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how and when to tell a girl u have hep c

i would educate them about the potential risks with blood-borne diseases definitely before sex

but i would also want to tell them before i could tell that the relationship is serious. because if the girl is already in love with you, and its a problem for her, it would just lead to a shitty situation
 
Obviously before sex. Or even oral. I would say once the relationship got somewhat serious or before you have sex, you need to tell her. That is very important.
 
llama112 said:
Obviously before sex. Or even oral. I would say once the relationship got somewhat serious or before you have sex, you need to tell her. That is very important.
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Yeah, I have a friend with it, currently going through Interferon treatment in Oman - he got with this British mutual friend who didn't mind after looking it up. They even messed around without rubs (which I wouldn't advise), but yeah, if it were me, I'd want to know at this stage.
 
Absolutely before sex. That shouldn't even be an option not to tell here. You can't get much more messed up than that not telling somebody you have a communicable disease before intimate contact.

I would be incredibly upset if somebody didn't tell me right away.. I'm talking first couple dates.
 
ugh this is tricky question, i would like to know as well...... the rejection would be awful and the potential judgement would kill me.
 
I knew someone that used to be a good friend. He had Hep C for 20 years and didn't know it. He had a family and a wife that he had sex ( un protected) for the entire time and no one in the family got hep c.

His viral count was off the chart. He went through 2 years of treatment and his viral count is 0 or near 0.

He was a partner in a business we owned. We separated because the treatment got him very paranoid and he was thinking everyone was out to get him and thought I was stealing from him.
 
Even though the chances of getting from someone through sexual contact is very low, the fact that there's any chance of giving it to someone else at all dictates that you should tell them before you have sex...

I don't think most people are aware of how difficult it is to get Hep C through sexual contact though....I'd actually rather have Hep C than herpes for a lot of reasons...

Do the same people who insist that someone should tell someone straight away if they have Hep C feel the same way about Herpes? Herpes is a lot more common, a lot more communicable and a lot easier to pass on...
 
I agree that you need to tell someone right away with hep c. My post was to show how difficult it is to get though. It's also very treatable and seems to have been cured in my friends case.

Herpes , you shouldn't be having sex at all unless you find someone that has it as well.
 
With Hep C, there's thousands of cases of people who have had it for decades and not known...They've also been married that whole time and not passed it no to their partners...There's few people I personally know for whom that's been the case, but there's also a few people who have passed it on to their partners.... In any case, you should tell someone who you're planning of having sex with, IMO....

I get this from a lot of people I met when I used to go to NA meetings...They hadn't used needles in 20+ years, showed no symptoms, but were shocked to learn they tested positive for Hep C when they finally had a test....being able to reliably test for it is a fairly recent development....
 
You're right Hues. With something like Herpes or another highly contagious disease/STD, it's definitely more important you be honest right away.

Yes, the rejection is rough and it's a hard thing to come clean about but... you have to do the right thing. Do you want to be the cause of the same pain your going through on somebody else?

It's a rough situation to be in, no doubt, but simply not telling somebody, or waiting to tell them until after you've had sex, can't be an option.
 
Hep C is blood to blood so things like oral sex are low risk, but the stories above should not make people feel safe about not using protection, or thinking they can have sex without telling their partners and not pass it to them.

People may be able to live 20 years with hep C but they will always have a shorter lifespan. Healthy people with hep C have strong immune systems right now; if their immune system ever gets weak they will start having liver problems.

You need to get anti-retroviral therapy within the first 6-10 months of infection in order to have a chance of completely clearing the virus from your body. Survival outcomes drop below 50% after that. That's why it's important to inform your partner because although they can remain asymptomatic for many years, the only way they can actually get rid of it is with early warning.

If they don't have early warning and go get tested after exposure, then they might find out 10 years down the road when it's too late to do anything about it. By then the virus has nestled permanently in their liver tissues and there will be no escape. And in the meantime, they might have passed it on to other partners.
 
Probably before you have sex. As long as you follow that rule, nobody can really get mad.

I used to drink after my friends that had Hep C all of the time. No big deal.
 
I'm not trying to downplay the seriousness of Hep C, but a lot of people are ill-informed about the risks that that particular virus carries.
 
ASAP mate. I had a girlfriend who had herpes, almost didn't tell me, terrifyingly. COULD have been awful, but she told me in time, so everything was ok in the end! :)
 
No, that was the major problem with our sex life, it was non existant! :/ What do you do with a girl with herpes?

Finger fucking with gloves? Rub her off with valtrex covered toys/fingers? I'm fine with hand jobs, but i want to pleasure a girl.

Sucked, because she was really hot and I really liked her! :(
 
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