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Guys: do you have a preference in what comes first?

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SarahPotter

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No, I don't mean who comes first

It's the first time i've ever been in a relationship, (yeah i'm pretty young lol) the guy is a little older than me so I sometimes worry if he will feel weird/guilty about telling me exactly what he wants.
I usually give him a BJ first until he finishes and then we have sex...
I don't know if he would prefer a change in order or like sex in between so that he finishes after. He's so laid back about everything which i love, but i would much rather he tell me than keep it quiet. Saying this, I may be paranoid and he may like things the way they are

Any advice?? Thanks
 
My gf usually starts with a BJ but not until I finish, but I'm sure the guy can't complain, he's getting BJ's and sex.

But mixing it up is always good, get him to finish with sex and see how it is
 
Curious what you mean by "finish"? I could be mistaken as to what you're saying, but as a man, I know that after I 'finish', I'm...well....finished. :)

...or do you mean when he's simply done getting head and now wants to have sex?

If the latter, you're already worrying too much. Sex should be natural and intuitive. Just do what feels right, switch it up, surprise him and you might surprise yourself. Confidence in bed is EVERYTHING, not just for the man. An unsure or visibly nervous girl is not attractive and can make your man second guess himself or think you're not completely into it.

Normally, once penetration takes place, that's the last thing that happens before I finish. We may use several positions and things, but it's all penetration from that point on, simply because it's the most pleasurable for the both of us because her (and my) favorite thing is baby-makin' practice. :)

One thing you could try (if you're into this) is have sex with him and right before he comes pull yourself off him and take his explosion in your mouth, or on your chest or something, that's always a fun switch-up especially if you're using condoms. Busting into a condom is quite lack luster for both parties.
 
I like BJs, but I like sex way better.

My gf and I normally just go straight to the sex.

That's my preference anyway.
 
YES, polish coat of arms.. You are the shit. Getting it tattooed next month.
Generally, for me.. Make out, nip lick, muff dive, dome, maybe a 69'er, then it's on n crackin.. Am I the only one who loves eating muff?!
 
OP
Aren't you forgetting about yourself and what YOU want to do?
What about a 69 before intercourse or you could blow him, then switch so that he goes down on you, then sexual intercourse or whatever combination comes natural to you?
Kinda sounds like you´re all about what he wants, and you should be if you love him so thats great, but don't forget about your own needs in the process, there should be plenty of room/time for the both of you.
The thing is, you can actually make the sex even hotter for him, just by the act of you enyoing yourself even more, than I assume that you already do.
Personally, some of the moments with my gf that stands clearest in mind, was times where it was all about her.
 
Sourtulip said:
OP
Aren't you forgetting about yourself and what YOU want to do?
What about a 69 before intercourse or you could blow him, then switch so that he goes down on you, then sexual intercourse or whatever combination comes natural to you?
Kinda sounds like you´re all about what he wants, and you should be if you love him so thats great, but don't forget about your own needs in the process, there should be plenty of room/time for the both of you.
The thing is, you can actually make the sex even hotter for him, just by the act of you enyoing yourself even more, than I assume that you already do.
Personally, some of the moments with my gf that stands clearest in mind, was times where it was all about her.
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Listen to this person. If he sees you in ecstasy, it will put him there too. Be confident, there's nothing more of a turn-off than a girl who's acting all unsure and insecure.
 
ykm420 said:
YES, polish coat of arms.. You are the shit. Getting it tattooed next month.
Generally, for me.. Make out, nip lick, muff dive, dome, maybe a 69'er, then it's on n crackin.. Am I the only one who loves eating muff?!
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Hell yeah dude.

Polska!
 
I totally agree with above posters about the mutual ecstasy. One of my most memorable sexual experiences was during MDMA and i made my GF cum 10 times before I even did and I actually didn't want to cum because I was enjoying seeing her get off so much
 
ticking, if you want to see naked people on BL, go into the lounge. we have a nudie thread where girls post themselves naked. this is most assuredly not the place for that.

OP: I enjoy a good blowjob for sure. but I get hotter when I see my wife enjoying herself. she is somewhat insecure about her body, so I know that when she's writhing around, grabbing herself and me, not caring about whats fat or muscle, I've done my job. nothing more enjoyable for me than watching her cum first. then its my turn.

but I suppose that's not the question... I have no real preference. as long as I'm hard first we can go straight to sex, or whatever.
 
donkeyPUNCH said:
she is somewhat insecure about her body, so I know that when she's writhing around, grabbing herself and me, not caring about whats fat or muscle, I've done my job. nothing more enjoyable for me than watching her cum first. then its my turn.
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Exactly this. Nothing better, nothing at all. One time we took MDMA together in our bedroom, and I left to go to the bathroom, and when I came back she was just squirming around in bed doing exactly what you said, and I caught myself in a rush of euphoria just standing there watching her enjoying herself.
 
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