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timparsay

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Hello, lately my boyfriend has not been showing up a lot. Yesterday, I noticed a tiny pinpoint sized black hole on his forearm. Is he shooting up drugs? There was no red mark or a bruise. Just a tiny black hole. I'm confused because I dunno if it was a bug bite or any other natural cause. I am scared to ask him.

Is it possible that he is injecting drugs? Please tell me. Is a tiny black hole in the skin a sign of an injection? It also din't seem to hurt him because I deliberately kept touching that spot looking at his reaction. He din't show any signs of pain.

Please help.
 
I think that his actions may be able to tell you more than a little mark on his arm. What part of his forearm though, the underside (pale side)?
 
It may have been a black head or something, although in a very bizarre place. Track marks show up as red dots, not black holes.

Even if he is injecting, it is not a betrayal to you. He is allowed to do what he wants, just as you are allowed to be concerned. If he is using secretly, he may be wanting to tell you so he can express his feelings to you, but may not know how.
 
I don't know if it was directly over a vein.... It was not above the vein near the elbow though...

Well, It could have been a bug bite also..But i dunno... Would an injection create a visible tiny black hole on the skin?...Also he told that he went to a rave party about a month back...That is where i suspect him to have shooted up..
 
Also, It not the drugs I am completely worried about...I don't think he would take ulmost care to use a new needle...What if he had used a dull needle...That puts us at risk for HIV??? This is my major worry...

Would a dull needle leave a tiny black hole in the skin? or am i being paranoid and worrying for nothing? I asked him if he shooted up..he said no...But of course, even if he had, he wouldnt tell me....

What could that tiny black hole be????????
 
Why are you afraid to ask him? I think for your own safety and diseases, you should just ask. Shooting drugs is a deal breaker for me, and if you are afraid of diseases or just don't want to date an IV user, then the best thing to do is just ask him about it. However, if you're just going to stick around and put up with it, then you should just let it go.
 
He has asked him:

timparsay said:
I asked him if he shooted up..he said no...But of course, even if he had, he wouldnt tell me....
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To the OP - a tiny black dot is not typically indicative of IV drug use.

Speak with your partner, and work on your trust issues. Is there a reason you are so suspicious of this? Seems like an odd conclusion to jump to based solely on a black dot and a rave party a month prior.

If you don't communicate with your partner and build trust, your relationship will likely fail.

Good luck.
 
Ha, we've all said it, but it seems like you don't want to believe it for some reason..or you're just paranoid. You don't get tiny black marks from injecting anything..hah, whether it's a dull needle or not. And, why did IV drug use even come up as your first thought? Is he a drug user now? Does he do heroin and just snort it? Do any of his friends IV?

Also, what is the condition of his veins? Are they full and healthy, especially that middle one in the crook of his arm? Because if he were to start IV'ing, that's where he would start..not some random part on his arm.

Either way, as soon as you said "black mark" it's pretty clear he isn't IV'ing..if you said multiple little red dots in the crook of his elbow or running up another vein..well that'd be different.
 
not really likely to shoot brown at a rave. there wouldn't be a mark there a month later. it wouldn't be black.

this is my arm after 3 injections today

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Anything black on your arm would not be a sign of recent injection. As you see holes with some red/purple and a little bruising are the signs of IV use.
I'm not necessarily opposed to needles in general, but I agree that being with someone who's IVing could be dangerous if you aren't 100% sure they're using a clean needle every single time.
That does not seem to be the case with this suspect black pinpoint mark, at all.
Ask yourself why you don't trust him. I'm sure something is up. You may have trust issues with him because of past experiences with him or someone else, or he may be using some drug(s) and not telling you, but not IVing.. Who knows. The fact that you're making a thread about this instead of asking him about it says a lot about your trust level with him now. I'll stay optimistic, but it does seem things need to change some at the very least if you want to continue this relationship you're in.
 
OP ask him about it, and if you're worried about him or you being HIV+ get tested. You can even find places that will do it for free or anynonomous if you don't want to go through a doctor. There are even home test kits you can buy that you can buy otc at a drugstore where you give a blood sample, Fed-ex it into a lab, and then call to get your results the next day. My ex and I did this and they work.

Keep in mind that one neg test does not mean that you're HIV neg. Get tested once and then get tested again at 6 months.
 
timparsay said:
Also, It not the drugs I am completely worried about...I don't think he would take ulmost care to use a new needle...What if he had used a dull needle...That puts us at risk for HIV??? This is my major worry...
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No, a dull needle does in of it self present any risk of HIV, a needle that is contaminated with HIV virii does.

<facepalms>
 
Thanks....But I think the hole in his arm looked somewhat like the hole in arm ( pic shown by i against i ).

I mean I can't see the pic clearly but that was a hole right? Was that a hole or a tear mark?

I asked him is he shooted up at that party. He told me that he got crazy drunk and he din't remember most of the party. I asked him about the hole, he told he had no idea and must have been a bug bite or something.

But, he doesn't remember anything in that party? Are you guys sure that a tiny hole is not a sign of injections and no matter what it wouldn't stay in the skin for over a month even if a dull needle is used? and guys the mark was not black. The hole was tiny and black.
 
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Hey , i against i, was that little black thing in your arm a hole ? It looks like a hole, but I can't be sure. Please tell me !!
 
You created a thread on the internet so you could ask people you don't know if your boyfriend is shooting up because you saw what is almost certainly a bug bite on his arm. Several IV users then responded and described how the odds are overwhelmingly against a single black dot that is not above a major vein being indicative of IV use. You still were not satisfied and asked for re assurance at least twice now. You explicitly stated that regardless of his answer, you couldn't know whether he was telling the truth or not.

If you're still not convinced that he didn't shoot up after reading through the above posts, how does he prove to you that he hasn't been snorting / swallowing / shafting? I don't want to be an asshole, but I think the reason he hasn't been showing up is because you appear to have no trust in him.
 
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