I’m a straight male, why do I want to suck dick?

[Quere]

What I meant by 'this thread again' is that this topic has been written about before here on bluelight.

That academic researcher is extremely biphobic/homophobic and she had lots of flaws in her research such as only going by Craigslist personal ads and hook up sites for bisexual and gay men where it is well known that if a bisexual or gay man pretends to be heterosexual he will attract men who want to have sex with him, as there are lots of gay men who need this fantasy pipe dream or have it.

Interesting, I don't know anything about that researcher in particular was just an example from a brief google search, but I do believe that someone can have fantasies about whatever kind of male on male sex and not necessarily be gay or bi.

Apart from that, seriously lots of ppl from the younger generation are gay. It didn't use to be like that 10 years ago. Even closet gays, there wasn't that many of em.

But how would you know how many there were if they were closeted lol? That's kinda the whole point. We aren't all flamboyant, effeminate men who are obviously not straight. The general public may not have been aware of them but only because they were afraid of how people would treat them if they were honest about who they were but I still think they were there.

Know one knew I was bi when I was at high school because back then coming out as gay, bi etc would mean social rejection and bullying en masse.

So I learned to hide it from everyone and even denied it to myself to the point where even I believed I was straight. This was made even easier due to the fact that I'm also attracted to women and I don't fit any of the stereotypes around being gay

 

[Markjudy11]

White married couple wife is bisexual and only want to be with black men the women can be black or white when we are partying and I get high I also become bisexual and love to suck black men's cocks and only black men but we both love our sexual desires and we love pleasuring black men and women ❤.

 

[Jabberwocky]

How is it that this question is never-fucking-ending? Too many people seem to care a lot more about it than they do drugs.

 

[Fairy of the Flowers]

There's such a grey area where strait, bi, gay is, its like a spectrum, everyone has some tendencys even if it's, 1% gay, which means they can say "that's a good looking guy" then there's me I fancy woman, used to get off with them and stuff, but don't like sex with woman as I like cock, but I also really fancy androgynous men that look woman, with eyeliner and stuff, and I saw a beautiful transexual woman the other day, that's hot, everyone is different don't label youself, or hate yourself for want kinks you like, as long as the blokes an adult, don't stress

You fancy eomsn and suck cock, it's a rainbow world out there, nothing bad about it, in fact some woman would like watching it if your both fit men haha

What you like now may change, you might like sucking dick now, and in 5 years not want to do it at all, I knew someone who was strait, sucked cock but didn't do anything else with men now he don't want dick at all

 

[Jabberwocky]

I think this is like old philosophical question "Where does ones penis end and the scrotum begins?". Many great thinkers has thought about it (many of them while sucking cock) but it stays unanswerable to this very day. Wasn't it Plato who said "Just do it, don't name it!"? Besides, who cares how you define cock in ones mouth. Gay, straight, washed, unwashed, it is always a cock in ones mouth. If it was coke not cock in ones nose, or even mouth, this topic would be much more interesting. Damn it, now I'm triggered... I want coke...very pure coke. Without cock please. Thank you.

 

[ChemicallyEnhanced]

This thread again? You are bisexual. No man that is actually heterosexual has sex with men or has sex fantasies about having sex with men.

Just accept that you are bisexual, and find a man to suck off. Do not let anyone force you into doing anything that you do not want to do sexually or otherwise.

That statement is just plain not true. People all have a variety of things that turn them on for one reason or another, it is nowhere near as black and white as you try to claim.

 

[atara]

^I would agree that being aroused on some particular occasion doesn't necessarily mean anything. I mean, sometimes I get an erection for literally no reason (that I can find). But repeatedly fantasizing about sucking dick is an entirely different question and is firmly in bi territory.

So you think young people are being molded into homosexuality by society? A straight boy goes from liking vagina to liking dick how? How does it work?

One survey collection I saw from a porn site showed that the proportion of homosexuals hasn't changed from what it was when I was young (still around 3-5%) but the proportion of bisexuals is all the way up to 10-15% where I had always remembered earlier statistics being lower and I meet fewer openly bisexual men vis a vis gay. Self-reported preferences in both cases. It's easier for bisexuals to hide, of course. Unsurprisingly this increase shows up on a porn site: instead of "experimenting" with average dudes, anyone who wants to try looking at naked guys can pick the good ones.

There's also the narcissistic angle of sexuality: people are more willing to do a sex act if they think it will make them look sexy, and less willing if they think it will make them unsexy. Hence the old question of why women do lesbian things to impress men but men don't do gay things to impress women is answered by the observation in sexology that male sexual displays are (almost always) inherently combative and whoever loses the interaction loses sexiness points. Being a bisexual man is still unattractive to most women, but not as bad as it used to be.

Throw in a little procedural learning and you might interpret this as a mental diathesis that does or does not develop into a "sexuality" depending on whether the environment allows it. Or you could argue they were all closeted before, or take some kind of compromise position. Sexual preferences aren't completely fixed or I'd still be obligate paraphiliac like I was at 16 and unable to date anyone.

 

[Jabberwocky]

What about same-sex sexual activity that seems to be context specific? Men in prison for example who will suck dick while they are imprisoned but are exclusively hetero the rest of their lives. Are they latently bi?

Same with men who will suck dick while high on stimulants but show no interest in same-sex sexual activity any other time and may indeed find it distasteful?

I’m inclined to think most people have the capacity to be more flexible on their sexuality when normal social boundaries disappear. That is the binary distinction between gay and straight is to some extent a social construct. There have been many societies where more flexibility was the norm.

 

[atara]

I think you're misinterpreting the prison thing. IIRC in prison you see theretofore heterosexual men topping gay men, or in some cases raping weak men. You don't see a whole lot of mutual fellatio between otherwise straight men. At least not from anything I've heard.

But I have no general theory. Drugs are weird and easily break patterns that hold in sobriety.

 

[LordOfThisWorld]

I’m a straight 27 year old male. I’ve never been sexually attracted to men at all. I do not want a guy to suck my dick and I don’t want to have intercourse with another man. I do however want to suck a dick for some reason unbeknown to me. Help me make sense of this, I’m pretty confused.

You’re gay man if you want to suck duck, no way around it, no normal straight man wants to suck cock unless you’re a homo.

 

[LordOfThisWorld]

What about same-sex sexual activity that seems to be context specific? Men in prison for example who will suck dick while they are imprisoned but are exclusively hetero the rest of their lives. Are they latently bi?

Same with men who will suck dick while high on stimulants but show no interest in same-sex sexual activity any other time and may indeed find it distasteful?

I’m inclined to think most people have the capacity to be more flexible on their sexuality when normal social boundaries disappear. That is the binary distinction between gay and straight is to some extent a social construct. There have been many societies where more flexibility was the norm.

That’s gross.

 

[LordOfThisWorld]

I think you're misinterpreting the prison thing. IIRC in prison you see theretofore heterosexual men topping gay men, or in some cases raping weak men. You don't see a whole lot of mutual fellatio between otherwise straight men. At least not from anything I've heard.

But I have no general theory. Drugs are weird and easily break patterns that hold in sobriety.

I’ve been high as a kite on different drugs , never had the urge to suck cock, I’d rather blow my fucking brains out and would if I ever did.

 

[Jabberwocky]

You’re gay man if you want to suck duck, no way around it, no normal straight man wants to suck cock unless you’re a homo.

That’s gross.

I’ve been high as a kite on different drugs , never had the urge to suck cock, I’d rather blow my fucking brains out and would if I ever did.

I honestly don’t get why people care so much about making sure they have other people pinned into a sexuality box. Who gives a fuck who does what to who or why? I also don’t get why this ‘define homo’ thing comes up endlessly on BL.

 

[LordOfThisWorld]

I honestly don’t get why people care so much about making sure they have other people pinned into a sexuality box. Who gives a fuck who does what to who or why? I also don’t get why this ‘define homo’ thing comes up endlessly on BL.

I don’t care if the guy sucks sick, I wouldn’t I’d rather have a bullet put in my head, dead serious.

 

[Gormur]

I'm not a health professional but it could be some kind of an oral fixation. I did it when I was a boy, with two other boys. I'm sure girls do stuff like that too. I think for me it was just curiosity. I don't want to do it anymore

I found out I don't like male on male sex. It's not stimulating or interesting to me, I guess. I barely like sex with women other than I find them pretty and that's kind of nice. I've never been attracted to men though so maybe explore that area. I agree with the idea that everybody's bisexual at birth, even if it might not be a popular one. By the way, when my first girlfriend gave me a blowjob (I was already 19) I didn't like it at all. The feeling of teeth rubbing against my dick just turned me off

 

[ageingpartyfiend]

I honestly don’t get why people care so much about making sure they have other people pinned into a sexuality box. Who gives a fuck who does what to who or why? I also don’t get why this ‘define homo’ thing comes up endlessly on BL.

in this case cos the poster has massive prejudice issues

 

[LordOfThisWorld]

in this case cos the poster has massive prejudice issues

I’m not racist I just don’t want to suck dick, you can if you want to, feel free and enjoy yourself, I’m the least racist person on this Earth, you liberals are the racists ones and don’t tolerate anyone who don’t think like you.

 

[Jabberwocky]

I'm not a health professional but it could be some kind of an oral fixation. I did it when I was a boy, with two other boys. I'm sure girls do stuff like that too. I think for me it was just curiosity. I don't want to do it anymore

I found out I don't like male on male sex. It's not stimulating or interesting to me, I guess. I barely like sex with women other than I find them pretty and that's kind of nice. I've never been attracted to men though so maybe explore that area. I agree with the idea that everybody's bisexual at birth, even if it might not be a popular one. By the way, when my first girlfriend gave me a blowjob (I was already 19) I didn't like it at all. The feeling of teeth rubbing against my dick just turned me off

That’s interesting and thanks for the share. I was abused by a pedo when I was 7-8 and forced to give blowjobs. For years and years afterwards I equated homosexuality with pedophilia and my stomach turned at the thought of blow jobs. But a few years ago I got quite attracted to some feminine trans women and (only when high on meth) I had no issue with it. Maybe that’s because I don’t see trans women as men. I dunno. But it was a kind of weird and surprising turn around in my feelings all things considered. However my scoreboard reads approx 300 women, 2 men and 4 trans women so you’d be hard pressed to convince me I was ‘homo’.

 

[ageingpartyfiend]

I’m not racist I just don’t want to suck suck, you can if you want to, feel free and enjoy yourself, I’m the least racist person on this Earth, you liberals are the racists ones and don’t tolerate anyone who don’t think like you.

[Personal insult deleted by Mod]

Maybe one day you could have a look at it - we're all fucked up in different ways

 

[LordOfThisWorld]

That’s interesting and thanks for the share. I was abused by a pedo when I was 7-8 and forced to give blowjobs. For years and years afterwards I equated homosexuality with pedophilia and my stomach turned at the thought of blow jobs. But a few years ago I got quite attracted to some feminine trans women and (only when high on meth) I had no issue with it. Maybe that’s because I don’t see trans women as men. I dunno. But it was a kind of weird and surprising turn around in my feelings all things considered. However my scoreboard reads approx 300 women, 2 men and 4 trans women so you’d be hard pressed to convince me I was ‘homo’.

Sorry for your abuse.