I'm starting to get attactched and she dosen't want anything serious?

[hexagram]

been seeing this girl for a few weeks now (seeing as in meeting up and usually having sex). we always seem to have a really good time, she's told me she likes me and to be fair she does seem too. Recently she's also become slightly more affectionate (cuddling, kissing outside of sex, etc)

However, i'm pretty sure that she also likes a few other people. One of them lives in another city pretty far, but is coming down here in a few weeks. I don't know for sure that she likes them, but I can sort of guess.

Idk though, when i've spoken to her about it she says she dosen't want a relationship, which is fine. But i'm starting to get a bit more emotionally attatched. Idk what is is, i'm beginning to really like her alot. Part of me wonders is she is actually feeling the same, but cause of a shitty situation with her ex she's scared to show it. Or maybe she just dosen't like me as much as I like her.

What should I do anyway? continue to sleep with her and just try my best not to get involved? continue to sleep with her and hope she starts to become more attached? sor just leave it and move on?

 

[Maya]

I think you should be honest with your feelings and talk to her to and see what her reaction would be. If she says no to a relationship then it's time to move on

 

[Pagey]

continue to sleep with her and just try my best not to get involved?

Unfortunately I think that's way too hopeful of you. If you're getting attached now, continuing the same patterns is pretty unlikely to help.
I would speak to her about the whole thing. Don't necessarily tell her about your feelings specifically, just casually ask if she's ever thought about the two of you becoming something more. And if her answer is no, well honestly I would cut my losses and stop seeing her (or at least stop sleeping with her), because otherwise it's just likely to hurt even more in the long run

 

[Serotonin101]

if she doesn't see the two of you together, get out of the sexual aspect of it. all you would be doing is causing additional pain as you fall more for her and realize its not going to go anywhere. its hard when you have to use your brain to cockblock your heart but sometimes its what you gotta do... I'm trade marking that statement btw so anyone who uses that, make sure to give yours truly credit where its due.

 

[llama112]

Yeah, you're likely going to continue getting attached if you keep sleeping with her.
Try just being honest with her and talking to her.

 

[hexagram]

it's hard to turn down regular sex with an attractive girl who you like haha, even if it is for the best in the long run.

I dunno, I definitely don't want some really serious relationship at all, but I am growing to like her in a more than just sexual way. She did say actually (don't know how true this is) that she wouldn't sleep with anyone else while she was seeing me, but that she didn't want anything serious.

 

[Maya]

it's hard to turn down regular sex with an attractive girl who you like haha, even if it is for the best in the long run.

I dunno, I definitely don't want some really serious relationship at all, but I am growing to like her in a more than just sexual way. She did say actually (don't know how true this is) that she wouldn't sleep with anyone else while she was seeing me, but that she didn't want anything serious.

I was actually in this type of agreement before... twice lolls just know your boundaries I guess and if you cant try not to fall for each other then its all good

 

[Pagey]

it's hard to turn down regular sex with an attractive girl who you like haha, even if it is for the best in the long run.

I dunno, I definitely don't want some really serious relationship at all, but I am growing to like her in a more than just sexual way. She did say actually (don't know how true this is) that she wouldn't sleep with anyone else while she was seeing me, but that she didn't want anything serious.

Of course it's hard to turn down, but you just have to figure out whether it'll be worth most likely ending up quite hurt in the end.
I had a couple FWB-type relationships that ended on a bit of a sour note because the guy wanted more and I wanted to stick to the original plan. It comes between the friendship as well, eventually, and it just...isn't nice. Best to cut your losses IMO, but as I said, it's just up to you to decide whether it's worth it or not.

 

[dopemaster]

Well your gonna have to see things for what they are. She was honest with you. If you continue to sleep with her, she may leave you. I dont think she will develop stronger feelings or at least I wouldnt get my hopes up. If it was me I suppose I would have sex with her and not be surprised if she ended things. But to do that and not get hurt you have to truly be ok with that. Its gonna hurt regardless even if you tell yourself it wont. That being said FWB/fuck buddy situations are good sometimes. Other woman will know your having sex with her and it will elavate your status among local women. It doesnt hurt to practice and its downright fun to fuck. If she says she doesnt want a relationship she is politely saying she doesnt want a relationship with you. That doesnt mean she doesnt want to fuck. It just means its not going anywhere. Shes being honest, so at least shes being fair. Its up to you as to what you want. Just know what you are signing up for.