Guys - do you find it a turn off when girls are catty?

[Frankie Catalono]

drama is never good.
if a guy thinks so he deserves her and leave the sane women for the good men.

 

[zephyr]

I think guys find bitching amongst girls to be quite amusing, rather than a turn off. Women who are bitches towards other women, and tend to have more male than female friends, are more likely to sleep with their friend's boyfriends IMO- they put getting with the guy ahead of any friendship with the girl.

Women who aren't so competitive with each other, especially over who would be getting the most attention from guys, would not be so easy for the guy to get into bed and are more likely to maintain good friendships with guys as well as girls.

Does that make any sense at all?

 

[vibr8tor]

Women who are bitches towards other women, and tend to have more male than female friends, are more likely to sleep with their friend's boyfriends IMO- they put getting with the guy ahead of any friendship with the girl.

i agree. and i think a lot of them use the excuse "I just can't really relate to other females; they're bitchy and I don't like the drama that comes along with having friends that are girls." it seems like a giant red flag for either sex to claim that they can't relate to others of their own gender. It's half of the fucking population; learn some goddamned people skills and widen your horizons

 

[lady grey]

I know women who are friends with plenty of females who seem to have no problems with sleeping with friends boyfriends. It doesn't come down to gender or who they are friends with. It comes down to their morals.

 

[zephyr]

^ I think that means they are not really capable of having a good female friendship to justify fucking their boyfriends. Superficial aquaintances? Yes. But true friends? Unlikely.

 

[lady grey]

^ That is true in some cases. I guess i just don't see things as black and white as that. Some people can justify anything to themselves. And that does come down to their moral core.

But i do agree, no true friend would ever think about fucking their friends boyfriend thats for sure.

 

[Beatlebot]

Bitch, I don't wanna fuck your man! :D

Women just compete with more intensity, like they're more urgent/anxious/worried about being with someone.

If a guy can't get a chick, he's peaceful with the world and accepts it.

You are obviously new around here, welcome

 

[zephyr]

If a guy can't get a chick, he's peaceful with the world and accepts it.

Some guys and girls would believe that persistence is the answer. If everyone who was attracted to someone they could not have felt at peace with it, there would be so much more happiness.

I gotta get me this attitude.

 

[MyDoorsAreOpen]

yeah zephyr, I don't see a correlation between women who are friends with mostly men and women who instigate love triangles. Quite a lot of the chicks I've known who prefer the company of men aren't promiscuous at all. In fact, I've heard guys claim they're HARDER to seduce, since they tend to see each new guy as a potential friend and nothing more.

This is not to defend such women. Sure, there may be some women who just think more like men and relate to men more on a heart to heart level. But I think most 'guys' girls', underneath it all, have an unhealthy appetite for attention from men, for whatever psychological reason.

 

[zephyr]

Its a little difficult to explain , for me, about different types of relationships between men and women.

A lot of people refer to what I think of as aquaintances as friends. There is a big difference. A female can have a huge crowd of people she would call friends, both male and female, yet have no hesitation in causing these people grief by inciting love triangles and having affairs with their friend's partners.

So does this female, who acts this way, really have good friends in the first place?

Having said that, one of my best girlfriends does have a lot of female friend, but even more male friends. And these relationships are a lot more solid with less drama, as she is "one of the boys". And the girls in her life are not in any way wary that she will make the moves on their boys.

Trancegirlie is right about the morality of the person in question. It does depend on what that female defines as a good friend, and how her friends would see her behaviour.

 

[wizekrak]

This is not to defend such women. Sure, there may be some women who just think more like men and relate to men more on a heart to heart level. But I think most 'guys' girls', underneath it all, have an unhealthy appetite for attention from men, for whatever psychological reason.

Ditto

 

[drugfukkdrockstar]

I know women who are friends with plenty of females who seem to have no problems with sleeping with friends boyfriends. It doesn't come down to gender or who they are friends with. It comes down to their morals.

Absolutely.

I don't agree that it's as black and white to say that chicks who are friends with mostly males than females are the most catty and manipulative of all. That's a load of bull crap. I have more male friends than female friends. By choice? No. I would love to have a nice group of female friends to giggle with, shop with, gossip with.. all that jazz. But i don't and for some reason that i can't seem to explain but my boyfriend seems to, i just tend to get along better with males. This took my boyfriend a while to understand but after being with me for 3 years and seeing me in group situations and how i interact with people, he now can see that i just at the end of the day get along better with males. IF i do get along with girls, they are the types who hold no jealousy towards other females, are usually older and at a mature age and past all the bullshit, and/or who are completely content with their boyfriends or whatever. THOSE women i get along with. Believe it or not, they are a rare kind.

Regardless of the amounts of times i have been burned from females, i still don't let it stop me from trying to interact with them. THOSE types of females who choose to cut off all people from the female race are indeed ones i am certainly concerned about. That is outright judging and not giving anyone a chance. But i do, regardless of how shit i have been treated, i still give everyone a chance. It's in my nature.

I agree that the types who claim they are 'boy's girls' but in reality they just cock teasers, fuck yeah they are nothing but slags. I agree wholeheartedly. But to just wack all females who get along better with males in that category is judgmental and catty in itself.

Everyone has their story. It does come down to the individuals morals, beliefs and nature.

 

[mariacallas]

Fuck yeah recons, you've got the right idea. Take your dramas to the fucking Bahamas, sweetcakes.

Edited: AmorRoark, to me the essence of catty is bitchy, mean spirited, and/or vindictive. I've met women who are fiesty and quick to flip, but had hearts of gold. And catty ones who never raised their voices.

lol..word.I dont mind cattiness perse...I have some wonderful catty friends who happen to be really good people.
What I stay away from are people (and not just women) who are fake,vindinctive, mean-spirited and selfish. Like what a couple of posters said in this thread...fuck drama. Only people who cant live without drama would want to hang with people like that.

 

[mariacallas]

and i think a lot of them use the excuse "I just can't really relate to other females; they're bitchy and I don't like the drama that comes along with having friends that are girls." it seems like a giant red flag for either sex to claim that they can't relate to others of their own gender. It's half of the fucking population; learn some goddamned people skills and widen your horizons

lol +1. Everytime I hear that same excuse "ohhhh all girls hate me, they may be jealous or I just get along better with guys" I immediately think the same thing. It could really be true, but most of the time, in MY opinion, its a huge cop-out excuse for a deeper insecurity or some sort of flaw. And when some girls say it, it makes my eyes roll so hard

PS. Lacey you are the exception to this ( I just read your post)

I have a huge amount of respect for people of either gender who have friends/ are able to maintain good friendships with persons from all sexes. It really says something about them

 

[drugfukkdrockstar]

What i have found when i have been friends with female groups, is most of the time they have been extremely jealous and bitchy towards each other. There has always been some sort of issue going on, where one is pissed with the other for some bullshit petty reason, then in no time one of the others will be pissed with another one from the group for some bullshit reason. It's not just aimed at me. But i still can't stand it. I dunno... maybe the key is to just put up with it or ignore it, but i can't. I take things quite personally so when someone is rude to me, i get upset. If someone is bitching about me, i will get pissed off and voice that. If i feel like someone is trying to out do me i get pissed off with that too. And in most cases that has been the situation with female friends. Apart from two that i get along with very well, but they aren't real girly girls. They barely wear any make up, out of them i am actually the most girly. They are very confident in themselves though.

I feel it's unfair to roll your eyes and presume that when someone says they have issues with getting along with certain people (same sex) that they must have poor people skills. I agree there are a lot of fakes out there, but there are also some genuine ones who probably are at fault though by having no tolerance. I know i have a problem with that.

I think the females who advertise the fact they are one of the boy's are the ones who go in the fake category. You can generally pick them a mile away for their manipulative ways as well.

Anyways how did we get onto this topic? The topic was more about whether guys find chicks acting like bitches attractive or not. Not whether a female is a decent person graded on how many female friends she has. This thread has turned out to be rather catty, ironically.

 

[mariacallas]

Relax.
I said I roll my eyes on most, but not all. There are always exceptions.

Peace xxoo

 

[drugfukkdrockstar]

Anyhoo, is it attractive or funny when women do this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sJFC8OHsKfc

 

[zephyr]

Anyways how did we get onto this topic? The topic was more about whether guys find chicks acting like bitches attractive or not. Not whether a female is a decent person graded on how many female friends she has. This thread has turned out to be rather catty, ironically.

Apologies if anything Ive contributed to this tangent the thread has gone in has caused offense. None intended at all- but Ill send you a pm or catch you on msn DFRS to stay on topic here

OT: I don't think dudes would find catty behaviour amongst girls attractive, unless they see it as an ego boost if the bitchiness happens to be about jealousy over HIM. If its just the usual case of snippy backstabbing, gossiping or two faced bitching that is going on, they would probably see it as a turn off.

 

[supertrav77]

I feel it's unfair to roll your eyes and presume that when someone says they have issues with getting along with certain people (same sex) that they must have poor people skills.

True. It could also mean that you are just a poor judge of character.

Anyways how did we get onto this topic? The topic was more about whether guys find chicks acting like bitches attractive or not. Not whether a female is a decent person graded on how many female friends she has.

I brought it up because usually those two groups are actually the same people.

 

[drugfukkdrockstar]

True. It could also mean that you are just a poor judge of character.

Dude, considering you're the type of guy who would go for a chick purely on the fact that she is the most blonde and the most thin makes me question your judge of character.

It's simple, not all people get along. I have the personality that does get along with most people but unfortunately in the female race it isn't as easy. They're a whole different ball game. Like for last night for example, i came out with a friend that i haven't seen for years and was introduced to a whole heap of new friends that he has made that i hadn't met yet. Majority were guys, but there were a couple girls there. The blokes were incredibly kind to myself and my boyfriend and went out of their way to get to know us, but the girls (they were the girlfriends of some of the guys in the group) sat back in their little corner and just analyzed me all night.

It wasn't until the very end of the night right when it was time to go that they started including themselves in the conversation and show some sort of sign that they want to try and get to know me, slightly. But before then, they were just looking me up and down like i was some sort of alien. Maybe i look like one! But i have also been told that i come across extremely confident and that tends to possibly make people think i am arrogant, and that i think i am better than everyone else. It's not the case, i can't help that i have a huge smile and a loud voice. But people do find that intimidating, especially women if they don't know you. But that's who i am and im not gonna change it for the sake of getting along with a few insecure girls. If males respond better to my personality then so be it.

I know what they were doing, they were sussing me out to see if i was a decent person, and if i seemed like i would be threat to them because their boyfriends were DJ's. It also probably concerned them because i was chatting away with their boyfriends through out the night, all about music. But they could have come along and joined in at any time, but they chose to stay away and act silly and threatened, or whatever it was. It doesn't matter if chicks bring their own boyfriends along, they still have to earn their friendships with other females. It's not as easy as it is with guys. If a guy thinks you're cool, they'll talk to ya. If they don't like you, they will just ignore you. Women are a much harder ball game of which quite frankly i can't be bothered with playing. That's why the chicks i do have as friends are straight up and confident. They're bit like guys themselves actually.