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vixen2

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i recently began fighting with my now ex best friend. she has been saying a lot of untrue and hurtful things. it has resulted in many sleepless nights full of tears. to make matters worse she has been talking to my boyfriend. now, no matter what i do, he is always suspicious and doesn't really sound like he wants to b with me. i love him so much though and would be lost without him but i cant make him realise that. it doesnt matter what i do, what she said will always come between us... i just dont know what to do. i'd b lost without him....i dont know what to do....
 
i'm sorry to hear that a friend would urn & do that to you ... But sadly your B/F takes her word over yours ... whatever it is i'm sure it can only get better ... Love always finds a way to pull thru ... I'll keep ya in my thoughts ... Hope it works out the best for ya
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You know failure isn't failure
If a lesson from it's learned
I guess love wouldn't be love
Without the risk of being burned .....Later , Frill
 
Heya,
I'm going through something not really similar, but along the same basic lines as you are right now. If your boyfriend is taking her words over yours.. to hell with him. It shows how much he truly cares about you and how much trust exsists in your relationship. No relationship can be successful without trust, and if he doesn't trust you, then it's time to move on. No matter how much it hurts, if he's believing someone else's rumors about you, especially someone whom he knows doesn't like you, then bail yo. Trust me, bailing now and dealing with pain now will be a lot easier than a harsh breakup that is more than likely emminent down the road. Besides, if he's hanging out with your best friend, that's kind of shady in and of itself right there. I say do this:
a)talk to your boyfriend. call his ass out. ask him if he trusts you. ask him why he's believing the shit she's spewing about you. if he gives a "oh i dunno" or a "i'm confused" answer, or tries to play it off.. ditch his ass with the quickness.
b)call the girl out. not in a confrontational kind of way, but either call her on the telephone, or find her in person (which is what i perfer) and ask her why she's talking so much shit about you. once again, do NOT lose your temper, as nobody needs to get into a physical confrontation over this, but let her know that you do not apperciate what she's doing, and find out why she's doing it. If she's any kind of rational, decent human being she'll have some sort of explaination and hopefully quit talking shit. Also, whatever you do, do not go spreading rumors or talking shit about this girl (not even a "oh man. i fucking hate so-and-so) no use sinking to her level. Be the bigger person, and like I said, no matter what pain your experiencing right now, the knowledge that you handled the situation correctly and responsibily will lift you up out of any rut you can sink into.
You are your best friend, and no matter what anyone tells you, everything you will ever need to be a good person exsists inside of YOU. Sometimes it's just hard to find.
Dave
Studies show 95.6% of girls are EVIL. :-)
 
Can't say it any better than zero9zero. Well said
Later,
Crow
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"One pill and nothing was ever the same."
Irvine Welsh
 
Hey sweetie *hugglies* Zero is right, you need to talk to your boyfriend. Don't be accussing, don't be mean, don't yell and shout. Simply be honest. Let him know exactly how you feel. After that, the ball is in his court. It's up to him to decide who's word is more important, and whether he truly loves and trusts you. If he decides to let this girl's words override the way that he feels about you, then, sadly enough, he isn't worth it. I know that's a lot easier said than believed, and I've disregarded in certain situations, but I wish I hadn't. I wish I had taken it to heart, and had let it guide me in the right direction. It would have saved me a lot of pain and tears. There's this thing I heard once, "A sad thing about life is when you meet someone that means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go." Sad, but true. Just always remember that no matter what happens, it's not the end of the world. And if in fact things don't work out, believe in yourself and know that you CAN live without him. And Eventually you WILL live happily without him. I've recently gone through a somewhat similar situation, so if you ever wanna talk don't be shy to IM me (RavahBabE) or email me at [email protected]. I hope everything works out for you sweetheart.
*luvins*
Ski
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"Shine on you crazy diamond....."
 
"The wisest man if often the most alone."
If ya need to talk to me about anything (not to sound conceited.. but i'm usually pretty good at giving advice..) hit me up on AOL IM @ stngout667
Dave
 
thanx so much guys. i know i am porb being silly about this whole thing and i uess i have always known what i should do but i dont want to do that until there are no other options open to me... thanx for ur support and i ppromise i'll let u know what happens
vixen
"u cant change the wind but u can adjust the sails"
 
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