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Have You Ever Been in an Affair?

Bearlove said:
So because somebody told you it was wrong then :). If you hold yourself accountable for the situation, you are not being disrespectful to yourself?

I've had affairs, I've been in relationships when the other person has had an affair. I can sort of shrug it off :)
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society and abiding by the unwritten "rules" of relationships tells us all its wrong to engage in an affair; its a personal choice as to whether we abide by those standards or not. as said earlier, i dont judge those who dont, i was simply stating my reasons for choosing to because you asked me to. :)

have you ever experienced an encounter where the third person has discovered and or retaliated to the affair you were engaging in? and if so, what sort of outcome results? for you personally, and their relationship from therein.

...kytnism...:|
 
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kytnism said:
could i have sex with another person that was cheating on his partner? no. it speaks in volumes about his level of commitment and moral compass in general. would i care? yes i would. interfering in anothers personal life is wrong. why do "we" care? because we should. i would never want to be an accessory to infidelity. should we care? yes we should. were human and adults and know right from wrong. engaging in an affair is morally wrong and you are an accessory to the pain and infidelity within a relationship/union. why? because we have self respect. enough to warrant accountability in the situation.

...kytnism...:|
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well said.
 
MrSquizz said:
HAHAHA. Bro, you sound like someone who hasn't got laid in about 12 years. U MAD BRO? Not me. #WINNING. =D
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No, he sounds like someone who is at least semi grown-up. You sound like an immature, self absorbed dick.

@Lysis. Re friends of opposite sex.

I guess that depends on the style of relationship you have and the nature of your friends. Ms.G and I basically glued to each other so it does not really matter if they're potential sexual partners or not; we can't go behind each other's back anyways.
They're also all really respectful for the most part and we don't generally hang out with anyone who seems to be sexually motivated in their friendship. I've noticed that far more boys than girls tend to be like that and then drop off quickly after Ms.G declines to hang out with them one-on-one/we hang out a few times and I'm always there and usually another friend or two as well. It's fucking lolz cause they always insist they just want to be friends. But I digress...
 
Bearlove said:
Just to take this a bit further - So if you spoke up about having outside of the relationship thing, and you were both comfortable with it (not wrong, not hurtful, no way betrayal) - would you sleep with another person you knew was married?

There is no dragging a person through a crisis - there is no crisis, you meet somebody you like, you want to have sex with them

To them it would be an affair - to you and your partner it was just sex?
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The problem is that it will sometimes end up being a "crisis" or at least involving lots of drama!! (depending on how long and how it plays out). But with affairs often the married or attached person who is doing the cheating ends up either feeling guilty or the SO finds out (which causes drama)...I guess in the event that it is a one or two time thing then no strings attached it might not involve anything but sex but if it goes on for long there usually are some repercussions somewhere down the line.

Im not judging anyone but some might say that karma can be a bitch and someday when you are involved with someone who it would really hurt you if they cheated on you that it might come back to bite you in the ass...I dont know though.
 
rangrz said:
Over all, I've never found it appealing to be with someone who is not being open and honest in their communication with all of their partners. [...]
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Yeah, this one. I've continued to see occasionally an ex (and we are still friends, though she claims she wants to be back with me), and over the years I heard and saw just so many lies, tricks, ruses and disguises that I cannot believe her anymore even when she talks about food or tv series :\ On the good side, I've learned a bunch of tricks myself and got better (hopefully) at catching liars :P
 
I didn't feel bad at first, but over time you realize that a married man cheating on his wife is sort of self absorbed, needy and manipulative and he just needs to go home to his wife and kids, for real though!
 
I had sex with a married woman for a long time. She was married 3 times over the course of our on and off again relationship.

She did express wanting to marry me at one time, but earlier had warned me to never marry her. She was a walking contradiction.

I have shagged other married women. I don't feel that bad because they would have fucked someone else if I hadn't. I find army wives to be sluttier than average for married women. Now that I know how much married women cheat the idea of marriage scares me.

Its good to remember if a woman is unfaithful to her partner, she probably will not be faithful to you. Also there is the possibility of her husband beating you up or even worse. Also if/when it gets out, it will make you look like an awful person and make it harder for you to get in a good relationship.

So having sex with married people can make you look like an ass and its best not to get emotionally attached as they will not be committed to you no matter what they say. It kind of sucks if you fancy a woman and she knows you were carrying on with a married woman and she no longer is in to you due to that reason.

That type of behavior is hard to live down. I would advise against it. I would definitely advise against forming any emotional attachment to someone your shagging who is a cheater.

Also using protection is a good idea if you absolutely must shag a married woman. I think a 12 gauge shotgun or AR15 or AK 47 works well for the home and a 9 mm handgun or 357 revolver is good for the car and around town. (joke, kinda)

But seriously use a condom. Imagine getting a married women pregnant and paying her child support and her staying with her husband or being sued for alienation of affection. It would really suck to be a married couples paycheck. Also people that fuck around tend to carry diseases.
 
I used to be in a "secret open relationship" with my ex for many, many months. It was great. I didn't like her gf, so I felt no remorse.
 
I cheat/ have cheated on every partner i have ever had.
most times the men i used to cheat on my boyfriends with were married and i never felt bad, even when i was single.
i think we should just enjoy the company of others without all the complications of relationships.
and yes all the affairs were very exciting.
 
Last year, I had this thing going with this married broad. I was single at the time, and shit.. it was fun. I knew up front that she was married, but hey, if she's down, I'm not gonna complain. I had some awesome times with her. She told me it was revenge to get him back for some shit he did. Whatever.

But she was grimy about it though. We'd meet up and fuck, usually a half hour - hour sessions, cause she couldn't be gone for too long at a time. But anyways, we'd meet up, fuck [with condoms on, always. fuck getting a married broad prego!] but I'd always cum all over her face/tits, and obviously if I was jizzing on her face, I was getting it on her lips/tongue/mouth. Well, we'd depart and go our separate ways... & she would text me later that night, telling me how when she got home she'd give her husband kisses, and giving him tongue and shit, and then fuck him.

...Now THAT is grimy as fuck to do to someone. But, hey.. what did I care. I just don't understand how her husband didn't know something was up. Cause uh, I'd blow her out, so yeah..

Damn, actually writing that out, I kinda feel like an asshole now. But, from what I know, that marriage was ruined before I even got involved. They're divorced now, and I don't even talk to her anymore. Once she became single, I really didn't wanna fuck her anymore. Is that wrong? Lol. Like, once I was able to fuck her without ANY type of consequences, it wasn't fun anymore.
 
Well, I can't match the story above me, ahem..... /shakes head.

But, I can say that I've been involved in affairs from both sides...
And no thanks.
I'm over hurting. (and being hurt)
 
Never. If I am unhappy or not satisfied with my partner we talk about it. If we can't solve it then we have ended it and we both moved on to other people. I’ve obviously fantasized about other people but to actually do it, I just can’t wrap my head around it. I have always had too much respect for the people I have been involved with.

As for being involved with someone that’s with someone else when I’m single.. nah. I know a few people that have been put in the ICU for that. Not about to go down that road.
 
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Woah, some of the posts in this thread...

Please note any posts glorifying rape and the like will be removed, though I'd've thought that was obvious...
 
Nope and while I did fantasize about it I would never act on it. Say what you want but I wouldn't want to be cheated on therefore I'm not about to do it to someone else.
 
If you don't feel bad, and it's obviously consensual then that's for you to deal and live with, BUT if you're caught, you'll face her husband like a man. You'll look him in the eye and tell him what you did and deal with whatever his reactions are, because honestly whether he's a mate or not (if he is fucking shame on you) that shit can destroy people.

If you guys get caught just be an adult about it, otherwise I don't think you can really justify your attitude without coming to the conclusion you're a massively selfish prick.

I hope this isn't considered offensive, I'm just being blunt on how I feel about it. But really I see nothing wrong with it really as long as you intend to handle any potential consequences like an adult and not a coward. Same with anything really I guess.
 
So shameful.. I think it speaks volumes about the character of those in here who are saying, "Oh yeah, I'd bang a married chick." "Sure, I'd do a married man!" Just goes to show that they're either sociopaths, and incapable of feeling normal human emotions, or they're just selfish bastards/bitches. I mean, clearly, if one of the people in the relationship feels the need to cheat, then it's not exactly a typical, "Happy relationship," I get that. But generally, it's just one partner being worthless and screwing around on the other. In effect, by contributing to the situation, all you're doing is ruining someone else's happiness. Wasn't the golden rule like the first thing everybody learned? Lord knows if someone was doing my (metaphorical) woman behind my back, they would get hurt. Like, severely hurt. I'm a fairly angry person, and have been known to black out on occasion (totally sober, just from anger) and do some pretty crazy shit. Which is just another thing to worry about. Keep it up, and sooner or later, some pissed off spouse is gonna deliver you an incredibly well-deserved ass whoopin'.

I don't know, I guess where I'm trying to go with all this is I really don't understand why people can't just have respect for the feelings of others. By no means am I playing the "holier than thou" game, but seriously.. I couldn't even comprehend doing that to some poor guy. Because I'm not a fucking terrible person. The ONE exception I would make to this whole thing is if she was being beaten. Any man who lays his hands on a woman, not only deserves to get his face bashed in, but also to have his right to call himself a man revoked. If you can't call yourself a man, and your wife or gf isn't a lesbian, then it's fair game. That is the complete and total only exception I could ever make.

Of course, this is just me personally. Different strokes for different folks. Just find it a bit sickening, that's all.
 
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