do you fear him making the same life choices as you, or are you happy with the way you live?
No he is a totally different person than me and does not function in the 'normal average way' (though neither do I). Some people think outside the square, I explain it like this to my folks, he "Lives Outside the Square".
Sometimes I am...especially when I'm high, but I've been through hell in the last year with a nasty marriage breakup and my 6 year business went down the gurgler and heaps of other shit. So I'm a tad messed up and have explained this to him and he understands my life is pretty screwed up from what it used to be like before.
Does he have a partner? does he use drugs to escape from social activities and other events? Is he maintaining and thriving in his employment?
Is he healthy? Does he have a chronic illness? Does he give blood?
Can he manage quitting if need be?
No partner.
He uses drugs (mainly alcohol to "escape his head" (his quote)...his thoughts as he has a mental illness and is a chronic Hypochondriac.
He doesn't mix well socially especially sober, an he can be quite intense and does not pickup on subtle nuisances and says inappropriate things, is socially awkward when sober, he mainly talks 'word salad' and quotes people and facts.
He is incapable of employment and has never worked and has an attention span of about 5-30mins depending on his state of mind and interest in subject.
No he doesn't give blood, you don't get paid to in New Zealand, except for a cup of tea and a bickie (kiwi for biscuit)
I hope you use micron filters and always use sterile equipment?
How long has he been asking you to do it?
Yes I do use micron filters and sterile equipment, see here:
http://www.bluelight.ru/vb/threads/...he-injecting-ritual-more-than-the-drug-itself...
I think it's important to keep your drug using separate though - don't use together, don't score for him (or vice versa), don't give him any of your drugs. I can see more problems coming about if you develop a relationship that is based on drugs.
We have scored together and used together, drank together many times - he refers to this use as 'Our Bonding Tool'. Sad, mad, bad, but true.
Are you happy with your drug use and your IV use? Would you want your son to have similar experiences?
As above...
He already has and is using drugs, mainly alcohol regularly so has chosen that path on his own accord.
My honest opinion is that u should give quitting a try, I have fully recovered from a nasty opiate addiction and been down that path many times.
Good on you that must have taken a lot of will power, effort and motivation.
I usually only IV once or twice a week with my IV using mates, but these are usually day and night long binging sessions - what I'm trying to say is I keep it to 1 or 2 days a week max, so I'm still in control of my IV use.
But I do use other drugs and ROA's during the week too, and try and have at least one sober and clean day a week, and encourage him to do so too
Do you wonder whether or not he would have ever wanted to shoot up if he didn't know that you did?
Yes I'm ashamed to say I sparked that interest as he always asked to watch me inject, which is what I used to do a year ago with a mate who introduced me to IV'ing - I would take photo's of her shooting up and perve at them later, I found it intriguing, captivating, exciting to watch.
You seem to imply that you can IV occasionally, so what negative effects has it brought you compared to any other level of drug use?
I can at the moment and are and try to keep it that way, but if I had unlimited funds and supplies that would probably change...wouldn't that for most of us?
Obviously it's one of the most intense methods of drug administration, and also the most differcult to perfect, and I really do enjoy the ritual as per my post above.
Why would any Parent inject there kid ?? R u mad
In !!! Don't you want to be a positive Influence ????
Maybe so, but in the interest of Harm Reduction, he tells me of the junkies with bleeding infected pussy sores and bruises all over their arms, at the homeless shelter where he sometimes stays using the same blunt needle over and over, tap water and in filthy, unhygienic conditions. I would hate for one of them to shoot him up with dirty needles etc.
I still try to be a positive influence in his life, as much as I can for an addict who has a lot of issues too. I was the one to motivate him to study at University, as he really is a smart kid...he got that from me lol
I want him to experience things like a job/career, his own flat, the love of a woman, fatherhood, success and happiness etc. He confesses these thoughts to me when he's drunk, but in reality it's very unlikely to happen, and deep down I think he realises this too - it's heart breaking for me to hear these goals which in reality are dreams
If he is going to do it anyway (which is the major factor in this discussion, IMO), don't you think it would be better to be taught the correct way by someone he knows and trusts and knows how to do it, rather than potentially harming himself by being uneducated, misinformed or plain reckless?
I tend to think so, but I'm torn between the 'right thing' to do and the 'practical thing' to do.
I'd suggest trying to help him with his alcohol and substance abuse issues more so than teaching him to shoot up properly personally.
My son doesn't want to give up alcohol etc, he's not ready and in the halfway house type of supervised mental health units where he lives its a social thing drinking and smoking dope etc, as most of them just watch tv all day.
It's only an issue if the user see's it as such, he may not have a problem in his eyes. Especially if he has grown up with a parent(s).
He obviously managed his addiction really well if he is an alcoholic and passing uni, something I couldn't do personally.
I really wish the OP would come back and answer some of the questions posted here.
His Uni thing won't last long, he'll pass a few papers, lose interest, and move onto something else.
He grew up with Mormon parents, 4th generation is he, although alcohol was around he never saw me drunk as I worked afternoon shift and finished work at midnight.
I replied especially for you, but I didn't know how to answer the questions separately? Can that be done?
