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Is Having Sex With A Woman That Has A Boyfriend Wrong???

yanker said:
And by some chance it was my gf u bet ur ass id be doing life in prison for a double murder!
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OK here's where we differ:

I personally would never want to be the guy some girl cheats on her boyfriend with, as I've been there, done that, and I still regret doing it; but if I were the one cheated on, I would try my best not to take it out on the other guy, despite how hard it might be to resist doing that. I mean, logically, I should have a bone to pick not with the other guy but with my girlfriend as she's the one who, by being my girlfriend, has made a commitment to me. It's illogical to think, "well, had it not been for this guy, my girlfriend never would have cheated!"
 
If SHE has made a commitment to someone else, that's HER responsibility.
If YOU are single you can do what you want.
Fuck her.
 
Larr_E said:
A quasi-coworker (quasi because she works for the same company but on the other side of town) has been dropping major hints on me the past week and has set up a lunch date for us in the near future. The fact that she is a coworker is another thread all together, this I know. My question (as stated in the subject line) is the objections between the sexes about having an affair with a person that's already in a relationship with somebody else. Any ideas? I've asked two people in my office and both say I should go thru with it but I saw my brother's wife cheat on him and how it tore his soul out but these two aren't married and to be frank? She's really hot...


SIDE NOTE: When I say wrong I mean is it wrong for me on my end NOT on hers. Obviously she is wrong...
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Yes I definitely think it's wrong. Cheating in every way shape and form is wrong whether you are the one cheating on someone or helping someone else cheat on their partner it's equally fucked up. Maybe I'm weird, a lot of guys ill high-5 each other and shit over something like that but it makes me lose respect for them and question their integrity as a person in every other area of their life
 
Lysis said:
So, Larr_E, have you guys had lunch yet?

I'm really curious about this one. lol
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Yes we did and nothing majored happened. The signs for me to take it to the next level were all there from her BUT it was the smarter move NOT to do anything. Not because of any moral conundrum but rather the fact that she kept talking about all this drama that surrounds her life and I knew she'd just end up being drama in mine...
 
It is technically wrong because you know she isn't single. However, if you do not know her bf then you are under no obligation to turn her down.

If she wants to cheat she will regardless of whether you take her up on it or not. If it were my girl I would much rather figure out what she is sooner than later. If she is a skank then good riddance.

Obviously you don't seem to be worried about her being a bit dirty, so go for it. Don't put yourself out there until you know for a fact that you are not misreading the situation first.

If you were friends with her bf then you would be a major asshole and would deserve to get your ass beat, but if he is a stranger then he has no legit beef with you. What do guys expect a stranger to do? Turn down some ass lol......
 
Ripamaru said:
It is technically wrong because you know she isn't single. However, if you do not know her bf then you are under no obligation to turn her down.

If she wants to cheat she will regardless of whether you take her up on it or not. If it were my girl I would much rather figure out what she is sooner than later. If she is a skank then good riddance.

Obviously you don't seem to be worried about her being a bit dirty, so go for it. Don't put yourself out there until you know for a fact that you are not misreading the situation first.

If you were friends with her bf then you would be a major asshole and would deserve to get your ass beat, but if he is a stranger then he has no legit beef with you. What do guys expect a stranger to do? Turn down some ass lol......
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I would turn it down actually. First mentally - the fact that I'm helping her cheat would bother me a lot, it's not right.... second physically - who knows who else she cheated with and how many times your dick may turn green and break off inside of her 8o
 
If she is willing to cheat, and eager, then the relationship is currently doomed...not necessarily without hope but this is a green light.

I would see the cheating as some first steps towards a new phase in her life, and where people often say "don't hook up with someone with a partner, they'll do the same to you", I will agree AND disagree. I see no reason not to get things started, but then back off when she starts getting some independence back, so you can both work out whether she is just looking for a way out or she ACTUALLY likes you. Then follow whichever path comes to your feet.

It may be morally wrong , but whose morals are they? Why should that "moral" be yours? It's just control.
 
Yes we did and nothing majored happened. The signs for me to take it to the next level were all there from her BUT it was the smarter move NOT to do anything. Not because of any moral conundrum but rather the fact that she kept talking about all this drama that surrounds her life and I knew she'd just end up being drama in mine...
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Smart move.
 
Larr_E said:
Yes we did and nothing majored happened. The signs for me to take it to the next level were all there from her BUT it was the smarter move NOT to do anything. Not because of any moral conundrum but rather the fact that she kept talking about all this drama that surrounds her life and I knew she'd just end up being drama in mine...
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Good choice, man. It's hard to say for sure (just a forum of course), but there are girls who like the drama and feed off of it. You can't hit it and quit it when she works with you.

Really smart of you to have lunch and sit back, think with the bigger head and listen.

Thank you for the update.
 
-=SS=- said:
Wow.. some peoples position on this issue is quite sad IMO. Why the need to have any cheating in the first place, it's not like there is a shortage of dick or vag on this planet! When I hear people justifying this kind of behaviour it reminds me that i'm living amoungst animals :/ Sex is important but not at the expense of stabbing someone else in the back, regardless of whether you know them or not.. we're all brothers here anyway.

More importantly, why the fuck would you want to have sex with some slut douche who is willing to cheat on her partner? If she was decent she would do the right thing and COMMUNICATE with him first, tell him she's unhappy, try and resolve it.. and failing that dump him. The kind of girl (or guy) who is willing to do that to their partner is not the kind of person you want to sleep with, you may regret it too when she confronts you in a few weeks.. "hey, guess what, im pregnant.. i also have genital warts and herpes sores around my anus". I don't care how hot she is, if she is deficient in soul and moral compass then that is not someone you want to fuck either.

Lastly, have some heart for the guy. You know you would be devestated if it happened to you too. No one wants to find out they've been cheated on, you feel like a total failure. Maybe you have been lacking something but if she was decent she would have told you and not stomped on your nuts.
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Well put, took the thoughts right out of my head!
 
The most important lesson my mother taught me was "To treat all people how you want to be treated". Put yourself in the guys shoes. How would you feel if you had a girlfriend who cheated on you? If you'd be fine with it then go ahead and do it. If not then don't.
 
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That has been alluded to more than once here, but it still rings true. Sometimes I think these threads are part swag and brag, but this is a good discussion to have. It isn't like people with options don't explore them. I suppose the thing that would rub me, is being a hypocrite in your interactions with others.

If you think piping a girl behind her boys back is okay when you are doing the work, then don't be all bull if someday that same shit comes back around 'n' happens to you.
 
Yes it is very wrong to be a cheater. Just like you said about your brothers wife cheating and how it made him feel. Imagine YOU being the cause of that pain for someone else. It is just not right, ya know? & it doesn't matter that they are only bf/gf, it is still a relationship. I will be honest from personal experience. I cheated on a boyfriend once and it was one of the worst things I have ever done in my life. I was so sick with guilt and sadness after. & to make things the worst, I hurt my partner. I was literally either crying or getting sick for days afterward. I will never cheat again nor do I hope to ever be cheated on..
 
hah! just make sure you have sex with the lights on, if this girl is deceitful in an exclusive relationship who knows what she would lie to you about
 
be careful!

Lysis said:
And the herp is just another way to say "I love you."
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haha.. thats awesome lol.. but on another note .. if you got cheated on by your girl .. and you got mad at the guy and asked him "how your D**K tasted" .. you sleeping with her would put you in that same exact situation, right? Do what you want just make sure you get the whole story before you lay the pipe. Enjoy!!:p =D
 
Why should anyone be oppressed by a commitment they had no part in making? I have been reading about "free love" online and I have seen the light so to speak. There is no possible way that having sex with someone who has a boyfriend could be wrong.
 
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