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How "different" is too "different?"

I think two identical people would not get along too well, as well as two people who are completely different. I would hate if someone had the exact same interests as I did, someone who was basically the exact same. We would get into so many arguments. For example, I am a bit stubborn, and my boyfriend (luckily) is not that stubborn, he's really laid back. I'm an organizational freak, I plan things super in advance, he is more spontaneous. Those things work well when we are opposites. Like, he lets me loosen up, be a bit more spontaneous. And I am able to plan things in advance for the both of us, stuff like that.
But I also think you need to be similar. For example, I'm hygienic, care about my looks, etc. My boyfriend is too. I'd hate someone who was dirty and never cared how they looked in public, etc. We have some similar interests (music, drugs, cooking, computers) and some different interests as well (he's into chemistry, research, music production, etc. while I'm into animals, baking, clothes, etc.). It evens out - we have enough similar interests but also some different interests, too, which keeps things balanced. :)
 
I've been fighting w/ this same question myself.. It's definitely not an easy question to answer.
 
Similar enough to enjoy and talk about the same things--but not feel like you're talking to a clone.

Different enough to keep the element of surprise without smashing your heads together.
 
I've tried the whole opposites attract thing a few times. It was cool and interesting at first but after a while it faded. After a period of time we did end up having something in common; distance. After the initial sparks wore off, we weren't left with much (no common interests, imagine that).

I've also dated women who were quite like me interest, personality, etc. wise. These relationships were all around better and lasted longer as we had plenty of common ground. However, I found too much like me to eventually become boring.

I'm looking for a comfortable medium, wish me luck. :|
 
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