:
I like starting up chats with strangers I meet in the grocery store, on a walk, on a bus, anywhere. Places where most people won't generally initiate. And I'm sure sometimes people thing I'm a little weird ( though I don't give off creepy vibes) but I'm very friendly and genuine in those situations.
But making close friendships or whatever? Not so easy. And in bars? Not really. I'm more of a drink a beer alone sort of guy.
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yes, that's basically me. minus the alone beer drinking part.
though i can make close friendships, but that needs time and it's a process of sharing experiences rather than sharing words. and this is almost impossible to get after a certain age because most people get too involved with work and family. from then on friendships are more based on just words. if at all.
 
i don't know what this thread is about exactly, but human interactions is supposed to release brain chemicals. i used to feel less anxiety around my girlfriend, and not even just cause sex cause we'd go sometime with out doing that during different parts of the relationship... i go about my life mostly alone now... sometimes it's fun to have a quick conversation for me with some one at a store or whatever. i talk to my family members, but mostly just so they don't think i'm going crazy in solitude. it doesn't really help me out too much.

i've mostly spent my time alone later on into my adult time, other than in my couple year relationship with the girl i spoke of, i never found being in the company of people at school or work to really help me feel much better. it can bide time having conversation and what not, but it's not always the route to feeling good.

it sounds like the OP is saying drugs are better than socializing.... sometimes you goto recognize natural highs are good too.... i'm also a druggy though. sometimes even drugs don't fully work. like doing things to overcome anxiety like breathing or excersise besides drugs seems to be the biggest help... i think the OP mostly uses pot from what i see on this site or i at least recognize them from that forum... i don't know if being a pot head is the worst thing in the world if you're generally living a healthy life style and not just laying around all day. maybe go for a walk or something.
 
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