Girls: Would you be offended if your BF was masturbating and....

[anniegram]

Hi everyone,
I am cassidy and I have a important sex question. Why will my boyfriend make excuses so he ddoesn't have to eat me out? I shave and I am always clean down there and he said his tongue hurts by just licking.. okay I doubt just licking with a few seconds it hurts.. he never really ate me out but he ate some of his others out..

I would start by making a new thread for your question as opposed to asking on a 3 year old thread with an entirely different topic.

 

[Zeeman]

This is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. When I was 19, I dated a girl who found my 'spank bank' and promptly freaked out. She then prudishly explained that because I have a girlfriend, I don't NEED to masturbate. Well of course I don't NEED to, I explained. I do it because I LIKE it. She thought it was a form of cheating.

She is ridiculous.

I don't think it's possible for anyone to 100% desire only 1 other person. There are always going to be fantasies of other people, other situations, and masturbating to them is much healthier than denying your desires completely or acting on them for real (unless you're in an open relationship, which I believe is healthy too, but going behind a monogamous lover's back is pure douchebaggery).

I'd actually feel weird about a girl who didn't fantasize about fucking Mr. Sexy Movie Star from time to time or never masturbated alone; that's not natural! People should be secure enough in their relationship to accept their partner's fantasies not involving them.

 

[Jesabelle]

just wanted to say that this thread kind of answers itself at the start - if a guy has a wife/girlfriend at the moment who they could obviously have sex with (unless they just gave birth or something), then for the guy to be even masturbating in the first place, it means that he's probably not going to be thinking about their significant other...why would they if they could just have the real thing right now???

besides, when I masturbate, it's almost impossible to solely focus on one girl/object, whatever floats your boat...like the poster above me said, when you get close to finishing, you usually go through at least a few women that you've thought about banging...I'd be extremely doubtful for even an extremely faithful guy to not think about another girl besides his S.O. for at least a split second while masturbating...and this post has gone on way too long...

Hmm. So does that mean masturbation is a "consolation prize" and guys only do it when they have nobody to have sex with? That doesn't seem accurate.