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He deleted me off of facebook

chr0niclove

chr0niclove

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This guy I met earlier this year just recently deleted me off facebook. I know it sounds stupid but I am actually kind of upset over this. What bothers me the most is he gave me no reason on why he did this. I tried messaging him but no response. I mean seriously he could not just man up and tell me he didn't want to be friends anymore? We always texted and messaged each other, things were great. We hungout a few times and made additional plans together. He even seemed interested in me and I was also interested in him but I didn't think it was the right time to make a move. Other than that everything was going well until he did this. I know it was not by accident or whatever.. Should I just move on or try to talk to him another time? I mean it sucks because he seemed like an awesome dude but I don't know anymore.
 
If this muppet doesn't want you as a friend or more then just tell yourself it's his loss. People get into snits in cyberspace all the time and you're never likely to know what he means by this action,so just let it go.There will,sadly, be many more occasions in life when you will have to follow this advice.
 
JJ-180 said:
If this muppet doesn't want you as a friend or more then just tell yourself it's his loss. People get into snits in cyberspace all the time and you're never likely to know what he means by this action,so just let it go.There will,sadly, be many more occasions in life when you will have to follow this advice.
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Yeah, it kind of sucks but oh well shit happens I suppose. Its just I never had a guy do this to me before. And I did nothing wrong. I'm just hoping I don't see him around the city or he doesn't end up going to the same college as me. Since thats what he was planning on doing (not because of me). We also go to the same concerts/club events and I'm not sure if I should confront him or act like he doesn't exist.
 
If you are keen on him, tell him.

Otherwise don't worry about him deleting you off facebook. In my experience and opinion, guys don't value or look at friendships at all with the same importance or in the same way as women do.

My honest reaction is he probly didn't sleep with you so he doesn't care. Maybe just a general facebook cleanup of too many contacts?
 
Like it was more than just facebook. Our relationship wasn't based on the internet.. its just we could contact each other on there more and now he deleted me after he told me he wanted me to talk to him through there since he checks it a lot. He did cleanup his friends list but I don't know why he just totally got rid of me. He was also the one making plans as well so its not as if I was the crazy chick bothering him a lot...I wasn't lol just making a point. And I do like him but then I feel like an idiot if I tell him now. Like I dropped subtle hints here and there but not sure if he got it... I'm not sure if he deleted me because he thought I wasn't interested, or he thought I was a loser or something... I don't know and thats what's bothering me right now.
 
He is prop messing with other Pootang and dosn't want them to find out about each other... Hence cleaned up the facebook account so the ladies do not find out about each other.... From a guys point of view... id say leave it alone or keep it as F/b or straight up friend
 
Could have been a jealous girlfriend? Could have been a move he had to make to move on with his life (shoulda told you about it tho)..

Get over it :P
 
The thing was we were basically friends. There was no sex, no kissing and no anything. That's what we wanted so it's not like he left because I wasn't giving him anything. We just chilled and sometimes would do psychedelics together or smoke some weed. That's all and he didn't have a girlfriend at the time and still doesn't. He isn't the type of guy who has all different bitches. And he would of told me if he had a girlfriend cause we weren't dating at all and I didn't even tell him that I had feelings for him. It was a friendship and that's all. He even told me that he didn't want to just fuck me or anything he just thought it was cool to have another person to talk to and relate to.

So that's why I'm confused. And it's not like he was just a random dude. So it's kind of hard just to go oh okay whatever cya later.
 
Unbreakable said:
He is prop messing with other Pootang and dosn't want them to find out about each other... Hence cleaned up the facebook account so the ladies do not find out about each other.... From a guys point of view... id say leave it alone or keep it as F/b or straight up friend
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You know, this is probably not far from correct.

OP, I had the "Not in a relationship" happen to me on Facebook. It's weird, because you know it's retarded to care, but it DOES bother you.

Try to tell yourself that it's just FB. It really doesn't matter. Fuck him.
 
Lysis said:
You know, this is probably not far from correct.

OP, I had the "Not in a relationship" happen to me on Facebook. It's weird, because you know it's retarded to care, but it DOES bother you.

Try to tell yourself that it's just FB. It really doesn't matter. Fuck him.
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The thing is he deleted a lot of people off his page including tons of guys. That made me wonder as well... I don't know what's up with him. I guess I should lay it to rest for now. Haha I was going to send in that message well fuck you thanks for nothing... lol but I changed my mind. Oh well he didn't even respond to that.
 
Captain.Heroin said:
Grow up, get some friends who don't have facebook accounts. Realize that "facebook friends" doesn't always equate to mean that there's a real friendship there.
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Omg, does everyone not realize he was not just a facebook friend? We hungout on different occasions and to keep in contact we added each other on facebook since we don't exactly live in the same area. Then he deletes me and I'm wondering why because we are friends well were. It's not about facebook. I get deleted by some people sometimes and I don't even care but this time it's different.
 
Yeah but you're complaining that they deleted you off of facebook. Not that he didn't show up somewhere he said he was going to, not because he cheated on you in the middle of a sexual relationship... you're just complaining he removed you as a friend on facebook.

I'm sure you can find 20 more people to be your facebook friend. 200 if you spent enough time at it. ;)
 
No, I don't care that he deleted me off of facebook exactly. Like I mean that would be cool and whatever but the point was that was basically the only way for him to contact me because my phone is off. And whatever but then he deletes me. The point is he doesn't want to be friends anymore and I don't know why? I don't know why he randomly decided that we don't need to talk anymore. If you read what I'm actually saying. When I asked him about it I got no response....so that tells me it was more than just deleting someone... he just doesn't want to be anything at all anymore. This is more than just facebook. It's just the deletion just made me go what the hell?

Like I said I really don't give a fuck about facebook friends. I have enough, it wasn't about losing a number. It was about he cut off all contact with me. When we were just friends like the other day and then we're not. And by friends I mean in real life not on facebook like the friend count or whatever. That's what I'm saying.
 
If he randomly went to drug rehab he is probably in a position where he's unable to contact you.

Or you could assume he went crazy and is not the same person anymore.

Does it matter that he stopped talking to you? Just find some new friends. :)
 
Captain.Heroin said:
If he randomly went to drug rehab he is probably in a position where he's unable to contact you.

Or you could assume he went crazy and is not the same person anymore.

Does it matter that he stopped talking to you? Just find some new friends. :)
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He's not in rehab and I'm sure he's not crazy. I mean if someone you talked to a lot and considered your friend just randomly broke off contact with you wouldn't you be wondering why? I'm sure you would be and that's all I am doing right now. I know theres not much I can do and I should just let it go but I wish I could find the reason why he did this... but whatever.
 
I wouldn't wonder about it because most of the time I know why things like that happen. All you have to do is analyze what the last times you spent with the person was like.

I'm typically the one cutting other people out of my life though, and I don't just do it arbitrarily, I do it because other people start to suck.

Maybe your friend got addicted to drugs so he's busy nodding out all the time? You never really know. He might just be severely depressed and may not want to be around anyone else right now, he may not even want to talk to anyone else.
 
Yeah, I'm usually the one who cuts people out of my life as well. That's why this is confusing to me...and the last time we were together he told me he had a great time and he meant that. Also he's not into opiates at all and is mainly psychedelics/marijuana.

Maybe he did get a girlfriend, it's impossible for me to know right now.
 
^i feel like your responses indicate that you have feelings for him that you're unwilling to be honest with yourself about. i could be wrong, but i'm just throwing it out there. either way, don't waste your damn time thinking about something that A. you probably aren't going to get an explanation for or B. you probably won't like the rationale for even if you do.
 
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