Schrei
Bluelighter
Oh, Also, theres always going to be something you dont like about someone, even in real life, but that doesnt mean harass them about it. You should use common sense.
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rocketqueen
Bluelighter
If you are harassing someone you are a bully. The way in which you do it (anonymously) also makes you a coward. You gets no love from me or, apparently the mods here at Bluelight, as it should be. Good for BL for taking a stand against this sort of behavior.
ocean
Bluelight Crew
^Yeah. People find hiding behind a phone or a computer easy. ![:\](https://bluelight.org/xf/BL_Images/Orig_Emoji/wrygrin.gif "wry grin :\")
We also wanted to make sure you all know you have the REPORT function in your PM's now.
PM Abuse is against the BLUA.
If you have anyone harassing you, being inappropriate, rude or displaying any type of behavior that makes you uncomfortable- Please reach out.
Either Report the PM or PM a Mod, Smod or Admin to make us aware of the situation!!
We also wanted to make sure you all know you have the REPORT function in your PM's now.
PM Abuse is against the BLUA.
If you have anyone harassing you, being inappropriate, rude or displaying any type of behavior that makes you uncomfortable- Please reach out.
Either Report the PM or PM a Mod, Smod or Admin to make us aware of the situation!!
Fixed5217
Bluelighter
and this is why I like bluelight. It is more or less a place where people come to give back 
entheoJIM
Greenlighter
"Hurt People HURT People" I find it particularly challenging to tolerate intolerant Folk. I'm grateful to have lived long enough to grow to see the irony and be thoughtful and kind when someone really pisses me off
panic in paradise
Bluelighter
"You said that irony was the shackles of youth"
REM
psyyk
Greenlighter
I agree 100%. TDS is an area of Bluelight where members should be able to come and get out what is bugging them. This IS a harm reduction site, and it really is unfortunate that some people find themselves above others, just because they may not be sucking puddle water up in their sharp that's been used WHO KNOWS how many times, to get their fix anymore.
Bluelight has helped me in so many ways, and if it wasn't for all the awesome support given out but key members of this forum, I wouldn't be here today. Here here to keeping TDS the supporting refuge that it should be. Great post n30
Vaya
Bluelight Crew
^qft
along with "Misery loves company." Too true.
Luckily, we appear to be a vigilant bunch and I have faith we can pretty much stamp it out. Most TDS'ers are on it when it happens like a fly on poo.
I dig that.
~ Vaya
Swings
Greenlighter
TDS wan't the first part of BL that I discovered, but it was definitely the first to catch my attention. I would spent many hours scrolling through TDS, smiling at the inspiration and support, crying at some of the stories, but being uplifted by many of their results. This place was special to me long before I registered, and it makes me sad to see my new safe haven being attacked by trolls. 
Vaya
Bluelight Crew
TDS wan't the first part of BL that I discovered, but it was definitely the first to catch my attention. I would spent many hours scrolling through TDS, smiling at the inspiration and support, crying at some of the stories, but being uplifted by many of their results. This place was special to me long before I registered, and it makes me sad to see my new safe haven being attacked by trolls.
Swings, if you see this happening currently, I implore you to contact myself, any other member of The Dark Side staff, TDS senior moderators or administrators about the issue. Reporting posts does wonders and we catch them in moments that way.
If you have any suggestions regarding how we might improve the functionality of this community as you once remembered it, I would also strongly encourage you to contact one (or all) of us so that appropriate action may be taken.
This is meant to be a safe place. We accepted roles as moderators in order to keep it as such. We are, blessedly or otherwise, merely human, though. By working as a collective, you can significantly help to ensure that mutual respect remains at the forefront of our mission and presentation.
Thank you for your comments
~ Vaya
Darksidesam
Bluelight Crew
Report the PM's but continue your Job Mods + Caring darksiders, your job is one of the most important on bluelight!
Drugs do fuck you up, and if your suicidal, if your not careful you can end up in a spirally doom of no hope and consider taking your life. I am disgusted that abusive has been fired at these people who give up their free time to help people out of bad/tight situations and need someone to talk to / listen.
Shame on the people responsible,
Drugs do fuck you up, and if your suicidal, if your not careful you can end up in a spirally doom of no hope and consider taking your life. I am disgusted that abusive has been fired at these people who give up their free time to help people out of bad/tight situations and need someone to talk to / listen.
Shame on the people responsible,
TDS gave me a reason to find help. TY. (repost from sticky just so you all know.)
Tuesday the 29th I am going to apply for medical front office schools to retrain. When I went to the dr he doubled my cymbalta and I think that may have made suicide come alive for me.
That's over.
I'm going to retrain. I don't care if I have to take a loan. It's better than leaving my grandbabies. Loans are
compared to my children, and their precious babies.
I had enough to this limbo shit.
It's 1:44 a.m. now. My alarm is set extra loud for 8 a.m I will be ready to go to all the "career colleges" and find the best one for the best price and I am CHANGING MY WHOLE CAREER. Fuck teaching anyway. It isn't teaching anymore. It is all about test prep and test scores. Fuck that noise.
It is weird because I dreamed all my life of being a teacher. Well, I was a teacher. It didn't work out. I'm very disappointed and I wish everything was different but I have options.
(My friend best friend, a remarkable woman, was somehow able to make me really listen to her until it made total sense to me.) I may not get into a school for retraining. I may not ever be a Medical front office worker. I am going to give this 110%. I have to keep on trucking. Thank you, Dark Side, for telling me to talk to someone. I DID.
I'm changing my career because the fed gov said no more unemployment checks in California for people on their fourth tier (Even though they told me, and I have paperwork, that I had $almost 8000 left in legal federal extension money. That's about 100,000 California's that have been totally cut off from all income, so expect bills and mortgages to be completely unable to be paid. Imagine the cold hearted people in the Fed Gov. SHAMEFUL. AND I'm not the only one. But I'll be the first one in tomorrow for a career change. (It's almost the Feds want California to just, you know, empty out!!!)
My best friend (mentioned above) told me that a good friend of both of ours was going over to her and her family's house and he got shot. Mexicans shot him. (He is Black.) He was right in front of my best friend's house when it happened. They caught the Mexicans who said he was not targeted. They just felt like shooting a "N word" randomly in the dark. He is alive, luckily but he will require care for probably the rest of his life.
CAN'T ANYONE MAKE THIS WORLD A BETTER PLACE???? WHAT A MESS! Two (Black) young men were killed last January 5 just for being Black. The police caught the suspects a year later. They were Mexican. Who is going to fix this? The presidential candidates? 8) What is wrong with us? Mexicans and Blacks in SO. Cal. are very serious about the violence and can't anything be done?
Tuesday the 29th I am going to apply for medical front office schools to retrain. When I went to the dr he doubled my cymbalta and I think that may have made suicide come alive for me.
That's over.
I'm going to retrain. I don't care if I have to take a loan. It's better than leaving my grandbabies. Loans are
compared to my children, and their precious babies.I had enough to this limbo shit.
It's 1:44 a.m. now. My alarm is set extra loud for 8 a.m I will be ready to go to all the "career colleges" and find the best one for the best price and I am CHANGING MY WHOLE CAREER. Fuck teaching anyway. It isn't teaching anymore. It is all about test prep and test scores. Fuck that noise.
It is weird because I dreamed all my life of being a teacher. Well, I was a teacher. It didn't work out. I'm very disappointed and I wish everything was different but I have options.
(My friend best friend, a remarkable woman, was somehow able to make me really listen to her until it made total sense to me.) I may not get into a school for retraining. I may not ever be a Medical front office worker. I am going to give this 110%. I have to keep on trucking. Thank you, Dark Side, for telling me to talk to someone. I DID.
I'm changing my career because the fed gov said no more unemployment checks in California for people on their fourth tier (Even though they told me, and I have paperwork, that I had $almost 8000 left in legal federal extension money. That's about 100,000 California's that have been totally cut off from all income, so expect bills and mortgages to be completely unable to be paid. Imagine the cold hearted people in the Fed Gov. SHAMEFUL. AND I'm not the only one. But I'll be the first one in tomorrow for a career change. (It's almost the Feds want California to just, you know, empty out!!!)
My best friend (mentioned above) told me that a good friend of both of ours was going over to her and her family's house and he got shot. Mexicans shot him. (He is Black.) He was right in front of my best friend's house when it happened. They caught the Mexicans who said he was not targeted. They just felt like shooting a "N word" randomly in the dark. He is alive, luckily but he will require care for probably the rest of his life.
CAN'T ANYONE MAKE THIS WORLD A BETTER PLACE???? WHAT A MESS! Two (Black) young men were killed last January 5 just for being Black. The police caught the suspects a year later. They were Mexican. Who is going to fix this? The presidential candidates? 8) What is wrong with us? Mexicans and Blacks in SO. Cal. are very serious about the violence and can't anything be done?
The moderators and senior staff of The Dark Side are above all else, down to earth, loving, and caring people.
Thanks for keeping this place as quality and secure as it gets.
You, Cpt. H, and Herbavore, were instrumental in helping me get help. My eternal soul thanks you.
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Vaya
Bluelight Crew
^This is incredible news, ugly. I'm so glad you've found the inspiration to implement significant change in your life!! How did your appointment go, if I may ask?
~ Vaya
~ Vaya
Perceived harassment may or may not be deemed actual harassment by the moderator, depending on the forum. I'm not sure if it has been mentioned yet, but Bluelight makes it possible to ignore someone.
Feeling harassed? Ignore the person. His or her posts won't show up on your screen anymore. I do not know if it is possible to ignore PMs though.
Some people are mean even though they believe themselves to be way awesome.
Some acrimonious people enjoy making other people feel bad but deny their intent if confronted.
Ignore acrimonious people and focus on the goodnatured BLers, which most are.
Feeling harassed? Ignore the person. His or her posts won't show up on your screen anymore. I do not know if it is possible to ignore PMs though.
Some people are mean even though they believe themselves to be way awesome.
Some acrimonious people enjoy making other people feel bad but deny their intent if confronted.
Ignore acrimonious people and focus on the goodnatured BLers, which most are.
I am enrolled for classes. Come August I will be learning to be a pharmacy technician. The last four years of reading BL has made me more interested in the field than ever.
I do not feel suicidal anymore. I believe this is mostly due to scaling back my antidepressants. I informed my doctor that my very foul sour mood towards life worsened drastically after he upped my dose. We both learned something.
It feels good to be able to meditate again without death being my strongest thought.
It feels good not to be crying almost uncontrollably.
It feels good to feel good.
Tryptamine*Dreamer
Ex-Bluelighter
It's a real shame that anyone would harass folks here on The Dark Side, people who have serious problems. Some of the people here are even very suicidal and the last thing they need is someone harassing and being abusive to them.
I was in a very dark place maybe ten days ago and I really wanted to end my life. This was at the peak of a severe episode of depression. I'd been thinking of suicide for at least a month. I was put on an SSRI a couple of weeks earlier and my dose was doubled 3 or 4 days before I posted in the suicide support thread. I became more suicidal due to the increased dose. I was really on the edge even going to get what I needed to carry out my plan only to back out at the last minute.
If someone had been abusive toward me in any way that hurt my feelings or made me feel worse about myself I really believe it could have pushed me over the edge and given me the emotional jolt I needed to make it easy for me to end my life. When I partially gathered things and was getting prepared for my exit, both my mom and my 15 year old nephew had inadvertently hurt my feelings. If I had not been able to talk to them about it I think I would have got the one last thing I needed for my method of choice and gone through with it. I may have done so anyway if they hadn't explained to me that they meant something entirely different from what I thought (I just took it the wrong way). If I continued thinking they meant it the way I took it I would most likely be dead because I found what they said to be hurtful and it made me feel more worthless and bad about myself.
If someone on here had been hurtful to me at that time it could have easily led me to take my own life, especially since I'd think they really meant what they said and there would be no talking things out with them. Maybe it sounds stupid to all of you that unkind and hurtful words from a complete stranger sent to me online could have given me the strength and extra emotional pain I needed to end it. Just keep in mind that I had already decided that I was going to commit suicide in the fairly near future and I knew exactly how I was going to do it. In that state it doesn't take much to drive someone to suicide since you already know you are going to take your life soon. Maybe everyone else is different but I have made several attempts to end it and I know what has pushed me to and even over the brink.
I just hope nobody else in the state I was in gets any kind of hurtful or demeaning messages because if that person reacts as strongly as I do to that sort of thing it could easily be like the final nail in the coffin for them.
Since I wrote about being suicidal so recently, I should probably tell you how I am now. In just about a week I went from severe agitated depression with severe suicidal ideation with a specific plan to not feeling depressed at all. I am doing better now than I have in probably over a year. So there is no need to worry about me now.
For those who aren't familiar with agitated depression, it is a type of depression that is frequently very severe with a high risk of suicide. I wasn't formally diagnosed with it as I did not really talk about it to any mental health experts but the description of it is pretty much exactly what I was going through. Wikipedia defines it as a major depressive episode with superimposed hypomanic symptoms. The only mental state I have experienced that is as bad or maybe worse than agitated depression is psychotic depression which is uncommon, affecting about 1 in 250 people. During my first episode of psychotic depression, I almost killed my mom, my now 15 year old nephew, and myself by swerving in front of an 18 wheeler when a voice told me to do it. The voice sounded very urgent and desperate and I was like a mindless robot at that moment with no thoughts in my head, just the voice. My mom grabbed the wheel and swerved out of the way.
I would like more than anything to make the world a better place but I do not have the power to do so. I wish I could. If I could make the lives of just a few people or animals better it would make me happy. Or if I could bring happiness to someone else.
In the highly unlikely event that I finish college and I find someone stupid enough to give me a job when I finish, I could actually be in a good position to help animals and make some of their lives better.
You were talking about murders also. So many people are just filled with hate like in the case you mentioned and there are some who kill because they just enjoy killing. People can be so cruel and evil. There is nothing we can do to stop it. The only real hope for ridding the world of the hate and racism that led to those murders lies in the hands of the children. Unfortunately, a lot of children are told and tought to hate by the adults in their lives. We just have to hope that those tought to hate by parents and others in their lives learn to love and respect all people regardless of race, religion, sexual orientation, psychiatric problems, and mental or physical disabilities from the positive role models and loving, respectful people outside of their home environment.
I was in a very dark place maybe ten days ago and I really wanted to end my life. This was at the peak of a severe episode of depression. I'd been thinking of suicide for at least a month. I was put on an SSRI a couple of weeks earlier and my dose was doubled 3 or 4 days before I posted in the suicide support thread. I became more suicidal due to the increased dose. I was really on the edge even going to get what I needed to carry out my plan only to back out at the last minute.
If someone had been abusive toward me in any way that hurt my feelings or made me feel worse about myself I really believe it could have pushed me over the edge and given me the emotional jolt I needed to make it easy for me to end my life. When I partially gathered things and was getting prepared for my exit, both my mom and my 15 year old nephew had inadvertently hurt my feelings. If I had not been able to talk to them about it I think I would have got the one last thing I needed for my method of choice and gone through with it. I may have done so anyway if they hadn't explained to me that they meant something entirely different from what I thought (I just took it the wrong way). If I continued thinking they meant it the way I took it I would most likely be dead because I found what they said to be hurtful and it made me feel more worthless and bad about myself.
If someone on here had been hurtful to me at that time it could have easily led me to take my own life, especially since I'd think they really meant what they said and there would be no talking things out with them. Maybe it sounds stupid to all of you that unkind and hurtful words from a complete stranger sent to me online could have given me the strength and extra emotional pain I needed to end it. Just keep in mind that I had already decided that I was going to commit suicide in the fairly near future and I knew exactly how I was going to do it. In that state it doesn't take much to drive someone to suicide since you already know you are going to take your life soon. Maybe everyone else is different but I have made several attempts to end it and I know what has pushed me to and even over the brink.
I just hope nobody else in the state I was in gets any kind of hurtful or demeaning messages because if that person reacts as strongly as I do to that sort of thing it could easily be like the final nail in the coffin for them.
Since I wrote about being suicidal so recently, I should probably tell you how I am now. In just about a week I went from severe agitated depression with severe suicidal ideation with a specific plan to not feeling depressed at all. I am doing better now than I have in probably over a year. So there is no need to worry about me now.
For those who aren't familiar with agitated depression, it is a type of depression that is frequently very severe with a high risk of suicide. I wasn't formally diagnosed with it as I did not really talk about it to any mental health experts but the description of it is pretty much exactly what I was going through. Wikipedia defines it as a major depressive episode with superimposed hypomanic symptoms. The only mental state I have experienced that is as bad or maybe worse than agitated depression is psychotic depression which is uncommon, affecting about 1 in 250 people. During my first episode of psychotic depression, I almost killed my mom, my now 15 year old nephew, and myself by swerving in front of an 18 wheeler when a voice told me to do it. The voice sounded very urgent and desperate and I was like a mindless robot at that moment with no thoughts in my head, just the voice. My mom grabbed the wheel and swerved out of the way.
CAN'T ANYONE MAKE THIS WORLD A BETTER PLACE???? WHAT A MESS!
I would like more than anything to make the world a better place but I do not have the power to do so. I wish I could. If I could make the lives of just a few people or animals better it would make me happy. Or if I could bring happiness to someone else.
In the highly unlikely event that I finish college and I find someone stupid enough to give me a job when I finish, I could actually be in a good position to help animals and make some of their lives better.
You were talking about murders also. So many people are just filled with hate like in the case you mentioned and there are some who kill because they just enjoy killing. People can be so cruel and evil. There is nothing we can do to stop it. The only real hope for ridding the world of the hate and racism that led to those murders lies in the hands of the children. Unfortunately, a lot of children are told and tought to hate by the adults in their lives. We just have to hope that those tought to hate by parents and others in their lives learn to love and respect all people regardless of race, religion, sexual orientation, psychiatric problems, and mental or physical disabilities from the positive role models and loving, respectful people outside of their home environment.
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herbavore
Bluelight Crew
I think that you have more power to make the world a better place than you can even imagine and you are already exercising that power. You are kind, thoughtful and positive. That ripples outwards in ways you cannot even imagine. You writing even these words, as opposed to something rude or hateful or sarcastic, seems a small act but has huge ramifications. You brought me a lot of happiness reading your words!