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How should a girl go about hitting on a guy?

don't be afraid to be "too smart" or "too strong" or whatever.. dumbing down will only endear you to people you're not interested in anyways. I'd much rather date a girl who was willing to argue with me about politics or something like that as opposed to someone who has no clue what i'm talking about or is just complacent. You need to find someone who is attracted to that trait, not hide it. You're more likely to click with someone when you're being yourself too
 
L O V E L I F E said:
My Dear Mugen,

Did it happen to occur to you that perhaps the post that caused your kneejerk reaction (read: showing off your superhuman knowledge of standard deviations - come to think of it, why don't you and Sally trade notes for Mrs. Grunfest's biology quiz during homeroom?) was written by ONE specific person for the purposes of assisting another ONE specific person, and as such, perhaps said post is relevant and on point to one hundred percent of that ONE specific person?

Oh . . . and thanks for the ad hom, newbie.

right ... so you're less of a dolt and set a less ridiculous standard because you addressed it to someone in particular? btw ... read your post again. dunno why you put that 'universal you' bit in there considering what specific advice it was
 
mugen said:

right ... so you're less of a dolt and set a less ridiculous standard because you addressed it to someone in particular? btw ... read your post again. dunno why you put that 'universal you' bit in there considering what specific advice it was

I put the "Universal You" in there so that the person to whom it was addressed would understand that my advice applied equally to anyone else who is in a similar situation to hers.

And I don't think it's "ridiculous" for someone to prefer to date people who have similar levels of intelligence and similar interests as their own.

But please . . . keep defending the fact that you called me a "dolt" even though you've never met me.

I'm guessing that when someone was trying to teach you to say things like "you know what - that's a valid point" or "let's agree to disagree" or "I see where you're coming from, but I have a different take" . . .

. . . you were busy perfecting the art of calling people names insinuating (or flat out stating) that these people whom you've never met and with whom you've had virtually zero interaction are stupid based on one post with which you disagree (and in this case, apparently misunderstood).

But, please, Mugen . . . continue defending yourself - you're impressing everyone, and clearly, that's of paramount importance.
 
kitd, i agree with everyone else and say that your beautiful and shouldnt have any problem with this....but i think you want something little more constructive, so: maybe its just a dry spell. they can be very long, i think everyone has probably had a dry spell and thought 'what am i doing wrong, what am i not doing?' but its just something that has to run its course and in my opinion, when its over i bet there will be quite a few guys interested and you will laugh at yourself for thinking something was off (when it rains, it pours philosophy). but youre right, because its a dryspell doesnt mean you cant be proactive about getting out of it. the key is meeting new people, and maybe barflies aren't the kind of people you want to date so i think the best thing to do is get involved in a lot of stuff, volunteering for anything (habitat for humanity is cool), sports, social organizations, church, NETWORK! get some people to play flag football after work and see who else they bring to play. maybe this kind of stuff is 'corny' to others, so if you dont like doing these things, find other ways to get involved.
my last gf actually hit on me, but it took some dedication on her part, she came up to me at a bar and asked for my number, which i wrote on a business card. when she couldnt read the number she emailed me at work, which should've screamed 'stalker', but i gave it a chance although i couldnt recall her face. she kept calling me until i agreed to meet her out, and i was glad i did.
anecdotes aside, get involved in something that you like to do and you will meet people who like to do the same things you do, and you'll have something in common. you could even meet a girl as a friend, and when she takes you out you can meet her friends and deepen your network. and KEEP going out. youre right, you cant meet anyone staying at home.
dont freak out about it though, you can get a lot of shit done when you don't have an s/o, so work on that stuff too to ride it out. sorry this went so long, i hope it helped a little!
 
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