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Girlfriend, Not supporting me making my music.

Jabberwocky

Jabberwocky

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Long story short, its always an argument. I understand her distrust, I've given her a reason to. But I'm trying to change.. and it really hurts when it feels as if... everything I do in life, she tries to stomp out unless it includes her. I get it I probably should leave... which I might do so soon... because if she cant love me for me. Then I need to move on.
 
FuneralFather said:
Long story short, its always an argument. I understand her distrust, I've given her a reason to. But I'm trying to change.. and it really hurts when it feels as if... everything I do in life, she tries to stomp out unless it includes her. I get it I probably should leave... which I might do so soon... because if she cant love me for me. Then I need to move on.
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She seems like a very dominant person AND selfish.if i were u id leave Bro. Take care
 
Yeah I’m thinking about it as soon as this virus starts to slow. Regardless ima do what makes me happy in the meantime. I’ve pretty much over the little girl mentality especially since we are both about to be thirty in a few years
nznity said:
She seems like a very dominant person AND selfish.if i were u id leave Bro. Take care
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FuneralFather said:
Yeah I’m thinking about it as soon as this virus starts to slow. Regardless ima do what makes me happy in the meantime. I’ve pretty much over the little girl mentality especially since we are both about to be thirty in a few years
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That's what i wanted to hear, follow ur dreams man AND fk ppl thst dont support ya. U can even meet someone better that actually dosnt mind that your passion Is músic AND actually encourage ya t9 do it. If u needsomeone to talk to, I'm here for y brother, xx Nick (nzn)
 
Yeah ima hit you pms.
nznity said:
That's what i wanted to hear, follow ur dreams man AND fk ppl thst dont support ya. U can even meet someone better that actually dosnt mind that your passion Is músic AND actually encourage ya t9 do it. If u needsomeone to talk to, I'm here for y brother, xx Nick (nzn)
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FuneralFather said:
everything I do in life, she tries to stomp out unless it includes her.
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This sort of behaviour often stems from a fear of abandonment. She doesn't realize that doing this is making the relationship such a demoralizing experience for you that it actually increases the chance of you leaving her.
 
How would you combat this? Im trying make something of myself.
thujone said:
This sort of behaviour often stems from a fear of abandonment. She doesn't realize that doing this is making the relationship such a demoralizing experience for you that it actually increases the chance of you leaving her.
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In this position I walked away and don't regret it. I think being single is the best way to focus on making goals into reality because there is always another guy out there you are competing with who has given all of himself to attaining his goals and if you've got one hand tied behind your back dealing with a tough relationship, it's going to be hard to compete with guys that can free up 100% of their focus on a goal.
 
FuneralFather said:
That’s the problem I went from 80 plays on a song to now getting a 1,000+ But at the same time bro, if she don’t support it at 80 plays why would I keep her around at 1 million?
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some people will never build you up

people who build you up are what you need

some just take chunks out of you for their own reasons- your choice how long u keep that type around

when you are 40 its gonna be different but you are still in the age range currently so make the most of your life chances and dreams

you want someone who will support you no matter how many plays
 
Yoir post doesn't really explain why she doesn't support your music making.


Is it because of finances, as in are you expecting her to support you making music by being the provider?
I don't know, sounds similar to something people I know go through.

May be you're just growing apart and should move on.
 
✿Dai₷y✿ said:
Yoir post doesn't really explain why she doesn't support your music making.


Is it because of finances, as in are you expecting her to support you making music by being the provider?
I don't know, sounds similar to something people I know go through.

May be you're just growing apart and should move on.
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This is actually really good advice, try to understand where she is coming from and have a compassionate conversation about needs, desires and the future, both about what you want AND what she wants. You can't enjoy a relationship on a 1 way street, that is so true.

If what you guys really want is different due to changes over time, I'll go with what Daisy said especially the last line.

Best of luck OP.
 
Unfortunately music as a hobbie is good thing but don’t expect to make a living out of it as only a few make it into music industry. As for girlfriend she’s being selfish i reckon.
 
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