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To our lovely Dark Siders <3

It has come to our attention recently that there has been a certain level of abusive behaviour going on behind the scenes between certain members via Private Messages. This is truly sneaky because unless the recipients of the abusive PMs come forward and alert a moderator/administrator about what's going on, we have NO idea this is occurring. Regular posters in The Dark Side seem to have been targeted in this particular instance so I would like to take this opportunity to remind you all of a few rules we have here at Bluelight.

Taken from the Bluelight Users Agreement (BLUA), to which everyone agrees if they decide to post on Bluelight:
Rules have been established to protect Bluelight and its members against abuse. Use of Bluelight for any purpose that is unlawful, or in any manner which could impair the operation of this site or any other party's use or enjoyment of this site, is strictly prohibited. Specifically, you may not:
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4. post or upload any content that victimizes, harasses, degrades, or intimidates an individual or group of individuals on the basis of race, ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation or any other reason;
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Abusive behaviour towards other Bluelighters is something we take extremely seriously and will not be tolerated. So please, if you are the victim of any abusive behaviour, whether it's on the public board or via PMs, contact a staff member so we can deal with it accordingly. You will remain anonymous so you don't have to worry about the offender retaliating back at you with more abuse.

Also, here is some useful information taken from the Greenlighter's Guide, which is a comprehensive guide to using the site:
NSFW:
How to deal with annoying people

Help! Someone is doing something that really aggravates me! Can you make them stop?

Are they breaking the Bluelight User Agreement or certain forum guidelines? If so, use the "report" button and bring it to the attention of the moderators. If they are not breaking any rules, it is just a personal issue and you should consider putting them on "ignore". That way you won't have to deal with them again.

How do I put someone on ignore?

*Find a post they made or a message they sent you and click on their name.
*Click on View Public Profile
*Click on 'Add [name] to your ignore list'
Now you will not see their posts or be able to receive PMs from them. Basically you can forget that the aggravating person even exists.

Some random stranger is sending me weird PMs. Help, I think they are stalking me!

If the person is obviously trying to conduct a drug transaction, report it immediately to the administrators. If a stranger is trying to be "too friendly" and is just giving you "odd vibes", do not assume they are trying to buy or sell drugs. Perhaps they are just trying to make a new friend or ask you for dating. You can just delete these random messages. If someone is trying to contact you multiple times, simply put them on ignore and you will not receive any more of their messages. You cannot complain to the administrators that someone is "stalking you" if you continue to willingly open their messages...especially if you continue to send them replies!
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Now, some of the information quoted above might not be relevant to the topic at hand, however it outlines the process by which you can deal with any unsolicited PMs from other members.
Report it to a moderator or administrator! And (optional) place that person on your ignore list.

The Dark Side staff contact list:
Administrators:
ocean
alasdairm
Senior Moderators:
Vaya
Moderators:
RedLeader
Sepher
herbavore
stardust.hero
Re-Distributed
tripnotyzm
spork
SkagKush

Please note that even if you are still only a Greenlighter, you cannot PM other members but you CAN PM staff members.

Take care everyone <3


Links updated February 20, 2013 ~ Re-Dist.
 
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Great post n3o.

Any abusive behaviour should not be tolerated at all, most of all in this part of the site.

I do hope that anyone not involved will feel more inclined to let staff know if this happens to them so the problem can be addressed.

We do not want people afraid to post in TDS for fear of being targeted by a few shit heads.

<3 :D
 
they should make it so you can only PM someone if they've been accepted as a friend.
 
mgmt&mdma said:
they should make it so you can only PM someone if they've been accepted as a friend.
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There already is this option:

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It's in your "User CP" under "Edit Options."

Excellent post, n3o. It's awful to hear some people have been targeted for their posts over here--That's uncalled for.

If you're reading this and have been targeted, seriously, PM one of the higher ups (mod, smod, admin). They'll set things right. :)
 
If I'm allowed to ask, what was being said? I don't mean exact words but... what are the people harassing others about?
 
^It is a general statement really.
We just want everyone to know that if they are being bothered, they can let us know or report it.
We want to keep TDS a friendly, supportive and safe place to talk things out <3
 
Please report anyone who is harassing you in any way shape or form. This is not the intenet of this forum. This is a safe, loving, and fostering environment where we all feel safe and secure. We are here sharing our deepest and darkest parts of ourself for understanding and do not need to have that taken away by anyone. I can only speak for myself, but I need this place. If I didn't I wouldn't be here. I do not want to see this get ruined by a few people who think its funny to "prey" on people in need. If you do not want to be the person to report them, feel free to send me a PM and I will. We need to support each other. <3
 
hard out, Tink, agree.

wanted to add that's absolute ratshit to sink to the point of harassing ppl here, if they had ever actually been or loved an addict, oh the fucking shame. MUPPETS.
 
TINK said:
Please report anyone who is harassing you in any way shape or form. This is not the intenet of this forum. This is a safe, loving, and fostering environment where we all feel safe and secure. We are here sharing our deepest and darkest parts of ourself for understanding and do not need to have that taken away by anyone. I can only speak for myself, but I need this place. If I didn't I wouldn't be here. I do not want to see this get ruined by a few people who think its funny to "prey" on people in need. If you do not want to be the person to report them, feel free to send me a PM and I will. We need to support each other. <3
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^ This is truly sad when TDS has people trolling it. This is such a nice place for good people to share and support one another through very difficult times. Anything taking that away from the board is so hard on the ones that truly need to be heard or get advice. Please know you get what you put out, and this is a place to put out advice and guidance not judgement during anyones hard times whatever they might be. :( <3
 
i jus found this part of the site and its really bomb, its good to get things out...
some ppl r jus to fucked
 
chaultistic said:
<3 We here at Bluelight are here for you, and even though you have many things mixxed up, all of the information is relative, and i should probably seek counseling, But guize i really need some Vyvanse, i just don't understand why i'm so anxious? well anyway.8)
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Everyone suffers from anxiety; this isn't the correct thread to talk about it in though. :)

Have you tried talking to a professional?

You can talk about your anxiety in many other threads, and you can always post a thread in Homeless Threads if you aren't sure where it belongs. :) Just make sure to read the rules before posting directly into a sub-forum for the first time.
 
I <3 tds

TDS was the last forum I discovered on BL.

I didn't find it until I needed it, I was almost lost due to an unexpectedly powerful experience, and TDS appeared from nowhere. Although I didn't post my particular experience here, I read deeply into the forum.

The many stories of tragedy and helplessness, and the even more numerous outpourings of love, caring and support in response to the TDS threads helped me put my experience in perspective and live to fight another day.

I find it simply amazing that someone would be willing and able to attack or discourage a member who has the courage to post their experience of grief and sadness here on TDS.

TDS is a much needed refuge in a very hairy and scary world. Let's please keep it that way.
 
Just a reminder............

Hey TDSers!
We just wanted to bring to your attention the Report Button.

With the Upgrade, it may not be as obvious to everyone......
It's not in the same place, as you may have noticed! :)
If you see a post that is against the Bluelight User Agreement (BLUA), TDS Forum Guidelines, rude, offensive, or if you feel needs the attention of the Moderators- please see the top right hand corner of the post where you will see a symbol like :
report.gif
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If you toggle over it, it says "Report Post".
Click it, you will then be brought to a page that will ask you to enter the reason- you will then here put your reasoning ('rude', triggering', 'against forum guidelines', etc.)

Thanks so much!
 
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