shahab6
Bluelighter
Being a male in his mid-twenties the immediate answer is yes, that's a tall fucking order. I am going to venture to say that there isn't a whole lot of males in their mid twenties willing to wait too long for sex. In my opinion, sex isn't a big deal at all, and not alot of guys are willing to revert back to the high school attitude of "sex can wait" because if you are willing to hold out there are a GRIP of females within reach willing to give it up at the drop of a hat.
I understand what you are saying by "it seems to spoil the possibility of a long term relationship" but I am also going to guess that it's not the early sex that is spoiling it, and that most likely it is your way of communicating with the male. Holding out on sex is not the key to a long term relationship, it's a good way to get guys to completely stop talking to you and ignore phone calls, but not a good way to get a long term relationship.
Like others have said: If a guy is into you, he is into you and it's not gonna matter when you give the pussy up. If you guys have a good connection and just get along he probably won't even be concentrating on sex. Having said that, if you find a guy that is like that and hold out on sex, then he is going to think he is friend zoned, and if a guy doesn't want to be your friend, you just lost him.
In short I guess all it really comes down to is COMMUNICATION. If you meet a guy you connect with explain to him that in the past when you have sex with a guy early in the relationship it doesnt seem to work, and that this time around you would like to take it slow (talk to him about HOW slow) chances are he will give it a chance.
I know if I am seeing a girl and she just holds out on sex without explaining I'm thinking she is using me for something, she is a prude, or she is fucking clueless on what she wants, and chances are I won't stick around too long. However if I see a girl and she explains to me that she doesnt want to just hand the pussy over for whatever reason but she makes it clear she is into me, well shit, that's a challenge.
very very well written..
You know I wanted a relationship with this girl, we went out for four months and no sex.. and I just lost interest, I don't call her anymore or go out with her.
She still calls me once a week, and we talk for a like 35mins, and twice shes like lets go out for lunch..
Now I think she just wants to be friends, which I'm not interested. Because when we first met we both told each other we are seeking a long term relationship.. actually it's good we didn't have sex, because now I know she's not the one. If we did have sex, I would have probably have been with her much more.
and I really really wanted a relationship with her so did she, but the no sex thing ruined it.. and it's not like I was asking for sex on first date..