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How do I approach this man for a threesome?

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BabyGriz

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My husband brought up the desire to have a threesome with another man. I am all for this because it has always been a fantasy to have more than 1 man at a time ;) Now I work at a store and he is one of the customers. He flirts with me all of the time, we have this thing going on in the way of flirtatious talk etc..and he did ask me out for a coffee. He now knows I am with someone and well I am highly attracted to him. he seems like someone who would be all for it but I have no clue on how to approach him. I can't talk to him at work obviously and my husband knows all about him. So, what do I do..? Do I write him a note and when he comes in give it to him? Do I drop it off at his home ( yes i know where he lives) Any men out there that could tell me what you would want? Would you want a woman to approach you about this if you had asked her out previously? I know he is still interested because the flirty talk continues...but if he says no..at least I know right? Any help would be appreciated and I came to this forum because it appears as if I could get some good advice without being criticized. 8o
 
Don't write a note.
Don't go to his home!
You could ask him if he'd like to meet after work and suggest a venue where your husband is waiting for you.
That way your husband can check him out as well.
After you two have conferred, you can ask the man if he'd like to come over for supper one evening.
You can then dress sexy in your own home and cocktease him. Once he's in state you can ask him if he's up for a threesome.
99% chance he'll say yes.
 
augustaB said:
Don't write a note.
Don't go to his home!
You could ask him if he'd like to meet after work and suggest a venue where your husband is waiting for you.
That way your husband can check him out as well.
After you two have conferred, you can ask the man if he'd like to come over for supper one evening.
You can then dress sexy in your own home and cocktease him. Once he's in state you can ask him if he's up for a threesome.
99% chance he'll say yes.
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okay so when I ask him if he wants to go out for a coffee sometime soon...should I say I would like to talk to him about something..or ? He asked me out for a coffee b4..so maybe I should ask him if that coffee invite is still open?
 
i would go out somewhere. asking that in a note is kind of weird if you haven't even properly hung out with the guy. not quite sure how you know where he lives, but if you know him through work only it would be weird to randomly show up at his house too.
 
llama112 said:
Go for coffee with him! And then talk to him about it there :)
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ok so ask him if that coffee invite is still open then after we are talking for a bit bring it up? then maybe we could all meet up later together..so he could meet my hubby etc...oh my..new to this..LOL
 
Jean-Paul said:
i would go out somewhere. asking that in a note is kind of weird if you haven't even properly hung out with the guy. not quite sure how you know where he lives, but if you know him through work only it would be weird to randomly show up at his house too.
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I know where he lives because he told me...then he playfully told me not to stalk him...then I said he would like that and he said yes I would then he winked..LOL! but yeah a lot of flirting...just not sure how to approach it...guess asking him to go for coffee would be the thing to do..to start things off..
 
Go to coffee. Normal mundane flirtatious coffee.

THEN I'm with AugustaB: "You could ask him if he'd like to meet after work and suggest a venue where your husband is waiting for you.
That way your husband can check him out as well.
After you two have conferred, you can ask the man if he'd like to come over for supper one evening.
You can then dress sexy in your own home and cocktease him. Once he's in state you can ask him if he's up for a threesome. "

Basically act like it's already happening. Set up the event so that they can play out. If he gets cold feet no big deal. Make it easy for him to step out if he's not interested. Let us know how things go!
 
Yeah, I think it would be good to introduce him to your husband in a casual situation - just in case he doesn't appeal to your husband. Then wine and dine at your place and do the deed.
 
I love this place

edit: if this guy falls through and you need a back-up, I'm a single, attractive male.
 
good luck getting stuffed with double barrel sausage;)

a note is too forward. make it seem like a date and ask him there will slowly bridge the gap between comfort zone and pushing the boat out. one step at a time
 
As a guy I would probably feel more comfortable if the guy approached me, so that way your not introduced to the guy after the fact as the dude that wants to bang his wife. Kinda like Harold n Kumar status. And also unless the dude is super chill, something like going out for coffee is kinda weird. It's to long of a situation to be put in to get the answer for one specific question. Just ask the dude casually( as you can lol)
 
Wow, that may be the fantasy of many women but speaking as an average male, it's not mine. If I was into something more than one on one, it certainly would not be with another man, it would have to be with another lady. Now, that might work! Everyone is assuming this guy will just go for it but it's one thing to bang someone else's wife but a whole other to do in concert with her husband. Eeewww! That may very well not be his style, so don't be surprised if he says No. Good Luck!
 
yeah IMHO, id have to be pretty fucked up on something to get naked and fuck the same chick, while another guy goes at it...
call me sexist, but with two females id have no problem.

just would be weird, having to see another guy go at my wife, or go at another guys wife while her husband is too. just strange


and if you ask him out for coffee dont say you wanna talk about something!!!!! whenever i hear those words, i automatically think trouble. might even avoid the situation.
just say lets go out? then bring it up after halfway through.
worst case he says no, then you go ok bills on you.
 
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