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I think I might be pregnant, what the hell do I do

Pagey said:
Thanks a lot for all the answers everyone, I really appreciate it :)
I went to get a pregnancy test and it turned out positive so morale is not high here...I took an appointment with my doctor to get a blood test to confirm though, praying that the pregnancy test was wrong. I really don't want to have to explain what happened to him but I don't think I have a choice.
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You know, you don't have to tell him. It's really up to you. He's a professional and if you choose not to tell him the truth, it's OK. I don't blame you for not wanting to tell someone who has no idea what you went through. I think for your own well being that you should do what feels right to you, and talk to someone. If abortion is your choice, then bring someone with you for moral support.

I understand you are not feeling great right now, but just know it's not you or your fault. It's OK and it will be OK.

And yeah, for the sake of others this guy might come into contact with, I think you should consider the paternity test. You might save someone else from going through it.
 
Je t'envoie toutes mes pensées de support les plus chaleureuses. Tu sais ce que tu dois faire pour ton propre bien être. Même si cela n'est pas facile, je te souhaite de tout coeur d'en trouver le courage Pagey.
 
basically you dont know if he did something rape related or if you were just very drunk and cannot remember, this is the curse of alcohol. how many times i dont remember walking home its almost the standard thing. worrying.

anyway get tested for pregnancy and aids. thats all you can do.

sometimes men can be very unscrupulous with drunk girls (thats not always the same as rape, but it can be very immoral)- you can just do damage limitation now with regards to testing
 
Going for a blood test today, and I'm strongly considering the paternity test/ going to the police. I realize it's really the right thing to do to avoid this happening to anyone else, but I'm just really apprehensive at the idea of having to relive it - like you said, badandwicked. But I'm sure I'll do it in the end.

Also, pofacedhoe - I was not very drunk, at all, I'd had one drink and was nothing more than a bit tipsy so I'm 200% sure it's not a matter of me having been drunk and forgetting everything. There's no doubt to me that I was drugged, problem is I can't really prove that to anyone.

Thanks again for all the support <3
 
Pagey said:
Going for a blood test today, and I'm strongly considering the paternity test/ going to the police. I realize it's really the right thing to do to avoid this happening to anyone else, but I'm just really apprehensive at the idea of having to relive it - like you said, badandwicked. But I'm sure I'll do it in the end.

Also, pofacedhoe - I was not very drunk, at all, I'd had one drink and was nothing more than a bit tipsy so I'm 200% sure it's not a matter of me having been drunk and forgetting everything. There's no doubt to me that I was drugged, problem is I can't really prove that to anyone.

Thanks again for all the support <3
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hmm thats pretty shit maybe it was some kind of potent benzo- etizolam in powder form is available and causes a lot of poor memory afterwards and has no real taste. i guarantee you the benzo naive could be shoved into a taxi and back to a flat with 10mg of etizolam powder in a glass of wine, hands down. and they would merely look a little too drunk to onlookers

also did you leave your drink with this guy at any point while you went to the toilet?

proving it will be really hard unless you know the guy and find out if he has a pattern of doing this to other girls and can get them to go to the police with you.
 
pofacedhoe said:
hmm thats pretty shit maybe it was some kind of potent benzo- etizolam in powder form is available and causes a lot of poor memory afterwards and has no real taste. i guarantee you the benzo naive could be shoved into a taxi and back to a flat with 10mg of etizolam powder in a glass of wine, hands down. and they would merely look a little too drunk to onlookers

also did you leave your drink with this guy at any point while you went to the toilet?

proving it will be really hard unless you know the guy and find out if he has a pattern of doing this to other girls and can get them to go to the police with you.
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Yeah, benzos is what I figured - thing is I'm not at all benzo naive, quite the contrary in fact as I was addicted to very high doses for months and am currently tapering on clonazepam ... but then I guess that small dose of clonazepam + a drink + whatever the hell he put in my drink would be enough for anyone to black out (I know it's not just the clonazepam and alcohol though, I'd had way stronger combinations before and remembered everything). The obvious assumption would be roofies maybe? They're extremely easy to find here.
And yeah when I went to the toilet I left my drink with him, which I now realize was incredibly stupid and which I'll never do again.

Also, I have no idea who this guy was and I don't know anything about him...it's really, really frustrating to think I can't even prove this happened and all the police would have to go on would be my story, really pisses me off.
 
IT WAS A FALSE POSITIVE !!!!!!
I've never been so relieved in my life. This is amazing. I can't believe it.

I'm impressed, too, the lab got my results back in a matter of hours.

I've also decided to go to the police by the end of the week and see if a case can possibly be made out of what happened. I really hope so. But wow, this is a huge weight off my shoulders. I've also been seeing a therapist for about a year for other issues, I think I'll make myself bring this up at our next meeting even though I don't really want to talk about it - I think it will help in the long-run.
 
Yeah it's really great news, such a huge relief :)
By the way if you guys hadn't been here to support me I probably would've had a mental breakdown or something. Seriously. <3
 
Oh, yeah I hadn't thought of that...well I don't remember the exact adress, I do remember the neighboorhood though, but I doubt that would be enough help :(
 
Pagey said:
Yeah it's really great news, such a huge relief :)
By the way if you guys hadn't been here to support me I probably would've had a mental breakdown or something. Seriously. <3
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We're here for ya babe, even if it is just an Internets forum. :)
 
Why stress if you do not know for sure? I am not into what ifs. Facts first. Make choices.

I am sorry this happened to you. Be careful.
 
Perpetual Indulgence said:
Why stress if you do not know for sure? I am not into what ifs. Facts first. Make choices.

I am sorry this happened to you. Be careful.
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Well considering the circumstances under which I could have become pregnant/infected, it wasn't easy to make the step of taking the test and thus acknowledging that the whole thing really did happen.
 
I was taught never to leave a drink unattended and if so don't drink it.
I would have gone to the police then hospital when I came to my senses for a rape kit and blood drawn to look for drugs.
Semen=evidence. No semen=no pregnancy.
There would be no waiting until the end of the week to go to the police.

It is a shame this happened to you and you didn't know what course of action to take.
Be well.
 
Yeah well without going into details, it was absolutely obvious I had been raped.
It would also have been somewhat of a problem to have my blood drawn to look for drugs considering I'd taken other, illegal drugs in the few days before.
I understand you don't mean this badly, but I'm sorry it's just sort of bugging me because I feel like you're blaming me for reacting how I did, when frankly it was a really shocking experience and it's not the sort of thing where you can put yourself in someone else's shoes, whether or not you've experienced something similar (which I hope you haven't).
 
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