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How important is the way a vagina looks?

im almost certain that watching me take my clothes off should be somewhat more offensive than attractive, so i'm wouldn't be all that picky about it.

just so long as there's no penis, i'm good.
 
Imagine how HORRIBLE it would make someone feel to be insulted and refused sex because their pussy looks like mashed potatoes and gravy? I for one don't like to hurt people's feelings.


And when it comes down to it, that's one of (if not the) most important things. If you really have problems with it's appearance, tell the woman that you're having problems getting your old man to stand to attention. You know that's not the case, but it doesn't result in an action that could destroy someone's self confidence - potentially saying something that could lead to all sorts of problems with self esteem, confidence & desire for sex just because in your book it's not the Mona Lisa of vaginas could be taken as implying that you have an even more ugly & retarded attitude/mind/libido (see, it's not pleasant, nor needed to give voice to such destructive opinions. To do so when you're aware of other ways of saying that sex is not on the menu that night says far more about you than it does about her and her body; and what it says is pretty damning...)
 
Considering the mutability of the labia across a wide range of genetics and conditions the likelyhood of anyone finding the exact specifications for a vagina is ridiculous. Everyone of you has settled for 'close enough' because the (as fastandbulbous has suggested) Mona Lisa of pussies is unlikely. Therefore you've given into something below your standards.

This entire concept of the perfect look of a pussy is an egocentric mind game where both men and women suffer from hurt feelings. I could understand if her pussy was covered in lesions but I sincerely doubt any of you have turned down a piece of ass because of maybe her labia minora were a little long. Sure, there are exceptions but considering the maturity of the conversation, I'm fucking doubting it.
 
hrmmm so guys that care should be called labia kings?

or is it size kings?
 
I giggled at "labia kings" :D Try Clit Commanders ;)

On topic: I agree with F&B - If you're put off by the girl's gentialia, and really can't 'bring yourself' to go near it, i'd suggest turning it around on yourself, and use the excuse that you can't get it up - but not because of her.

You're saving the girl's feelings. It's not like the shape of her labia, etc, is something that can be easily fixed (unlike a little hedge-trim, when, done properly, can be quite erotic ;)), and the potential for psychological damage is HUGE.

A girl i knew had sex with one guy - her first, who unfortunately made a flippant comment about the fact that her labia minora 'stuck out' from between her labia majora. I spoke to her when she was 21, and her first time was when she was 16 - she'd not had sex since, it was that hurtful. I tried to tell her that people have such different tastes, and i almost guaranteed that there was guys out there who like that but id didn't make a difference.

Put the shoe on the other foot - how would you like it if, at the first look at your cock, the girl scoffed and said how small/ugly/misshapen it was? :\

I dated a guy years ago, who unfortunately had pubic hair growing almost all the way up his cock. I was about to go down on him, saw the hair, but instead of gasping and throwing my hands up in the air, i faked the start of my period. The next time i saw him, i suggested a bit of sexy depilation - we depilatory-creamed his cock and balls. MUCH BETTER. I'll also give a tip to boys who this happens to - don't shave your shaft - the prickles really irritate the inside of the vagina - depilatory cream, ftw. ;)=D
 
<<So I can find women sexy that have slight beef curtains. Guess I am crazy and desperate... or maybe I am just normal and I am not about to kick a girl out of bed who is attractive but has a different looking vagina than is 'ideal'.... I think most people would agree that once it has escalated to the point of 2 people being naked and worked up ready to have sex that the look of a vagina is NOT the thing that is going to make me get turned off and kick them out of bed. Call me crazy but I think you are one in a million buddy....>>

QFT.
 
I have yet to meet a vagina I didn't get along with ;)

I'll reinforce the general sentiment of the other gentlemen here: How it feels is far more important than how it looks. And I'm usually pretty inclined to think it feels good. All the variation in looks is kind of interesting, more than anything else. Though I will say that it's much easier to go down on a girl who keeps the hedges trimmed back. (Doesn't have to be shaved, though that works too.) You'll probably get more offers of oral sex if you do some maintenance in that department.
 
Any vagina that is well looked after by it's owner is all good with me :) .
And for those who might not feel the same - please, don't let those you might turn down know it's because you dislike how it looks due to your pickiness :( - you'll severely damage their self esteem!
I am however a fan of teh shaved look. It fits in with the well-looked-after, I think.
 
the hair can definitely get in the way of great oral for a girl. not just a little bit of pubic hair, but a huge 1970s style bush. it gets in my teeth.... but shaving them can be fun for all ages. (18 and up in my state)
 
There are three things important to me:
-If it has hair, it should be clean... and it cannot be a giant bush. A stetically agreeable vagina to me has few or no hair at all.
-It cannot smell bad... of course every vagina has _the vagina smell_ but this smell is pretty exciting and persists on our hands (on the first times we have sex, we get that smell on our hands and we keep smelling that even after she's gone... god that's great :D)
-As someone said, it just cannot look like a penis :D

Those are the basic prequesites, but in my case i prefer vaginas with small labia... the smaller, the better :)

But I would never reject a girl I love just because she has a huge labia... the most exciting part of a woman is always in her brain... is the brain that teases our brain and increase the dopamine's levels. nothing more :D
 
Ungoliath said:
Chaos, you contradict yourself, your not desperate, yet you don't kick women out of bed who meet your standards of attractive.

That aint contradicting himself, thats you assuming what his standards of attractive are. You talk so much about how you love your girl more than anything in the world. So ill make it personal for you so maybe you can understand it a lil better than if it was just general since u had a prob wit understanding what dude was sayin before. what if she comes back from jail fat, with a buncha dyked out jail bitches who fisted her pussy while she was in there so shes overweight, her hairs greasy, shes broke out on the face, and her pussys all stretched out? Are you gonna kick her out of bed becuz she dont meet your standards of attractiveness and it makes you have better self esteem to turn down sex? You dont realize how ridiculous you sound when you say this shit.
 
lacey k said:
That aint contradicting himself, thats you assuming what his standards of attractive are. You talk so much about how you love your girl more than anything in the world. So ill make it personal for you so maybe you can understand it a lil better than if it was just general since u had a prob wit understanding what dude was sayin before. what if she comes back from jail fat, with a buncha dyked out jail bitches who fisted her pussy while she was in there so shes overweight, her hairs greasy, shes broke out on the face, and her pussys all stretched out? Are you gonna kick her out of bed becuz she dont meet your standards of attractiveness and it makes you have better self esteem to turn down sex? You dont realize how ridiculous you sound when you say this shit.
whoa whoa whoa here....

why don't you ask yourself that question and answer here (but switch the gender of course). You like a guy and then you find out his penis isn't big are you going to kick him out of the bed? or if a guy you are with get fat and it so happens that his penis decreases in size are you going to leave him? Do you realize how hypercritical you sound when you just said that shit?

"nuff said"
 
Cleanliness (like if a woman knows how to wash/clean her vagina, she doesn't have any STDs, no yeast infections and it's not that time of the month), how it tastes/smells, and if a woman shaves/trims are way more important than how a vagina looks.

Of course I'm a lot more into giving oral sex with women than vaginal sex or getting oral sex.

That being said, myself and some of my other bisexual male friends go through periods where we're not attracted to women at all, and even the idea of seeing a woman naked or having sex with a woman isn't something we'd like to do and it's not a turn on during this time.

It's like we're homosexual but it doesn't last forever like it does for my gay friends, who simply aren't into women at all and some of my gay friends go as far as talking about how :rolleyes: all vaginas smell like fish, how a vagina looks like canned ham dropped from a skyscraper, how a woman's breasts and vagina are the nastiest thing ever and are gross to them, or other silly misogynistic things.

Other times we'll be pretty equal and that's when we do want sex with women. It sounds weird that I know this stuff but my friends and I do talk about it.
 
greed said:
whoa whoa whoa here....

why don't you ask yourself that question and answer here (but switch the gender of course). You like a guy and then you find out his penis isn't big are you going to kick him out of the bed? or if a guy you are with get fat and it so happens that his penis decreases in size are you going to leave him? Do you realize how hypercritical you sound when you just said that shit?

"nuff said"

LOL....What makes you think that my answer to either of those questions would be yes? Speak for yourself. So, How am i bein "hypocritical" ? the only way you could consider me that would be if i would kick out someone over some shit like that which you conveniently assumed. BUT , In reality I aint that superficial so way 2 assume n jump to conclusions.

Maybe you think Im jus denying it or lying that I wouldnt....My BF n future husband was 230 lbs n 5'11 when i met him 7 years ago. but I was mad into his personality n the way he treated me n we got along so well it was like we were meant for eachother, so i didnt care . we didnt get together til 2 yrs later , but imagine that...once we did make that shit official around that time, he started workin out like crazy n eatin good n got in shape mad fast. And these days he s built n sexy bout 180 lbs of all muscle not a hint of that past fat kid in sight. we been together goin on 5 yrs when it hits july. And dont worry, i definately never got to worry about that size problem u mentioned trust me....;) good things come 2 those who wait n got patience , who appreciate love over appearances..I loved him when he wasnt perfect and I love him now. Thats what love is about. Not the appearance of someone elses genitals.
 
lacey k said:
LOL....What makes you think that my answer to either of those questions would be yes? Speak for yourself. So, How am i bein "hypocritical" ? the only way you could consider me that would be if i would kick out someone over some shit like that which you conveniently assumed. BUT , In reality I aint that superficial so way 2 assume n jump to conclusions.

Maybe you think Im jus denying it or lying that I wouldnt....My BF n future husband was 230 lbs n 5'11 when i met him 7 years ago. but I was mad into his personality n the way he treated me n we got along so well it was like we were meant for eachother, so i didnt care . we didnt get together til 2 yrs later , but imagine that...once we did make that shit official around that time, he started workin out like crazy n eatin good n got in shape mad fast. And these days he s built n sexy bout 180 lbs of all muscle not a hint of that past fat kid in sight. we been together goin on 5 yrs when it hits july. And dont worry, i definately never got to worry about that size problem u mentioned trust me....;) good things come 2 those who wait n got patience , who appreciate love over appearances..I loved him when he wasnt perfect and I love him now. Thats what love is about. Not the appearance of someone elses genitals.

Yes.... what makes me think you are a hypocrite?......tell me what is a person supposed to think when they see posts like these

http://www.bluelight.ru/vb/showpost.php?p=3160881&postcount=12
http://www.bluelight.ru/vb/showpost.php?p=3181427&postcount=40

It seems you are very adamant in voicing what is an ideal size and what is not. Funny from what you said.... one can percieve that you would kick the person that doesn't have the "ideal" appearance/ body part/ size out of the bed. Or is there a different meaning to those? LOL

Regarding your comment "i definately never got to worry about that size problem"

according to your words you said that good thing come to those who appreciate love over appearances. So tell me why would you need to worry in the first place about his size if according to you love is > appearances?

another question why do you jump on that guy for his swollowness and you never jump on any females for theirs? because I don't see you attacking any of the females in the penis size thread for what they said which is equal to what he is saying
 
youarewhatyouis said:
thats so weird girls are self conscious about how their pussy looks...?! I would have never guessed that some people think like this!
A couple girlfriends have asked me what I think an enticing vagina looks like, and does theirs look good or not. I do like the tucked in look........alot, It just makes me want to fuck more, hotter, hornier, whatever. I would never tell a girl I was with though that her vagina didnt look good/cute........unless I wanted to hurt her feelings.
 
All i can say is if you are lookin for someone who is shallow youre lookin at the wrong one. it seems like you are confusing having a preference,and stating what it is when asked, with saying i would kick someone out of bed over something like that. You really are a lil bit slow if you cant understand that. If you can show me where, at all, in any way, in either of those posts i even slightly insinuated that I wouldnt love someone if they didnt have a 8 inch cock? LMFAO....

As far as the comment u said about not worrying about size. I said I DONT WORRY ABOUT IT. How much fuckin clearer can it get? I dont even understand what your sentence means. I said i dont worry about it and you say If i really loved him why would i worry about it in the first place. EXACTLY! Thats what i fuckin said . I never met someone who can argue with someone who said the exact same thing as them before. Are you high when you post here?

Second, What the hell is swallowness? Get back to me on that one.....

Third, if you ever posted in this forum you would fuckin know why your post is so ridiculously mis guided that it aint even funny. ask anyone on this site . I been warned on here before becuz of posts i made against females and their superficiality. i dont know if you think im one of them girls that thinks all females are right or somethin, but just becuz I dont post in a thread dont mean that by not posting I am supporting what other ppl said. 8( It seems like you have a pretty difficult time understanding what i said in both of my posts, becuz you just came out of left field arguing with me over some shit i didnt even say becuz you were too busy makin assumptions to actually read my words. Or maybe you read them but just couldnt quite comprehend it. All i know is, If you even bothered to post about what I SAID and not some failed attempt at reading where you only selectively picked out certain words and assumed the rest then maybe your posts would make more sense.

You took a comment I made about a guy who said that any guy who wouldnt refuse sex is desperate. I dont agree that a guy who would have sex with a girl, even if her pussy aint perfect, is desperate. I think that a guy should be able to have sex with a chick if he wants to, if her pussy looks good to him then it dont mean he is a desperate loser just becuz he had sex with her and it wasnt a picture perfect snatch. I was arguing with the guy who said this. look over my post again without your pre concieved ideas about it and show me where i was saying anything about a guy not being able to dislike a chicks cooch. I just said that just because it aint perfect dont mean a guy is desperate. Would you refer to yourself as desperate just becuz you wouldnt have a problem fuckin a girl with a pussy lip thats a half centimeter bigger than the other one? I doubt it...You would just be a normal dude. And I dont know what your impression of me is but obviously its pretty misguided, cuz the idea of a straight, shaved, hairless 10 inch dick just makes me laugh. its unrealistic and stupid to think that is what a guy should look like. I dont think a chick should be expected to be perfect, and i dont think a guy should be neither. and i hate males AND females who believe that it should be that way. if you think theres some kinda unfairness there i dont know what to tell ya. I dont think, i KNOW that love n your feelings comes way before physical appearance, and to help you understand that I told you that story about fallin in love with a fat kid. and somehow you still managed to get some completely twisted shit outta it.

I aint really gonna waste no more of my time wit this, cuz its like whatever I say you dont even read and just post something related to it when its some shit i never even said or hinted at. So ima leave it at that for now n just say thatI hope english aint your first language cuz that would really explain alot of your problems with reading comprehension...
 
lacey k said:
All i can say is if you are lookin for someone who is shallow youre lookin at the wrong one. it seems like you are confusing having a preference,and stating what it is when asked, with saying i would kick someone out of bed over something like that. You really are a lil bit slow if you cant understand that. If you can show me where, at all, in any way, in either of those posts i even slightly insinuated that I wouldnt love someone if they didnt have a 8 inch cock? LMFAO....

As far as the comment u said about not worrying about size. I said I DONT WORRY ABOUT IT. How much fuckin clearer can it get? I dont even understand what your sentence means. I said i dont worry about it and you say If i really loved him why would i worry about it in the first place. EXACTLY! Thats what i fuckin said . I never met someone who can argue with someone who said the exact same thing as them before. Are you high when you post here?

Second, What the hell is swallowness? Get back to me on that one.....

Third, if you ever posted in this forum you would fuckin know why your post is so ridiculously mis guided that it aint even funny. ask anyone on this site . I been warned on here before becuz of posts i made against females and their superficiality. i dont know if you think im one of them girls that thinks all females are right or somethin, but just becuz I dont post in a thread dont mean that by not posting I am supporting what other ppl said. 8( It seems like you have a pretty difficult time understanding what i said in both of my posts, becuz you just came out of left field arguing with me over some shit i didnt even say becuz you were too busy makin assumptions to actually read my words. Or maybe you read them but just couldnt quite comprehend it. All i know is, If you even bothered to post about what I SAID and not some failed attempt at reading where you only selectively picked out certain words and assumed the rest then maybe your posts would make more sense.

You took a comment I made about a guy who said that any guy who wouldnt refuse sex is desperate. I dont agree that a guy who would have sex with a girl, even if her pussy aint perfect, is desperate. I think that a guy should be able to have sex with a chick if he wants to, if her pussy looks good to him then it dont mean he is a desperate loser just becuz he had sex with her and it wasnt a picture perfect snatch. I was arguing with the guy who said this. look over my post again without your pre concieved ideas about it and show me where i was saying anything about a guy not being able to dislike a chicks cooch. I just said that just because it aint perfect dont mean a guy is desperate. Would you refer to yourself as desperate just becuz you wouldnt have a problem fuckin a girl with a pussy lip thats a half centimeter bigger than the other one? I doubt it...You would just be a normal dude. And I dont know what your impression of me is but obviously its pretty misguided, cuz the idea of a straight, shaved, hairless 10 inch dick just makes me laugh. its unrealistic and stupid to think that is what a guy should look like. I dont think a chick should be expected to be perfect, and i dont think a guy should be neither. and i hate males AND females who believe that it should be that way. if you think theres some kinda unfairness there i dont know what to tell ya. I dont think, i KNOW that love n your feelings comes way before physical appearance, and to help you understand that I told you that story about fallin in love with a fat kid. and somehow you still managed to get some completely twisted shit outta it.

I aint really gonna waste no more of my time wit this, cuz its like whatever I say you dont even read and just post something related to it when its some shit i never even said or hinted at. So ima leave it at that for now n just say thatI hope english aint your first language cuz that would really explain alot of your problems with reading comprehension...
LOL
seriously did you read what you said?

let me post it here for you

i dont want no 6,7 inches shit. you gotta be packin. but a.357 is fine, no need for that AK shit know what im sayin now you tell me what a person i am supposed to think when reading this?

here let me make it easier for your simple brain by putting this in mutliple choice

Question: Is a person reading this message suposed to think

a) that the person who wrote this is just stating a preference and what she meant by "i don't want no 6,7 inches shit"8) just means that you would love the a guy anyways if he had a 5,6,7 inch dick.

b)that the person who wrote this is saying that she don't want a guy that isn't packing and will dumb any guy that fits isn't?

Because heck I don't see where in any of those posts you said or gave the impression that you will love a guy no matter what he has. Yes technically never said you wouldn't love someone didn't have a 8 inch dick but what is someone supposed to think when they read "i don't want no 6,7 inches shit"?

no tell me what what I misread out of those posts I posted? It seems like your expecting people to read your mind when your words are saying something different. THOSE are your exact posts!!!!!

now what the fuck is "becuz"? get back to me on that......
 
elfdancer said:
I have yet to meet a vagina I didn't get along with ;)
QFT =D

some look better than others, there are some real ugly vaginas and there are some real cute vaginas... just like dicks.
but I'm not going to jump out of bed and tell a girl, "nope, sorry your vijayjay doesn't meet my standards!"
 
ROFL WOW!!!! Lacey K is a fucking retard LOL

who states a preference in that way? sound more like you are stating a standard

but keep back petaling

retard
 
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