It seems you were waiting for someone to say do it as 10 people have told you not to do it and one or two have said its ok, and your going to listen to the minority? People arent using scare tactics, theyre speaking from personal experience! Im sorry but you dont sound like the most mature or responsible person as everyone in here is giving you good, personal advice and they are in no way trying to make you scared or anxious, you are making yourself anxious by trying to convince yourself that somehow you will be fine mixing benzos and alcohol when its possible and you know its possible that you wont be ok. You might be fine the first time but have a similar or even smaller amount next time and not be ok. Its unlikely you will die but more likely do something stupid or dangerous and black out. If you did die it wouldnt likely be due to an OD but something resulting from your behavious under the infuence. Ive walked head on to cars on a main road once before, I didnt snap out of it until the car beeped and I obviously wasnt blacked out then as I remember it, so I probably wasnt on that much.
I suffer from very bad anxiety myself and have for many years so I know how it feels to just want a second of relief from the constant struggle. Ive mixed benzos and alcohol and been fine, but there are other times that ive mixed benzos with a small amount of acohol and done some very stupid and dangerous things. We have tried to tell you that its not a good idea but you dont want to listen. What more do you want? We could lie to you and tell you that you will definitely be fine even if you do take a small amount but thats not what bluelight is about, its about factual information and harm reduction surrounding drug use and that lie would be providing you with neither factual information or HR.
Do what you will but I suggest against it, I have a feeling your going to go against all of our advice and do it anyway. Id suggest to just take more of the benzo, even up to 15-20mg isnt going to make you OD, try taking 15mg at once when your especially anxious at home with your gf with no alcohol and tell us how it goes, if you dont get any relief from your anxiety then maybe valium isnt for you.
Good luck.