socko
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I wish all you dudes who like the cockaroo would stop claiming you're straight. You're not! It's annoying.
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Im a straight 23yo and i really want to suck dick
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SKL
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2 possibilities
(i) you are, in fact, not straight; some would argue that if you are interested in sucking dick, you are, eo ipso, gay, this is not necessarily accurate in today's nomenclature, bisexual, bicurious, whatever, this means that you need to explore whether this is something you are willing to particpate in, or whether it is something which (e.g. on cultural or religious grounds) you need to stay away from; in clinical terms the former is "ego-syntonic" and the former is "ego-dystonic" homosexuality, in a slightly less P.C. age (but yet still after the age in which homosexuality was inherently pathologized) the latter would warrant some kind of therapy if it were sufficiently distressing, not necessarily, as many would maintain, geared towards "accceptance" of one's more base drives, but rather, to integrate one's own sexuality with your needs and your values; or
(ii) you are a victim of pornography, which tends to draw it's viewers into increasingly escalated phantastical situations in terms of deviancy, and homosexual activity/activity with an incomplete (dunno the P.C. terminology) trannsexual is pretty far out there, which means that you've escalated beyond more normal types of stimulation, which means probably that you'd ought to take a break from porn and explore some measures related to it's excessive use
(i) you are, in fact, not straight; some would argue that if you are interested in sucking dick, you are, eo ipso, gay, this is not necessarily accurate in today's nomenclature, bisexual, bicurious, whatever, this means that you need to explore whether this is something you are willing to particpate in, or whether it is something which (e.g. on cultural or religious grounds) you need to stay away from; in clinical terms the former is "ego-syntonic" and the former is "ego-dystonic" homosexuality, in a slightly less P.C. age (but yet still after the age in which homosexuality was inherently pathologized) the latter would warrant some kind of therapy if it were sufficiently distressing, not necessarily, as many would maintain, geared towards "accceptance" of one's more base drives, but rather, to integrate one's own sexuality with your needs and your values; or
(ii) you are a victim of pornography, which tends to draw it's viewers into increasingly escalated phantastical situations in terms of deviancy, and homosexual activity/activity with an incomplete (dunno the P.C. terminology) trannsexual is pretty far out there, which means that you've escalated beyond more normal types of stimulation, which means probably that you'd ought to take a break from porn and explore some measures related to it's excessive use
pofacedhoe
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a lot of bi men call themselves straight as in the public label they put on their sexual behaviour.
realdeal13
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alot of men just like having their cock sucked,, i admit i use to go to video and go to a booth put on a porn and pick who i would let suck my cock,,, then it turned, i saw buddies cock while pissing in back yard during barbeque ,, i sneaked to him late that morning and pulled out his cock and sucked it like i liked mine to be ,,,,it was exciting ,
realdeal13
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and yea i struggled with it,,,, but not huring anyone and being safe,,,, and realizing im bi and its ok
JessFR
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I find illogical terminology annoying.
For example. If a self proclaimed straight guy does a homosexual act, he's gay.
Is a self proclaimed gay guy does a heterosexual act, he's.... Still a gay guy.
It doesn't make sense.
For that matter, even if a guy bas 20 years of experiences with women, and one gag experience, he's not able to claim to be straight.
If a gay guy has 20 years of being with men and then has sex with a woman, he's still gay, can't really claim to be bi, since it may only be one straight encounter ever.
It doesn't follow in a consistent way.
CfZrx
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What if it smells like balls,lol ??
Wraiven
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Then you do not understand what it means to be straight. I'm straight. The very thought of giving a man head or letting a man give me head makes me sick to the stomach. It would NEVER happen under ANY circumstance. There would never even be a "one time." So yes, you do it one time you are not straight. I don't know what to tell you what you are...but I can tell you that you are NOT straight. I understand that you are confused and you don't understand why doing it one single time makes you gay, but let me assure you...as a straight person, I can very much assure you that just doing it one single time instantaneously strikes you from being straight. That is what being straight means. Straight is not, "I want to be straight today, but gay tomorrow." Straight is, "Yuk, the very thought of being with the same sex makes me want to puke!"
Don Quixote
Bluelighter
Lol,
Wraiven, i find the one thing that has kept me coming back here, in my brief and recent resurgence to SLR, are your posts.
Your black and white view of the world is very interesting, if not comical. Please keep it up sir.
@OP, you may just be confused, experimenting etc... you may ultimately be straight if you decide it is just a stage and not for you. You may ultimately be homosexual if you decide to preference males predominantly, and you may be one of (or many) of a swathe of definitions between those two extremes. Ultimately, as others have said, these are just titles. You are not what some middle aged person on the internet says you are, nor what anyone else defines you as. Ultimately it doesn't really matter what you are, as you'll be that thing anyway.
Don't let people define you and don't let people shame you by giving you some false impression of scarcity or isolation by stating definitively that you are NOT something. (in fact, by saying you are not, you may indeed come closer to what you are. This feeds back into the first part of the post, check out Karl Popper, who basically says that we can never know the answer to anything, but solely come closer to it by defining what cannot be, through experimentation).
Just let yourself be. And whatever you become, or choose to be/define yourself as, be safe and strap that shit with a rubber.
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Wraiven
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Glad I could do my part in keeping people coming back. They should put me on the payroll.
Just to make clear, being straight is black and white. It's when people indulge in the same sex aspect of sexuality is when it becomes confusing as to what your sexual orientation is. Straight is the far left of the sexual spectrum while absolute homosexual would be the other. It sounds like to me this gentleman is somewhere between the middle and straight. He is not however straight. I would say bisexual while leaning toward straight.
I don't mean to be so black and white about things, however, on some small amount of subjects I can be rather black and white. So I understand how you can perceive me as being such. For an example, there was a thread started here about abortion. You can find my post there and see that I am actually very much in the grey on that topic.
Don Quixote
Bluelighter
I just don't understand how the answer can be so definite yet people so confused?
A person may very well not be straight, and indeed i see the homo/hetero as the two extremes of the bandwidth too, but that world view you hold of 'even once' doesn't allow for any experimentation or questioning of one's sexuality.
I didn't know i liked tomatoes or oysters until i tried them, you see.
Chances are the fellow's not 'straight' and somewhere mid-spectrum, i'm more questioning the black and white.
A person may very well not be straight, and indeed i see the homo/hetero as the two extremes of the bandwidth too, but that world view you hold of 'even once' doesn't allow for any experimentation or questioning of one's sexuality.
I didn't know i liked tomatoes or oysters until i tried them, you see.
Chances are the fellow's not 'straight' and somewhere mid-spectrum, i'm more questioning the black and white.
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Wraiven
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I never needed to experiment to know I wouldn't like messing around with men. The very thought honestly grosses me out. When you say that you are questioning the "black and white" of me saying that anyone who experiments are not completely straight, that would be no different than telling a completely gay lesbian that you can't understand her black and white and how does she know she is completely lesbian unless she tries out men. I know an absolute lesbian. She has never nor will she ever be with a man. The very thought of being with a man is a complete turn off for her and she gags at the thought. I don't question that because she knows who she is.
Since I am absolute heterosexual, I know what it is to be heterosexual. Now if somebody wants to say that they are heterosexual but they had to experiment in order to figure that out, then a new class of sexual orientation is required to differentiate the difference between those of us who never needed to explore the same sex to know we are heterosexual or those who did.
When I tell somebody I am straight, I don't desire the follow up question to be, "Did you ever sleep with men?" That would be offensive...especially after I just told them I was straight. So if men who have experimented with other men, or have thoughts of experimenting with other men wish to call themselves straight, then I would appreciate a new classification that shows the difference between those men and men who always knew they were straight without any curiosity toward the same sex. The same would apply to women as well of course, I simply only included men since I myself am a man.
Hopefully this helps you understand why I am so black and white about the word "straight" when it is applied to sexual preferences or orientation.
blazeyy
Greenlighter
Yep lol
blazeyy
Greenlighter
Do what you think is best man you're probably a little bisexual, the first stage is not battling with it, gotta admit it to yourself instead of fighting it off, but that's just my opinion the battle begins in your own head so that's what you need to be sorting out, i'm not gay but i did do shit with mates when i was like 10 so you might not even be bisexual, just curious, gotta work it out bro or ull end up a mess
socko
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here was a former famous bluelighter zoophile who explained it like this:
Laying one brick does not make you a bricklayer, but fsck one dog and you will be known as a dog fscker for life.
Laying one brick does not make you a bricklayer, but fsck one dog and you will be known as a dog fscker for life.
badcompany83
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I understand When I get spun all I want is to have a big fat cock to suck on all night!