how to find out what she wants?

[citizen cained]

Ok so me and my gf are back together after a break up (something that was thought and discussed about in depth) but that's unrelated...

My girl is quite shy and nervous when it comes to the bedroom but I am patient and want to help her come out of her shell. She also doesn't have the biggest sexual appetite but I can normally turn her on quite easily when she isn't in the mood.

Anyway, I want to know how to find out what she likes and what turns her on, i.e. bonadge, being blindfolded etc but I have already asked directly and she wouldn't say (too shy) so is there anyway of just finding out like asking subtle questions etc? I am gonna surprise her soon by going down on her with a vibrator she doesn't know I've got her as she mentioned that she used to own one but apart from that I am stumped for ideas.

 

[dkmonk]

I think if she is shy then it wouldn't be the best idea to start using bondage and sticking vibrators in her, that seems like a big transition and might make her feel uncomfortable by so much all at once.

I always slowly work my way into something, and cue on her body language and breathing to know if she is getting pleasure, or is uncomfortable, because shy girls aren't usually going to say I like this give me more or I don't enjoy this, so you have to just read them and let their actions give you the answers.

I don't know what all you guys have done in bed, but maybe try blindfolding first, and eating her out with a little anal play, but not much just a brush up against it or a tongue around the edge. Once she gets used to that and you decide she likes this, you can then transition to tying the hands up too, and rubbing on her and touching licking or touching her butt more, maybe slip a finger in while your sucking on her clit.

You get the idea though, slow and surely, because you don't want to overwhelm her and then she not enjoy it, so she totally writes off any further ideas attempts as producing discomfort.

 

[badandwicked]

My girl is quite shy and nervous when it comes to the bedroom


I am gonna surprise her soon by going down on her with a vibrator she doesn't know I've got her

lol don't