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If friends stop talkin to you because you get high are they real friends ?

what i mean is that even tho ive been around clean ppl that hasnt kept me clean beacuse every time i try to kick on my own i cant stand the withdrawal and end up. using.
 
jake99 said:
what i mean is that even tho ive been around clean ppl that hasnt kept me clean beacuse every time i try to kick on my own i cant stand the withdrawal and end up. using.
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Again that's addiction. Unless you're willing to overcome it you will become clean. If you will let addiction rule you then you can say bye bye to sobriety. I know I can get clean if I want to and I have but now I could careless. I'm going to get high. Yet if you have the mind set that you can quit the drugs you will. It will be hard but with help from others nothing is impossible. Seriously I am seventeen no one knows half the shit I'm using and I battle addiction alone. My mom is clueless...if I can get clean then I think you can. Even if it means you're crying and in pain because you need to use but again say no. In time the "pain" and want will go away.

Keep trying and you will fail. Yes I said will but again this is the road to getting clean. It won't be a smooth ride from here on...you will have obstacles but if you're willing to overcome them you will succeed.
 
My friends know I use dope and while they know its not good they don't ignore or avoid me. They accept that I use and see that I am the same person. I'm lucky to have friends like them and by friends I don't mean fellow junkies but friends from long before I started using. Power to you bro, if you really wanna quit you'll find the power to within yourself and god will give you any extra you need.
 
Key to recovery I believe is disassociating yourself from users. Delete any one and I mean any persons number from your contacts that is associated with your use. If you can't will yourself to quit then consider the potentially that you may need to ask a higher power to help you. Whether it be a placebo effect or divine intervention but recovery aided by faith seems to be more effective than recovery without. Best of luck bro, I'm gonna pray for you.
 
It really depends on the situation and their reasons for not talking to you. If they are doing it because they are concerned about your health and want you to hit your rock bottom so that you can get better then I think its fine.

On the other hand, if they just are prejudice against drug user and that drugs make you less important and beneath them then I would say they are not true friends.
 
i spend more time with clean ppl and even if im not around any users i use by myself.................the dope sickness is just so terrible and bringing yourself to tell everyone your a junkie is so hard
 
Why tell them that you have relapsed? Keep it to yourself..

People who don't use no need to tell them, ur friends that use or that don't care u can tell. U should have to know who to tell and who not to tell..
 
well when ppl want to help u in aa or n.a. you feel shitty lying to them.................
 
Some people can't accept drug use , but if your using is spilling over onto other people then it's not their fault . Sometimes we don't realize were affecting other people by over-doing it
 
Yes. Even though I can't talk to some people anymore these days, I've still got mad love for them. They will always be friends and have a special place in my heart. I understand that not talking to them may certainly seem like I don't care about them, but I care more about them than my friends that don't get high. As hard as I try, I can't forget what it was like to be in that struggle and the people that were there for me when I needed them most. I still talk to some from time to time and I always try to let them know how much care. Friends and recovery are tricky. When I was in my active addiction, I felt the same way about people that stopped talking to me. It made me hate them, I felt like they were shitty friends and It really fucked with me. I realized one day that you've gotta respect a friends desire to get clean. IMO If your really their friend (and I mean really their friend) not talking to them shows that you care about them enough that you don't want them to be around it anymore. All I can do these days is hope for the best. I've lost touch with many friends because of what I did in the past and even though I'm now sober, healing broken friendships takes time.
 
Their are maybe two people I would talk to who occasionally use roxis - but that is now - after the treatment I'm going go though I may change this outlook. I am HOPING my close friend who is tryig to kick will be clean by the time I am back.

Jake frankly I don't think you should concern yourself with oher peoples thoughts and how the treat you - NUMBER ONE has got to be YOU - otherwise my man, it repeats and repeats. I will PM you soon as I can but bro trust me our lenght /use - it's gonna take TIME to figure out how to relive life on it's own term.
 
If you are still at a point in life where you are struggling with cravings/getting clean for good, please take it from me: you have to cut out any people who are using around you. If they are using drugs you don't have a problem with, like if you aren't bothered by someone having a glass of wine with dinner, or with someone else who just smokes cannabis, these are OK friends to have.

If you have a problem with using heroin and other opiates, don't have any friends in your life who are recreational opiate users. It is not going to benefit you.

Yet others are going to have a problem with people who are using any drugs if they have to give up their drug of choice. If you're one of these people, don't have friends who use drugs, which might be even harder to accomplish given how many people are taking medicine these days, but it's not impossible.

Some people may stop talking to you because you're a drug user, and that may be because they don't want to relapse themselves, or maybe they just have an incorrect attitude/belief of drug users. Nonetheless, I wouldn't take it personally.
 
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