I TRIED living a normal life

resiN-

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Going to school.. putting applications in for a job.. chilling with family..
but its all... so fucking BORING.
I dont know I love chilling with friends.. hot boxing the shit out of their car as we drive down the freeway, going party jumping, spitting game and talking shit to hoes. Im in love with every part of the lifestyle. I cant go to school without ditching. I cant put applications in without hitting up my homies scopping out what their up to.. and chilling with the family.. its just fucking boring. I dont know if this from all the drugs i've done or what but a normal life doesnt appeal to me. I dont know what to do.. any advice or ppl in a similar situation??
 
How old are you man? I don't mean to sounds condescending, but this kind of stuff tends to "sort itself out" as you grow older. When I was 18, I thought chillin with my homies was the best thing ever. I am 22 now and I still think it's the best thing ever (especially rolling with old buddies from HS!), but now I also understand that I have to get a good job and be able to find support a family sometime in the future. And in general, I am starting to see some benefits of leading a "normal" life. Sure I still think my parents are boring as hell, but in some ways I understand them a lot better than when I was 18.

So don't let such thoughts get to you. They will pass. Just try and give some time into things that you feel might be important for you later in life. You might not enjoy doing these things, but if you do feel the need to engage in them - that means on some level you do care about these things, right?

"Nothing lasts... nothing lasts. Everything is changing into something else. Nothing's wrong. Nothing is wrong. Everything is on track. William Blake said nothing is lost and I believe that we all move on." =D
 
Let me guess, you're in high school? Life ends up being about a lot more than chilling with friends, talking shit to hos (by the way, a "hoe" is a garden tool), and ditching class. It's hard for a younger person to understand this though as a teenager's ability to see in the future is usually quite slim because they only focus on the here and the now.

I'm not talking down to you or anything, I'm just saying that this sort of thing is usually said by really young folks. It's not that life gets boring as you age either. I can honestly say I'm a lot happier with my simple little life than I was as a teenager. I even think it's sort of funny because if my sixteen year old self saw my twenty-two year old self, the younger self would definitely laugh at the older one and accuse her of being extremely boring. I'm getting married soon to a Marine of all people (I used to rebel against everything, especially the government), I go to school, I have hobbies like painting, working out, etc. and none of them include drugs, however, life still isn't boring :P

Enjoy yourself while you're young and able to basically say "fuck being an adult" because it won't last. However, just because it won't last doesn't mean you're destined to be unhappy. You will surely mature with age and most people end up finding out there's more to life than hot-boxing friends' cars and such. One thing you've also gotta realize is that you can still go out with your friends, drink and hang out, etc. when you get a little older and have more responsibilities. Growing up doesn't equal a boring life, not by a long shot.

Who knows though, some people--perhaps you included--never end up wanting to grow up and want to forever remain young and without responsibilities (well, as an adult you will have them no matter what). Unfortunately said people usually end up in trouble, debt, etc. You can only live that kind of a lackadaisical life for so long before it catches up with you.

One more thing: There are plenty of adrenaline-inducing things out there other than drugs and talking to "hos." For instance, I recently started sky-diving and I can honestly say it's a better high than any drug I've ever done! I do lots of things that involve adrenaline rushes so my life is far from boring to say the least. Traveling is really awesome too, and it's hard to travel the world when you're busy focusing on things like drugs =/

Anyway, my main point is this: You will more than likely grow out of this phase (again, I'm assuming you're pretty young based on your post) and if you don't, well, be prepared for a life full of possible problems as you can't run away from maturity altogether. Don't forget that adulthood doesn't have to be boring. I have more fun than I've ever had now that I'm adult. Hell, I can do whatever the fuck I want now and I love it. I come and go as I please, travel when I feel like it, work jobs I want, maintain hobbies I love on my own schedule, live in my own place with my fiancee, have sex when I damn well please without worrying about parents walking in (haha), get drunk when I damn well please as I am of age, etc.
 
Ill be 21 soon and I feel pretty similar dude. The regular lifestyle just isnt for us. We are rock stars! Well we like to live the rock star life and it will always be apart of us. Eventually we will meet the girl of our dreams and go off and get married, be forced to get a good job (well, WANT to provide for your family), get a house etc etc..then our days will be over.

Bottom line..it will all sort itself out in time and probably on its own.


Well you sound as if you're in high school or something. I'm not the only one who thought so either so I know it's not just me.

Not to be a dick but...why does it matter? I don't really think he has that big of reason to lie about it and even if he is does so what? Again I don;t mean that in a douchey way and i apologize to you "user name here" i just couldnt think of a better way to say it!! Is it so you can just say "you will grow out of it after HS" ??
 
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Ill be 21 soon and I feel pretty similar dude. The regular lifestyle just isnt for us. We are rock stars! Well we like to live the rock star life and it will always be apart of us.

nice dreams... but don't you think you should get back on the floor again?

rock stars? fuck it!
watch fight club - maybe you can learn somthing!
 
nice dreams... but don't you think you should get back on the floor again?

rock stars? fuck it!
watch fight club - maybe you can learn somthing!

HAHAHA hey man dont be burstin my bubble..Just let me play pretend okay? Fight club is a pretty sick movie though..Ill give you that. Oh sorry OP for goin off topic with this homie..we will take it to PM
 
Ill be 21 soon and I feel pretty similar dude. The regular lifestyle just isnt for us. We are rock stars! Well we like to live the rock star life and it will always be apart of us. Eventually we will meet the girl of our dreams and go off and get married, be forced to get a good job (well, WANT to provide for your family), get a house etc etc..then our days will be over.

Bottom line..it will all sort itself out in time and probably on its own.




Not to be a dick but...why does it matter? I don't really think he has that big of reason to lie about it and even if he is does so what? Again I don;t mean that in a douchey way and i apologize to you "user name here" i just couldnt think of a better way to say it!! Is it so you can just say "you will grow out of it after HS" ??

I said it because it just sounds like he has an overall mindset of a teenager, or at least the ones I know. It seems like most people I know kind of grow out of the whole "I wanna do nothing but party" mindset by their early 20's, ya know? That's about the time you have to start paying bills, working, going to college, taking care of yourself, paying taxes, etc. and that usually makes a person snap out of the partying phase at least a little bit. I'm not implying that it's all or nothing though. I mean I still party but my mindset has definitely changed over the years. I had a similar opinion on life as the OP when I was younger and in HS so that's another reason I assumed he had to be a teenager. I wasn't trying to offend anyone though =)
 
Ill be 21 soon and I feel pretty similar dude. The regular lifestyle just isnt for us. We are rock stars! Well we like to live the rock star life and it will always be apart of us. Eventually we will meet the girl of our dreams and go off and get married, be forced to get a good job (well, WANT to provide for your family), get a house etc etc..then our days will be over.

Bottom line..it will all sort itself out in time and probably on its own.

Precisely. You can only manage the "rock star" lifestyle for so long before you realize that oh shit, you can't get away with it once you have responsibilities! Haha. It sucks to realize that but once you learn to accept it and get your life in order it's not bad at all and now that I've gotten a bit wiser I have come to enjoy this "boring" life of mine.

I guess I just got the hard partying out of my system at a young age. I partied way too fucking hard in high school... Ugh. I should have died or at least been arrested so many different times :P I got lucky by making it out relatively unscathed.
 
I said it because it just sounds like he has an overall mindset of a teenager, or at least the ones I know. It seems like most people I know kind of grow out of the whole "I wanna do nothing but party" mindset by their early 20's, ya know? That's about the time you have to start paying bills, working, going to college, taking care of yourself, paying taxes, etc. and that usually makes a person snap out of the partying phase at least a little bit. I'm not implying that it's all or nothing though. I mean I still party but my mindset has definitely changed over the years. I had a similar opinion on life as the OP when I was younger and in HS so that's another reason I assumed he had to be a teenager. I wasn't trying to offend anyone though =)

VERY well said! Couldn't have said it better myself, my friend. Its normally in the middle of partying or right after but I always get this mindset "Im getting too old for this..I need to get my shit together" so I think I'm getting there haha :)
 
Have a kid. That will teach you.
Just kidding.

You either grow up or burn out with this kind of lifestyle. That shit does suck. I completely feel ya!

Fuck school I don't need this shit!
My family doesn't do shit, they're boring as fuck (they're unofficially divorced) and I wouldn't chill with them anyways.
Applications suck. Most of them don't even hit you back!

But its the future. You have a mind, and a certain mindset. Will your family pay for you forever? You're a leech, and you gotta turn into a pillar for yourself. If you go in with a closed mindset you won't have a good time. If you find a good place to work like a pizzeria I guarantee you that a shitton of people smoke at work and munch. If you don't like going to school, try an online course. If you don't like your family, talk to them about stuff that interests them, not you. I wouldn't play Monopoly with my family either, fuck it.

Hope all goes well!
 
Have a kid. That will teach you.
Just kidding.

You either grow up or burn out with this kind of lifestyle. That shit does suck. I completely feel ya!

Fuck school I don't need this shit!
My family doesn't do shit, they're boring as fuck (they're unofficially divorced) and I wouldn't chill with them anyways.
Applications suck. Most of them don't even hit you back!

But its the future. You have a mind, and a certain mindset. Will your family pay for you forever? You're a leech, and you gotta turn into a pillar for yourself. If you go in with a closed mindset you won't have a good time. If you find a good place to work like a pizzeria I guarantee you that a shitton of people smoke at work and munch. If you don't like going to school, try an online course. If you don't like your family, talk to them about stuff that interests them, not you. I wouldn't play Monopoly with my family either, fuck it.

Hope all goes well!

Haha sometimes I think a kid is the only thing that will truly kick my ass into high gear for maturity. I know its not true but its still been a thought thats bothered my head more than once.
 
i hear ya man.i just turned 23 and up before than i though partying was the only way to live. then i started thinking. i satrted seeing this 27 year old guys at parties acting like they are still 19 and it was the most pathetic thing i have ever laid my addicted eyes on. i dont wanna be that pathetic 30 year old at a highschool party still living with his parents. i want a nice girlfriend and my own apt, with a dog, and a nice healthy body. sometimes you just gota grow up and get the fuck on with your life, and surrender. this weekend all my friends were out doing the same old thing. getting faded. i forced my self not to. all they got out of it was a weekend they dont remember and a bitch of a hangover and maybe an std. im over that shit
 
getting fucked on the weekend is fine. i know 40/50/60 year old people who without fail, get fucked up on the weekends. normal life on weekdays... party like a rockstar on the weekend
 
i hear ya man.i just turned 23 and up before than i though partying was the only way to live. then i started thinking. i satrted seeing this 27 year old guys at parties acting like they are still 19 and it was the most pathetic thing i have ever laid my addicted eyes on. i dont wanna be that pathetic 30 year old at a highschool party still living with his parents. i want a nice girlfriend and my own apt, with a dog, and a nice healthy body. sometimes you just gota grow up and get the fuck on with your life, and surrender. this weekend all my friends were out doing the same old thing. getting faded. i forced my self not to. all they got out of it was a weekend they dont remember and a bitch of a hangover and maybe an std. im over that shit

definitelyyyyyyyy
 
If left unchecked your tolerance to the various drugs you do will go up, the enjoyment will go down, the phrase "same shit different day" will start to become a repeating anthem that you can't seem to escape from, and depression even in the midst of what used to be a really good high will catch up with you. The fact that you are almost always bored when sober is a sign of this fate. It's a sign of worse things than depression to come.
The shitty thing is that you are at your most energetic and carefree in your early 20s, you want to do drugs all day every day (who doesn't?), but this is the time that will separate the bitter, bickering, factory floor workers from their bosses' bosses.
All the dweebs who you'd never hang out with, and who don't seem to have any game compared to you will suddenly start pulling tail that you only dream of currently, while you are stuck with the ones for whom a mouth full of teeth is a distant fond memory. Sad fact, but usually true. You don't want to look back on your 20's and the only experience in life you have are drug experiences.
The thing is, working hard and studying isn't all that bad. Earning a decent living wage and carving out a successful career for yourself isn't really boring, in fact it could be exciting if you end up finding something you love. You could do something that is in line with your "nonconformist" mentality, and still make good money at it. There's all sorts of cool jobs out there that you probably haven't even thought of yet. I hope the best for you man. I just recently ditched all my junkie high school friends and it sucks right now, but I'm trying to make a better life for myself that doesn't involve living off mom and dad.
You got to keep the bigger picture of your life in mind. If you honestly think living off minimum wage, or close to it, and just getting high every day for the rest of your life while the quality of the "hoes" (lol) that you pick up gets steadily worse is the way you want to live, there's nothing morally wrong with that IMO, but it's just that I think you could do a lot better if you just tried.
IMO if a person's main thing that they bitch about is their job, then they are doing pretty good. It's a lot better than bitching about your life!
 
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