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i want to quit but...

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stimutant

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im 27 now, spent 14 years with drugs. i missed quite a big part of my youth and my development because of that...

im now at a point where the negatives are MUCH bigger thann the positives and i really want to quit drugs. but, theres not uch else im interested in. ok, thers music, which will alwys be a great thing to me, but thats not enough to fill 7 days a week...
also i donbt know how get to know new people, or new activities/interests. (and often im way to paranoid to do anything, anyway, because of the drugs...)

what can i do?


the quitting itself is not so much the problem, as is the hole that comes after it....
 
You should take a look at this website. You can see what's going on in your area and just drop in on a meetup but not necessarily go back if you feel like it's something you wouldn't be interested in.

Are you going to go through NA/AA type thing? If so you could meet a lot of people that way and see what kinds of things interest them. I'd suggest just trying a bunch of different activities and you should soon figure out what interests you and what doesn't.

Kudos to you for quitting and knowing that you need to find some new interests other than drugs to remain sober. Much strength and love. <3
 
.Drugs make your world really small, and its really scary to think of facing everything, experiencing life and trying new things without drugs but holy shit! its so much better. please get help and take it day by day..dont think too hard about living a sober life and how you will manage the future, just get out of bed sober, then take a walk sober, break it down into smaller, daily goals that are less overwhelming!! you CAN do it
 
thank you, you two.
spork youre absolutely right about NA, somehow i always forget them there 3 meetings/week in my city, so thats a great advice. nevcer heard of meetup before, gonna check that out now!
 
yeah I find that when I check out events/classes/meetings in my city, I realize all the things I've wanted to do but never did. I discovered many hobbies, interests and skills that way.
 
its just getting worse and worse....im totally depressed, lieing in bed all day. nothing seems to be worth done, all i can think of is i´ll relapse, soon, anyways. i feel to fucked up to get a job (and keep it), im to lethargic to communicate with friends and/or family.......i dont know how to get out of this hole.
there are moments where suicide seems tom be an option.............fuck
 
i got 2 really good friends here that care about me a lot but i dont have the energy to do anything with them...theyre visiting me pretty often but i dont think theyll do that forever as they must feel as if i was annoyed by them...
 
I'm sorry you're feeling this way, stimutant. How long have you been sober now?

If you just hold out for a while and hang on, I think you're going to be feeling a lot better. You also have A LOT of people in TDS that are here to support you throughout all of this. I know it's hard to stay strong, but by quitting you've shown you really want to. It'll get better, I promise. <3

Feel free to PM me if you ever need someone to talk to.
 
thanx spork, that means a lot to me!
i´m sober (not counting cannabis..) for 6 days now.......
 
Hang in there brother. You are not alone. This will be a fight for you. But you can do it, and when you come out the other side and go through the long road of learning to live life sober, you'll discover there's a whole new world you could have never imagined existed.

You might consider a book or two on living life sober. It's normal for someone like you (and me) to not know how to live life sober. We have to relearn fucking everything, but it's very rewarding once it starts.

Be strong, and be kind to yourself.

I'll be thinking of you,

podsnomo
 
stimutant said:
its just getting worse and worse....im totally depressed, lieing in bed all day. nothing seems to be worth done, all i can think of is i´ll relapse, soon, anyways. i feel to fucked up to get a job (and keep it), im to lethargic to communicate with friends and/or family.......i dont know how to get out of this hole.
there are moments where suicide seems tom be an option.............fuck
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You should try to remember that this is temporary. It's normal to feel like shit after you quit using drugs. Your brain needs to get used to finding more normal activities entertaining. That's been my experience anyway :)

There are lots of great tips in this thread, a big part of this is also going to be patience while your brain returns to homeostasis.
 
yeah what makes me feel so hopeless is that even after being clean & in therapy for 6 months my mental state didnt improve....but youre right today is already a bit brighter than yesterday....i just have to hang on.

thanks to everyone again!
 
Yep, right now it's about the little things. One day at a go. Meditate some each day. Exercise some each day, even if it's just a few pushups, anything is better than nothing. And start noticing, without worrying about the future, what gives even a little joy. These little joys will grow, branch out, and become a full life eventually. But it does take time. Fucking time, man, an addict's worst enemy and best friend.

Make it your best friend. I'm in your corner bro.

best to ya,
pnm

stimutant said:
yeah what makes me feel so hopeless is that even after being clean & in therapy for 6 months my mental state didnt improve....but youre right today is already a bit brighter than yesterday....i just have to hang on.

thanks to everyone again!
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enjoyed a major breakdown involving the paramedics & the cops at my home today, will go to detox tomorrow.
 
Yeah its horribler I lost allot of freinds though drugs. its aful :/ Well if you can look for a job that takes up allot of time. Then go to some sociaal sports or fitness group. YOu have to fill the hole that drugs took up in your life with something postive you might wanna meet a woman that you casn love or maye just a joyfull thing youll notiuce after a while when your atleast half way back to nmnormal that everythnig is just getting better :)
 
x/

i´ve been in a good modd last week, 3 days without acohol, finally managed it to go to the ambulant therapy, applied for a (mini-)job, and what happens?

i´m sent a gram of penta i havent asked for. and im so dumb to "try it out just once", in the end i finished 500mg´s of it, now im paranoid & depressive again.

FUCK!!!
 
get a job once your sober, it takes up a lot of time, you meet coworkers, and you meet other people through work... just my opion
 
i try! my mood has improved quite a bit. relapses happen and theyre part of the healing process. nonetheless this one was totally stupid & could still kick my own ass for being so dumb. could just have binned/flushed that shit.
 
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