floatingaround
Bluelighter
Note- keep in mind i have a social anxiety dissorder and generelized anxiety and depression.
So I posted up here a while ago in regards to a female friend I liked more then she liked me.
The issue at the time was that she liked my other best mate(mich) but he lived out of the state. Becaused I liked my friend (kath) it was hard to keep hanging out with her and speaking to her as id get all these anxious/jelous thoughts etc. I stopped speaking to her as I knew it was the best thing to do at the time and you all agreed on here. After a month or so we started speaking again, and probabaly became even closer friends in the months after we stopped contact.
So everything has been alright up untill the past couple of weeks. My best mate mich has now moved back to sydney and this is the big problem I have(i should mention ive had an anxiety attack over this situation thinking about seeing both of them in public). I should probabaly also mention that mich and kath both know my thoughts on kath, and this whole situation and kath after i told her not to tell mich told him that I have a fucking anxiety attack(not happy about that at all as i trusted her) We went to a party the other friday with mich and kath. They ended up fucking etc, knew it was going to happen no real drama's. The next day i hung out with them again after seeing hickies on kaths neck. It was probabaly the most awkawrd, anxious and depressed ive felt in public and couldnt do it again with those two. Everyone I was with knew how pissy and depresed i was by the look on my face, not from what had happend the night before.
So basically im in a fucked situation were my best mates are now together and we all hang out in the same social group. All i can feel is to stop contact with kath and possible mich as this whole sitatution is overwhelming me with anxiety and depression and effects me highly 24/7. I feel that now michs down ive been pushed away and rejected as mich is her 'new boy' so to speak. It shits me eh.
I guess im asking what you guys would do in my situation or a similar situation?. I know for my own health i need to cut contact, it just means at the same time im gonna have huge anxietys and troubles in seeing my old mates as this group i hang in is always together. Not worrying about it is not an option, my anxietys controll the way I feel and i really have lost all control of my thoughts from using to many drugs in earlier years.
Thanks for any responses, i needed to vent this out.
So I posted up here a while ago in regards to a female friend I liked more then she liked me.
The issue at the time was that she liked my other best mate(mich) but he lived out of the state. Becaused I liked my friend (kath) it was hard to keep hanging out with her and speaking to her as id get all these anxious/jelous thoughts etc. I stopped speaking to her as I knew it was the best thing to do at the time and you all agreed on here. After a month or so we started speaking again, and probabaly became even closer friends in the months after we stopped contact.
So everything has been alright up untill the past couple of weeks. My best mate mich has now moved back to sydney and this is the big problem I have(i should mention ive had an anxiety attack over this situation thinking about seeing both of them in public). I should probabaly also mention that mich and kath both know my thoughts on kath, and this whole situation and kath after i told her not to tell mich told him that I have a fucking anxiety attack(not happy about that at all as i trusted her) We went to a party the other friday with mich and kath. They ended up fucking etc, knew it was going to happen no real drama's. The next day i hung out with them again after seeing hickies on kaths neck. It was probabaly the most awkawrd, anxious and depressed ive felt in public and couldnt do it again with those two. Everyone I was with knew how pissy and depresed i was by the look on my face, not from what had happend the night before.
So basically im in a fucked situation were my best mates are now together and we all hang out in the same social group. All i can feel is to stop contact with kath and possible mich as this whole sitatution is overwhelming me with anxiety and depression and effects me highly 24/7. I feel that now michs down ive been pushed away and rejected as mich is her 'new boy' so to speak. It shits me eh.
I guess im asking what you guys would do in my situation or a similar situation?. I know for my own health i need to cut contact, it just means at the same time im gonna have huge anxietys and troubles in seeing my old mates as this group i hang in is always together. Not worrying about it is not an option, my anxietys controll the way I feel and i really have lost all control of my thoughts from using to many drugs in earlier years.
Thanks for any responses, i needed to vent this out.