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Home schooling children

Beaner, I will PM you sometime in the future. I am thinking of bringing my son home. He hasn't been tested yet (it is a long process) But he is highly intelligent, yet has (in my opinion after a lot of research) a language disability. Communication of basic commands are lost to him. I have it to, just not to his extent. I can't speak in person to someone. I stutter a lot, and can't remember the words I need, or understand what people say. Oral teachings are lost on me, I have to "see and do". And I am 99.9% sure my son has the same problem, and he won't get what he needs in a public school. I am sooo scared though, since I am very impatient, thanks to the damned problem that I have too. You should hear me and my boy talking to each other trying to explain things lol what a hoot, we are idiots.

Anyway, glad to see you are so involved, and I will DEFINITELY be getting in touch with you soon, after I have more plans, and questions. Hope you don't mind!!
 
^^ It sounds as if your son (and yourself) have a kinetic approach to learning. Do you have to see and do to learn? Like do you have to be the actual driver in a car before you grasp directions? Or does the teacher sound Greek to you and then later you would try to figure it out for yourself?
A large percentage of dyslexics also fall into this range.
This is certainly one type that is very hard to reach in conventional pubic schooling.
There's many techniques to reach him you just have to learn the right methods.This is not hard and you would enjoy reading and learning about it. I have plenty of homeschool sites that offer links and books about the subject as well as test to take to determine your learning style for sure. Feel free to PM me anytime. I homeschooled in Florida for 6 1/2 years and can probably answer all your questions. If youre in the Orlando area there are some great homeschool groups there i could suggest joining. They have a very large network of homeschoolers there. ~ Staci
 
sounds great. I have found a group here, just need to contact them. Independent Homeschoolers Network.

Not being christian, I had to find a group that wasn't fundified!! Some of the christian groups are downright nuts, as I am sure you know from your experience.

I have the contacts, just haven't gone that far yet. I am really not sure how successful I would be, because of my problems. Ideally, I need other moms, that I would be with on a regular basis, so I can use their help for what I can't do, and when I get frustrated. Not just the weekly get togethers.

I am in palm bay BTW, just south of melbourne. remember from the other thread, ask Frances, she will tell ya where I am, she is heading right for me!! :\
 
I was homeschooled when I was a kid. It wasn't ideal, mostly 'cause my mum is a fruit loop, but it was still better than school. I didn't get stuck waiting for all the other kids in a class where the teacher couldn't & wouldn't handle or challenge me.

Extension classes /= an extra 2 pages of easy math problems.
 
I was homeschool half of seventh, eighth, ninth, and tenth then I took an exit exam and enrolled in college at 17. I was pretty much left to my own devices after ninth grade because my parents didn't have the energy or resources needed to properly school me anymore. In seventh/eighth grade I went to a homeschooling/tutoring group kind of like beanergrl describes.

Like any decision it had negative and positive consequences to deal with. I gained a lot more confidence in college than I think I ever would have in High school. I'm still working on the social skills part. I don't think being homeschoold isolated me to the facts of how the world works because right after I took that exit exam I took myself to San Francisco and saw for myself just how the world really works.

Seems to me there are plenty of people who were in high school who also could be isolated to how the world works too. High school is not the world, the world is the world and it's up to you what you make of it. I had some pretty negative early schooling experiences and wasn't going to let others define my life for me anymore. Maybe it's good, maybe it's bad, but it worked for me because here I am today right on schedule and with loads more experience than I otherwise would have gotten having stayed in the public education system. If I had stayed I would have continuously floundered and become very bored. I'm not about to be polite just so the school can get the state money meanwhile I'm not getting the quality schooling I deserve. Fk that. :X

Peace.
 
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I was homeschooled half my life, benifits are you get to do it at home get it done much quicker but you have no friends....
 
i simply have no faith in public school systems and can't afford private schools. i am not confident enough in myself to be any kind of "teacher", which is why i never became a soccer coach - which is why my child will not be homeschooled by me. i haven't looked into private tutors yet, i can imagine they are equally as expensive as a private school. i've got some time to decide all this stuff so i'm not sure what will happen over the next 5 years...
 
Heres some things that I know. I was homeschooled for 1 year as a sophmore. My mom took me out of school because I was getting into a lot of trouble( mind you a went to higher class school not a run down school). I hated her for a very long time because of it but as the year went by i liked it more and yes i did go back to school the next year but she still homeschools my siblings and they love it. And yes they do get the social stuff as well. My mom actually runs a class that runs all day once or twice a week and they teach spanish sign language, social studies english you name it. They also have at least in Ohio where the state has a program were they take classes online and each student gets a computer and school supplies. Another thing about the social part of it my 18 yr old brother got to go to Mexico for his homeschool studies with 30 other homeschoolers where they worked in orphange and learned the culture. I can't say that it is for everyone but for some people it does work. I also for a 3 year old and I am considering having her homeschooled by someone not me. For one i couldn't stay at home with her all day i would go nuts but with the way public schools are now. I don't want something to happen to her
 
Dandy said:
There are absolutely no benefits of it. Any positive effects of homeschooling are overshadowed by too many negatives associated with the practice.
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wow, has your coursework reached the oh so critical "how to NOT contradict yourself within the same paragraph" lesson? let me know if you need to borrow some notes or study guides as that exam may be a rough one for ya8)

not having children i dont really know where i come out on this argument. i think in the past home schoolers got a bad rep due to the types of people who were home schooling ( aka social misfits / religious fanatics). i think more recently a wide variety of people have lost faith in the public school system and are taking matters into their own hands, and if we're using beaner as any type of measuring stick they're bloody organized.

i think that homeschooling has a lot more to offer children than it once did but im not sure that i would choose it for my own kids. seriously this kind of decision is what makes me wonder if i ever want kids. the idea of loving someone so much and raising them in a certain way and having all that dashed in a few short bus rides would be enough to send me on some sort of rampage:\

actually venus if this is an area that interests you there's an awesome book you should check out, a work of fiction called "alice i think" which basically is a light hearted story about a teenage girl's struggle to assimilate into a "normal" school setting after being home schooled

link to the book on amazon
 
Is it really still homeschool if you're going to a lot of group meetings with other children? At what point do you move from homeschool to charter school (legally)?
 
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Is it really still homeschool if you're going to a lot of group meetings with other children? At what point do you move from homeschool to charter school (legally)?
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Yes it is, because by going to the group meetings you are in a way selecting the type of people you going with because you set goals, rules and standards. Most of the time you have the same faith as the other people.
 
I was homeschooled as well for my jr. and sr. year. I would have dropped out otherwise. I feel that it was good for that reason, but I also feel that I did not learn as much as I could have if in a normal school. As for social life, since I was a jr. I knew many people and never was lonley.
 
I was homeschooled all through elementary and middle school, and now I'm a junior making high B's to high A's. I don't think that homeschooling does anything bad to a child except for maybe keeping him/her from meeting people. But I met many people when I was homeschoioled; almost all the friends I have now I made when I was homeschooled. I think that students can get a better education at home because they get the one on one experience. Kids at school get told something and if they need help the teacher may not make time for them because the rest of the class may be ahead of them. In homeschooling if you need help, you can spend all the time you need on that one thing. You don't get left behind and you dont have to wait for the teacher to get done with other students. I also got to go on many trips that my peers didn't because I didn't have set school times. I think that homeschooling is something beneficial to a child. Of course, I dont recommend it for eveyone but I think that for some people, such as myself, it's great. It also helps to have someone to teach you that is patient and knows how to many things such as science, math, history, etc. But, I think that homeschooling should be done through high school. High school is a great experience.
 
I would think that kids need social interaction with other kids of all different types of gender, ethnicity, class etc so they know about the "variety" of people in society and how to actually communicate with other people as they grow and learn.

To become a teacher you study for four years. I don't think just anyone can home school a child.

Although there are alot of kids with learning disabilities and kids who think on different levels that the traditional school environment doesn't work with them and they need to be taught a different way. So i guess it cmes down to the individual.
 
>>Is this a good thing?

I think it depends on the family. If they're dysfunctional, of course the kid's not going to turn out well, but that's obvious even if the kid goes to school. A mostly stable family should do fine.

>>Should it be appropriate only during certain points of a childs education (elementary, middle, high..?)

Probably best during elementary or middle school. Not sure about high school. I know someone who was homeschooled and then went to high school and thought the system was complete bullshit, but lots of others have had good experiences with it. It depends on the school, I guess.

>>Benefits/disadvantages

Benefits: advanced education (in most cases), and more time to oneself to read, travel, volunteer, explore and LEARN.
Disadvantages: loneliness, if one's family is the type to hang around the house all day... oh, and having to explain yourself to every damn person who asks.

>>Are most parents who do it qualified?

If they are generally stable and intelligent people I think they'll do fine.

Anyone been homeschooled?

I was homeschooled from first grade until college. I liked it for the most part, though in my early teen years I wanted more of a social life than I had. Certainly made up for it later, though. Now I have too much of a social life... lol... But it's hard to grow up in an "alternative" way and have to deal with all the negative stereotypes that people have about it. I get tired of trying to justify myself to people who claim that I'm probably socially, mentally, and educationally deprived etc. Giving explainations becomes redundant and useless, so now I figure that people can just meet me and decide for themselves whether I'm a maladjusted retard or a nice, interesting person (I think most decide the latter :))
 
Not to make a mockery out of this thread but did you guys see this thread yet.. this man lives minutes away from me....

Pennsylvania Man Homeschools Children because....

Just like one poster said it's people like this social misfits/religious fanatics that give homeschooling a bad name.....

I was never homeschooled but did go from a Public elementery school to a private school for middle then back to public for high school.....

Of course I got a better education at the private school 24 sudents to each class.. Only one class per grade in the school... It was very hard to "adjust" to private school life.... going back to public school was a sinch though

If I where homeschooled I dunno I wouldnt want to be homeschooled during my high school years... This is where I met great friends and started to make decisions about MY future not my parents vission of what they wanted my future to be......
 
no way in hell are my parents homeschooling me. Thta like my worst nightmare. I couldnt stand it. Id just run away o_O
 
>>I would think that kids need social interaction with other kids of all different types of gender, ethnicity, class etc so they know about the "variety" of people in society and how to actually communicate with other people as they grow and learn.
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Excepting gender, this sure as hell didn't happen at my high school. With continuing gheto-ization on one hand and suburbanization on the other, is this likely to be happening in other high-schools?

>>You could even look at theories of gender identity as just one argument to support going to school and not being home schooled. Socialisation plays a huge role in gender identity>>

What if you stand in radical opposition to our culture's set of gender-roles (and the binary construction of gender)? :)

>>Firstly, in my opinion the mother/father would need to be qualified in some form. Education is like any other career and to become a teacher means studying for many years.
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You have a good point. Intelligence is one thing. Teaching is another.

ebola
 
^^ so you didn't interact with anyone that was different to yourself at highschool? Everyone was from exactly the same backgrounds?
 
Everyone at my high school was upper-middle class (with some from the petite-bourgeois and bourgeois classes). 90 percent or so of the students were white. There were some Asians, and about 3 black people out of 1000 students.

now, of course I interacted with people different from myself...but not in terms of the demographics you listed.

ebola
 
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