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Girls: Would you be offended if your BF was masturbating and....

Damn my girl gets annoyed if I masturbate at all yet alone while thinking about somebody else. This isn't fair.
 
I would not be offended at all—unless the masturbation was centered solely around an ex-significant other (or someone else they were legitimately trying to pursue), and I wasn't included in the fantasy. Hell, a fantasy is a fantasy. When it crosses the line of going back to something that once was a reality, then I see it as a problem. Otherwise, I firmly believe it is human nature to look at other people whom you find attractive, and to even think about, as well as deeply fantasize about them. For either sex to 'deny' themselves this (what I would believe to be) intrinsic quality, is IMHO, denying reality.

I do not think either men or women have a 'choice' as to who they are sexually attracted to.
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Although we do have a choice as to whether or not we will pursue that sexual attraction. If human beings had a 'choice' as to who they are sexually attracted to, I would believe there would be quite a few less cheaters running around! Why on earth would people of both genders cheat when they have a perfectly good partner whom they are ALSO sexually attracted to? If that proverbial 'off switch' existed, don't you think people with children, marriages, and at least half a brain would decide to turn that switch 'off'? When push comes to shove, we are naturally quite carnal. It is society, insecurities, traditions, and jealousy that has made people believe attraction to anyone but their significant other is wrong. Granted, it is a lovely thought that one's love may be so strong as to completely take away our core carnal desires, it is not the true nature of our being. Anyone who claims to only masturbate to their significant other is either full of shit, mentally unstable/a few fries short of a happy meal, or trying to live in a holier than thou sexual fantasy world.
 
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Its about 50/50 for me, but when im masturbating and thinking of her, its usually about doing things that I know she doesnt like to do that I do (doggy style, blowing a load on her face, etc)
 
fruitflyi95 said:
personally i like to watch a man masturbate. that is a huge turn on for me
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Just understand, it can be a tad awkward.

For a person to jack [or jill] one off, even for a medical reason, relies on a routine. That routine usually is in private, for most people. Thus it can be a uncomfortable to do it around another person.

I'd say that actual intercourse was less intimate than beating off next to your partner.
 
^^ i'd agree with that.
its quite strange how being 'disconnected' so to speak, doing something that is usually done alone with your partner can end up with you both feeling so connected and together.

i'd have to say its one of my bigger turn ons as i find watching a girl (or girls) masturbate incredibly arousing, no idea why lol.
 
Benefit said:
I believe that men who are unfaithful with their mental images should be castrated.
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Men who are unfaithful to their mental images, should be forced to think of a mental image of themselves being castrated :D.
 
mikehunt said:
some women (many) have a hard time accepting the fact that most dudes jerk off to women they know and see on a regular basis (co-workers, fellow classmates, friends, etc.). It's a fact of life. esp. when it comes to ex gf's!
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I never masturbate unless there is a porno on. I can just close my eyes & go at it. Also, when im in a relationship(in one now), I dont usually masturbate & I know people will think im lying with that statement but its true.
 
just wanted to say that this thread kind of answers itself at the start - if a guy has a wife/girlfriend at the moment who they could obviously have sex with (unless they just gave birth or something), then for the guy to be even masturbating in the first place, it means that he's probably not going to be thinking about their significant other...why would they if they could just have the real thing right now???

besides, when I masturbate, it's almost impossible to solely focus on one girl/object, whatever floats your boat...like the poster above me said, when you get close to finishing, you usually go through at least a few women that you've thought about banging...I'd be extremely doubtful for even an extremely faithful guy to not think about another girl besides his S.O. for at least a split second while masturbating...and this post has gone on way too long...
 
My wife back before we were married and when we were becoming sexually active made it clear she would be offended if I carried on masturbating. I told her that I did not have a problem with stopping, also since it came up, I pointed out that I didn't have a problem with her continuing to masturbate. (I think she was grateful for this as I'm sure she was prepared to stop if that was the only way she could get me to stop, but it was clear she really didnt want to). We have been happily married 11 years and although I know she does masturbate from time to time, I have done so only a handful of times and only with her present each time (ie it was her idea). This might seem at first glance a little one sided but like I said we are both very happy and we have a very rewarding and fulfilling sex life. This might not suit everyone, but if your gf or wife doesnt like it, it might be worth at least considering stopping - you might surprise yourself.
 
Benefit said:
I believe that men who are unfaithful with their mental images should be castrated.
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This is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. When I was 19, I dated a girl who found my 'spank bank' and promptly freaked out. She then prudishly explained that because I have a girlfriend, I don't NEED to masturbate. Well of course I don't NEED to, I explained. I do it because I LIKE it. She thought it was a form of cheating (we were 19. Hopefully wherever she is, she has amended her views and grown up a little.) Anyways, her little discovery of my 'bank' (which wasn't even hidden, just in a shoebox as I was at my parents house at the time and didn't want copies of 'Sugarwalls 3' out in the open) did irreparable harm to our relationship. Luckily I have been married to a woman for 13 years who is VERY liberated sexually. It all worked out.
 
I really don't give a damn who my husband thinks about...I have asked him before just to try to get an idea of what really turns him on.

I think about all sorts of crazy, random things when I do, and almost never does it include my husband. I get him in real life. In no way do I think our relationship is affected, it is fantasy after all. Only if for some reason he wanted to make a move into reality would I need to have a conversation...
 
a) It's pretty much inevitable that your partner sometimes or always fantasizes about somebody else while masturbating, so it's not worth getting upset about.
b) I don't want my partner getting bored with me. I'd rather he fantasize about other women rather than actually sleep with them.
 
Masturbating is quite relaxing the fact that i just got done masturbating before posting this ! My boyfriend doesnt mind that i masturbate in fact he is the one who encourage me to do it ! He likes watching me masturbate he says it gives him a boner /.\ /.\ ive been masturbating since i was 12 n watching porn turns you on fast. Masturbating aint nothing to be ashame of... Because if teenagers mastubated more than having sex we wouldnt have an over populated world and less pregnancies would happen !
 
The ONLY time i masturbate to the fantasy or mental image of a girlfriend is when we are first dating/talking, then it tapers off once we are doin it regurlarly...then, sadly but inevitably all the other fantasies creep in and become way hotter, because they arent your girlfriend and so theres no mushy love garbage in the way of your fantasy. You can imagine or watch the dirtiest stuff in porn cause personally if im in a loving relationship i dont really wanna throatfuck my cute precious girlfriend and then jizz in her eyes...but a porn star can have that done to her FOR ME so everybody can win. My girl gets this but still sometimes gets jealous. Like when shes horny and im more into watching some filth porn...that can be a problem. Time it out wisely.
 
Hi everyone,
I am cassidy and I have a important sex question. Why will my boyfriend make excuses so he ddoesn't have to eat me out? I shave and I am always clean down there and he said his tongue hurts by just licking.. okay I doubt just licking with a few seconds it hurts.. he never really ate me out but he ate some of his others out..
 
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