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how to succesfully be with 2 girls at the same time

BluLait

BluLait

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Have any of you done this before? Any advice on how to manage this without either of them finding out? I hate choosing and would like to be with both <3. If you did this before how did you manage? Did you employ tactics such as using 2 phones & such?
 
Don't be a dick.
Be upfront. Tell these girls how you feel.
Tell them they're not the only one you want to show affection to.
Tell them you have love for both of them, and you want to adore both of them.
If things get serious, do you think you can really hide it?
Do you have any qualms about using someone you claim to feel such emotions for in such a filthy way?
It's your ultimately up to you, and I don't really care what you do because it won't affect me, but I think it's douchey of you to do.
 
Be honest from the start. It's only fair. Don't try to hide something like this because it for sure will catch up with you eventually and you will feel like a dumbass. How old are you?
 
Required reading - whatever you want to be, own it.

The Ethical Slut

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There is a difference between being in an open relationship and being a lying/cheating piece of shit. I hope OP doesn't choose the latter.
 
This is disgusting. Why would you ever want something like that? You don't like them at all. If you just want to use them for sex, sure, go ahead. They deserve it if they're that stupid - just don't pretend you "like" or "love" them. You don't have to be honest to others, but at least be honest to yourself.
 
Well ok. Here's the deal. I just got back together with my ex-girlfriend who broke my heart and made me feel like a piece of shit for over a month. She felt like she couldn't trust me because I use drugs & shit (not a lot, just occasional, 1 month use, LSD/ecstasy/ shit like that). But she can't understand the difference between a proper drug use and a junkie. Anyway. All her friends told her that she should dump me and get back with HER ex. She tried to do it, and made my life hell because she kept telling me she's confused and doesn't know what to do etc. etc. I waited for her, I gave her everything and she fucked it. She tried to get back with her ex-boyfriend... but she couldn't... she still felt love for me and none for him.
I could see she loved me but her friends convinced her that I am not the guy for her, she didn't want to get back together with me and we were both miserable. I couldn't take it anymore and I took some MDMA which totally changed me 180 degrees. If before I was depressed as shit, couldn't sleep night. After having a nice introspective lovely trip on MDMA + 2c-b, I realized I'm an idiot because I gave her all my love but she doesn't deserve me, so I accepted the idea that even though I loved her I couldn't be with her and moved on. The next day after taking the MDMA and 2c-b, I went to a party and hooked up with a pretty, sexy girl and we're going to go on a date pretty soon. Me and my ex-girlfriend remained friends. I told her about my new girl, because I thought she was sticking with her decision not to get back together with me. So I totally saw her as JUST a friend.

When I told her about this girl, she freaked out, didn't answer my phone and shit, and sent me lousy messages about love and shit. I thought she was fucking crazy. After a few hours she called me and she was crying and said she felt the worse she has ever felt in her life and that she didn't ever love anyone as much as she loves me and that she only realized this now after checking facebook and seeing the girl I was talking about.
She said fuck her friends and family and what they think, she said she loved me like she never loved anyone else ever before and begged me to get back together with her. After all she did to me... I was pissed as fuck.

Well.... today, after writing this thread. We got back together..... I think I love her too.... but... It's weird... It's not like before I took the MDMA... Anyway.
She unstable, she highly influentiable by friends and family.... I'm afraid she will do the same to me again at a later date. I told her if she pulls that shit one more time, she will never ever see me again.

I'm utterly confused.

So I'm thinking, I want them both! But obviously this would not work.... So maybe I could suggest the blonde girl to be fuck friends?
 
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Yeah based on your first post I would say don't be like that and just be upfront with either both, or at least one of them. That's just unfair to them.

Based on your latest post, my advice is be with the new girl, not your ex-girlfriend who doesn't sound like she'd make you happy.
 
Yeah... This new girl is prettier than my ex-gf... But she doesn't seem to have her strong personality. Or maybe I don't know her well enough and she might just be shy :)

The problem is, I still have some strong feelings for my ex, well... I don't know. We get along so well...
It's a really tough decision to make. Given time I would be able to make the right decision, but I can't postpone anything... So the only solution would be to flip a dime, or to be with both of them until I figure out what is what.

Lysdexic said:
Tell them you're bipolar, so you're not cheating on either of them..
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LMAO. It would be extremely funny to pull something like that off=))

Only problem would be if they would both meet and I'd have to act like a maniac to keep up appearances=)
 
BluLait said:
Have any of you done this before? Any advice on how to manage this without either of them finding out? I hate choosing and would like to be with both <3. If you did this before how did you manage? Did you employ tactics such as using 2 phones & such?
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You've got to tell them. You can't have your cake and eat it, too. Man up.
 
rangrz said:
Why can't you have them both. It is not, as a matter of fact, obvious to me why not. It's not so hard to have a multiple partner relationship IMO.
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Seems like first gf dumped you, then found out you tried to move on. That's when she went nuts. So now she wants you back because her ego is threatened. She didn't want to be with you but can't stand the thought of you being with someone else. You can't be sneaky about this because eventually, it will bite you in the ass. This means telling gf #2 that you are still in a relationship as awkward as it feels, you owe her this much. She will suspect or find out sooner or later. For all you know, she could be involved with someone else. I have been on both ends of this scenario.

Had met a guy three years ago and he told me up front that he had a girlfriend. We just together to have sex, get high and watch tv. That was the extent of it because I also was seeing other people. I appreciated his honesty.We still talk every day and he turned out to be a terrific friend. I have also been involved with a married man and I was crushed when he finally admitted it after I confronted him. Lying always catches up with you so being straightforward is the obvious way to go about this.
 
I thought this thread was going to be about a mff threesome. Maybe you could ask them both if they`d be into it....

It sounds like (and i could be wrong) that you like your ex but in your heart know that it isn`t going to work. So you want to string girl 2 along in case it doesn`t. Nobody wants to be the back up lover.

I`ll tell you from experience it`s a bad idea. Just pick one.
 
The MDMA trip changed me. I have no more feelings anymore for my ex, if before I would have given anything to be with her and shit (kissed her friends in the ass etc. so they would accept me so in turn she would accept me). I told her today that I will fuck her friends because they are stupid imature assholes.... she didn't say anything in return...

This is the degree to which this relationship has changed. If before, she dominated me, now the tables have turned and I can basically control her emotions and actions. It's amazing and scary how the self-confidence MDMA grants changed my life. I can feel she is scared of losing me. She can feel I have changed and I am not her puppy dog anymore and it made her realize some stuff.

Stuff with the other girl are going fucking great as well... She's shy but she told me something along the lines of: "you're not like all the other guys." So that's good.

And now, I am in college. And guess what. Shitload of other chicks there as well. I told my ex about all the girls hitting on me and she went nuts again lol. It's funny how she reacts and then she tries to prove to me that she's better than them, sex and everything. lol.

I know this is un-ethical, but honestly... this is the best time of my life lol and I have no idea what to do. Guess I'll stop asking for advice and just live my life and see how this goes, eh?
 
iheartthisthread said:
I thought this thread was going to be about a mff threesome. Maybe you could ask them both if they`d be into it....
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I suggested that many times in the past, joking, subtly, etc. And the responses were negative. They're not the kinds of girls to be willing to do so.
 
Don't rely on the MDMA especially since you're in college. I know it's boosting your self-confidence (the same way oxy used to give me energy) But it doesn't last. You shouldn't be in a committed relationship. This girl needs to find a new boyfriend. You're a young man and things are already awkward with your ex. It feels good to have the upper hand but I would just break it off already for good. Like I said before, it will bite you in the ass. You know this isn't going to work. So just date different girls and be up front with them.
 
maybe at your stage in life you could just date them all... I know nothing of your situation really. Maybe you could play the field instead of being tied down. I don`t know man, you only live once right? Only you really know what will make you truely happy. Wish you well...
 
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