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How did you meet your current significant other? *merged*

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Was anyone else stolen away from a previous SO by their current SO? How has that affected u?
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I wasn't really 'stolen' away, but I realized I loved my now husband due to the guy I was dating. :)

As I said, my current husband and I were friends for awhile before getting together, he was with me through a couple of relationships. The last relationship before him I had only been dating the guy for about 2 months and I wasn't feeling him as much as he was into me. He was sooooo jealous of my friendship with my (now) husband that he insisted I was cheating with him, I was not though, never have cheated.

The things he would say to me about him and our friendship did however do just the opposite of what he wanted them to do and made me closer to my husband to the point I finally broke it off and told him he had been wrong about the cheating and had no reason to be jealous up to that point, but he had finally made me realize that I loved him and instead of cheating like he had been accusing me of doing for months, I was breaking up with him to persue a relationship.

Needless to say he wasn't happy, and I've run into the guy a few times since then (and since a new baby) and he still hates me for it. I've gotten word from several people that he still goes around saying I was cheating on him all along ...

Doesn't really bother me much though, I'm in love.;)
 
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Was anyone else stolen away from a previous SO by their current SO? How has that affected u?
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I wasn't stolen, but it was through meeting my current s/o that I kinda... realised that I could do better than the person I was with at the time. I was pretty unhappy, but unmotivated about doing anything about it, because I didnt see much point - I hardly saw the person anyway. But, when I met Steve, he just treated me so well, and made me laugh, and flattered me, which built my confidence up a bit more, giving me the guts to realise that I could do better, and that I didn't need to be treated like crap.

So I thank him for that.... I guess I wasn't stolen, but just made more aware :)
 
I met my boyfriend on & off around our dorm because he lived on the first floor & I lived on the second. I noticed him watching Turner Classic Movies a lot (theatre major) & I sat down a couple of times on the couch with him & we talked about the movie. We became quite good friends after awhile, and started cuddling on the couch, watching movies & everyone thought we were dating. I finally broke up with my boyfriend I had been dating for a year by then, & he confessed his attraction to me and we went up to my room with a bottle of wine to talk it over & the rest is pleasant memories. :)
 
joannie_mhm said:
I met mine on here :)/:\

I'd seen a few pics and liked his posts, then saw the pic in this post and decided it was pretty funny to still think he was hot in that pic.

We exchanged a few funny pm's and soon after started chatting on msn, 4-5 hours a night, and found out we had an immense amount in common.
After about a month I found out he liked a weird obscure board game that I love. I'd been thinking of suggesting I go visit him and that cemented the idea in my mind, so that night I booked a flight to go see him the next weekend (he was in Sydney and I was in Brisbane).
Despite the 'bler you want to fuck' bit, at that stage it wasn't about hooking up, we just wanted to meet because we knew we'd have a great time together.

He picked me up from the airport and we watched dvd's and chatted on his couch then went to a bar with some of his friends.
Everyone had had a pill and we were sitting with one of his friends who was telling me how cool I was and how she could see he really liked me and am I going to come visit very often?
The boy says "No, she's going to come live with me". I said "Ok" straight away and the next week started to look for a job. We'd just clicked, we knew that it was the right thing to do.

About four months later I'd organised a job and packed my shit up and we drove me from Brisbane to Sydney to live with him. We've now been together 14 months :D
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That's a great story Joannie! :D

I met my husband (Mr Samadhi on here) at a recovery, of all places. It was Labour Day 1999, and i'd been to a rave the night before (Advent*jah). I went home early and had a sleep, and my flatmate arrived home gurning his brain out and persuaded me to go to the recovery, even though, technically, i'd already "recovered". ;)

At the recovery, i started chatting to a girl i was sitting next to, and we ended up swapping numbers, as she was really nice, and she was friends with a girl i went to school with. Later on, i walked outside and saw her sitting with a really hot boy (i thought they were together). I sat down, and the 3 of us started talking, and i mentioned that i wanted to go home and listen to some Portishead. He took his sunglasses off and said "Portishead are sick!". It wasn't the comment that got me, it was his eyes. I'd never seen real "bedroom eyes" before, but oh lordy, did he have them! It was so strange, i felt really comfortable with him, and i didn't even know his name. We parted company, but i couldn't stop thinking about him... that hadn't happened in a long time.

The girl i swapped numbers with worked at a restaurant, and i wanted to quit my then current job. She said that they were looking for staff, and that i should come in. I did, and on my first night i mustered up the courage to ask her if that was her boyfriend and if not, could she give him my number (i didn't feel comfortable asking for his). She said "I'm one step ahead of you, he's single and today he asked for your number because he can't stop thinking about you". I was so excited, i had butterflies in my stomach, and it was awesome.

He called the next night, and came over for spliffs, dinner and coffee. He stayed over, but nothing happened except for some kissing and snuggles.

I found out that the day we met, that night, he had a dream about me. I was apparently standing on a cliff in a long white dress, singing Kate Bush's "Wuthering Heights". I was humming it to myself the afternoon i met him, but had no idea he even heard me, as i was walking a fair way in front of him. :D He said that he spoke to his mum the next day, told her about the dream and said that he thought he may have met his "one".

That was 7 years ago, and the rest is history. :)
 
joannie_mhm said:
I met mine on here :)/:\

I'd seen a few pics and liked his posts, then saw the pic in this post and decided it was pretty funny to still think he was hot in that pic.

We exchanged a few funny pm's and soon after started chatting on msn, 4-5 hours a night, and found out we had an immense amount in common.
After about a month I found out he liked a weird obscure board game that I love. I'd been thinking of suggesting I go visit him and that cemented the idea in my mind, so that night I booked a flight to go see him the next weekend (he was in Sydney and I was in Brisbane).
Despite the 'bler you want to fuck' bit, at that stage it wasn't about hooking up, we just wanted to meet because we knew we'd have a great time together.

He picked me up from the airport and we watched dvd's and chatted on his couch then went to a bar with some of his friends.
Everyone had had a pill and we were sitting with one of his friends who was telling me how cool I was and how she could see he really liked me and am I going to come visit very often?
The boy says "No, she's going to come live with me". I said "Ok" straight away and the next week started to look for a job. We'd just clicked, we knew that it was the right thing to do.

About four months later I'd organised a job and packed my shit up and we drove me from Brisbane to Sydney to live with him. We've now been together 14 months :D
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Wow Jo... I never knew that story. That shows wonderful courage and sacrifice. If only more people in the world were prepared to risk it all, like that :).
 
ah ok, yeah i can understand those situations. i wouldn't consider it to have a negative connotation, like stealing...just being made aware like u said, which is good.

my current SO went all out after our second meeting, even though he knew i had a bf. he knew he was in love with me and was pretty sure i felt the same, so he didn't hold back too much (well i guess he did, but he didn't hold back enough). anyway, he was right, as usual. as hard as i tried to fight it, a month after our first real conversation, i had to break up with my previous bf to be with him. now i'm scared shitless that i'll do it again.
 
I met my boyfriend of a year cos he emailed me after reading my MSN profile. He thought it was cool I was so open with my schizoaffective and ADD dxs. He is bipolar and ADD. We finally met in person and found out we had so much in common and we are only 6 mo. apart in age. The day after we met I called him from my cell and asked him if he wanted to take a vacation to my apt. I went and picked him up and he stayed at my place for several months...he eventually moved in and we are quite a pair. We are inseperable.
 
I actually met him about 9 years ago, and I've been with him for 6. We've literally seen each other grow up!

His cousin and I were childhood crushes of each other, and I met him one day while hanging out with said cousin.

We didn't really talk, until a few years after, when I was at his school for a fair and concert, and he got my number. We got to know each other a bit, laughed about David Hasslehof, liked each other a bit, but didn't cross paths again really, until...

Until more than 6 years ago, I was at his prom with a friend, and he was with his then-ex. He got my number again, and we (two people who didn't want to be in relationships), dare I say, found each other for the first real time!
 
man i'm pissed i met my girl through myspace... but whatever, i couldn't be anymore happier with anyone else... but like some random girl added me as her friend, then my girlfriend was her friend and was just being nosey.. saw that i smoked and shit.. talked online a total of 3 times, the last one being that we'd meet up to chill and smoke... either of us haven't met anyone from online before.. she lives less than a mile away from me, she meets me up at the local rec center with my buddies, we just smoked and talked.. she was just so fine though, I wasn't expecting her to like me at all, I had no idea what was ahead of me.. straight up from there she just kept calling me practically every day to hang out... we were both kind of shy at first like what to say and what not, i brought her to a few parties and just chill hangouts with my buddies.. after a little while we get to know each other really really well and she's basically the female version of me, but super sexy.. now she's fuckin hooked on me. It's been like 15 or 16 months now, the word "soulmates" has been used quite often... but I'm just damn suprised that I met a fine ass girl with the perfect personality off the internet and how all this shit happened. shit like this just doesn't happen to me, I thought I'd never find anyone like this.
 
How did you meet your current significant other?

And how did you begin to pursue them?

I don't have one, so I can't comment.
 
We met in 1999 after a rave: It was a recovery put on by the rave promoters. I'd not been to the rave, and neither had he. We only spoke for a short while but left a lasting impression on eachother. He told me, the night we met, he had a dream about me, and the next day went wild trying to get my number. I was doing the same, and about a week later he called me, came over and the rest is history. We married in 2003. :) He's a good egg.
 
Met him through myspace - when I first got myspace it was as a joke because my friend set up my profile making out that I was a totally different person then who am: eg "occupation: slut"
Anyways I just went through randomly massaging tonnes of people and he wrote back and then we ended up talking lots on the phone met up and hung out for a while before he finally kissed me.

I wasn't really looking to go out with anyone because I had just been in a shit relationship so I was just looking for friends and then that happened and I was on cloud nine!

I didn't pursue him; he pursued me - although he would like to think otherwise.
 
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