No offense, but why so afraid of the wife? Don't you just tell her, "Hey, I like my weed & I'm not about to quit tokin because you don't approve!!" 8)
My wife of 20+ yrs wouldn't even think to tell me not to toke weed anymore. I've already quit drinking, quit cigs...I need at least 1 vice in my life.
She doesn't toke & I isolate the weed-smoke to my den/office only. She knows that I'm a lifer when it comes to weed...as I started in 1969...& will NOT quit for anyone except ME [& that's not about to happen].
Stand-up to your old ladies & say that "People against Legalization support organized crime!!"