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Girl offended if guy cant stay hard?

^That's okay Pagey, I kind of expected it from someone....There's a lot of things that girls do during sex that dictates whether it's good or bad, but I still think it's more pressure on the guy.
 
She was nice enough about it and have had two dates with her since then but just made out and I had shit to do later so no sex. She just gradded and is going away with fam for two weeks soon and I can't fail again.

I bought generic sidenafil off some sketchy craigslist guy to make sure I don't ruin it. Anybody have tips on this is it ok to take with opiates or alcohol and how much should I take and when. My life is turning out like an episode of curb your enthusiasm
 
that would be so annoying!

if you had an emotional investment in the person you would take it into account, but if a one off shag cant deliver the goods=onto the next and dont look back

This guy, I'd fucked him before and it was okay...the reason why I was so pissed this time is we'd spent an hour online, with him telling me in detail how hard he was going to fuck me, etc; and I was so ready for him. But my God, he comes by, gives me a kiss, then lays on the bed? WTF?!

And then he tells me, "All that stuff I was saying, well, you know, we were just talking...having fun." When I told him to leave, he was actually surprised.
 
I can't fail again.

Don't think like this. I'm telling you.....
You put all sorts of pressure on yourself and stress about it, things will get weird again.

I understand why you're concerned. I'm talking about the mindset.
Think about the sex and how good it will feel to have it. Think about her and how it will look and feel making her happy. Make sure you're good and ready by not jerking off at all. If you feel better taking a pill, then take a pill. This sounds like it's completely in your head, but if that gives you a boost of confidence, go for it.
Don't take opiates. If it was a issue of you popping too early, then opiates would be a sound idea. It's not. If having a few drinks/beers makes you feel more relaxed, comfortable, go for it. Just don't get drunk.

Relax, try not to think. If your mind starts to wander there, focus back on her and push it out of your mind. You'll be alright.
 
Thanks that's a good post. I am going to take the pill when I can make plans with her again. I just need to get the first time out of the way. I will be taking suboxone also. We did have sex for a few minutes before but I barely count it as our first time
 
Are you taking the Suboxone to last longer? I was prescribed Sub for 5 years and while it did prolong sex(sometimes to a absurd extent) it did also numb me out at times. Particularly, obviously, when I was on a larger dose.
Alcohol does fuck all as far as holding out is concerned. If you are looking to last longer, and you've taken Sub a decent amount and already know you won't have a weird reaction/get sick from mixing alcohol and it, then I guess that will be OK. I would stick to a low dose.
 
I'm taking sub because I have been on an oxy binge for a few weeks and hanging out while dope sick isn't a good idea for me. I have been taking 1 mg and also I have mixed with booze before and performed fine with other girls
 
I've had this happen a few times before with 2 different girls. We were high on dope each time & they both thought it was a problem with them ("Am I not pretty enough?" "Does this not feel good?") more than with me. YMMV.
when that blathery starts it always has such an amazing positive effect.. LOL.. the next time this happens to a woman.. start talikng strait good freeky hard lovn shit.. the last thing the warrior needs to worry about is your ego.. limp X 2...
 
It depends on the guy and girl..I can ALWAYS get a hard-on with my Girlfriend, not to boast but she is sexy as hell, her butt is so amazing, cross between J-Los and Kim Kardashians, hence why it's easy for me to get a hard-on, and trust me the sex is amazing, it releases those endorphins, folks have no clue what they are missing out on with women like that. It makes you happy, lucky and wild, especially in bed...

Its sad one can't get a hard on, perhaps they need to change girls? perhaps they aren't good enough to get girls or not sexy minded themselves to get a hard-on? I don't know, but I do know it all depends on the girl and guy and the type of partner you have...Its always been said the more attractive you are the more hard-on, providing you also got a sexy girlfriend too.. Am not boasting but am blessed I got looks, am tallish 6ft, slimmish and very good looking ( so Ive been told), this is why it's easy for guys like that to get sex women which make sex wild and hard-on no problem, opiate or no opiate..
 
^Not to boast or anything, right?
I've always wondered if I'm sexy minded. What does that entail, exactly?
 
Its sad one can't get a hard on, perhaps they need to change girls? perhaps they aren't good enough to get girls or not sexy minded themselves to get a hard-on? I don't know, but I do know it all depends on the girl and guy and the type of partner you have...Its always been said the more attractive you are the more hard-on, providing you also got a sexy girlfriend too.. Am not boasting but am blessed I got looks, am tallish 6ft, slimmish and very good looking ( so Ive been told), this is why it's easy for guys like that to get sex women which make sex wild and hard-on no problem, opiate or no opiate..

maybe they have just had a lot of girls and it takes something special to turn the screws.. just saying.
 
A wise man once told me that your dick is smarter than you sometimes. If it can't get hard its probably for good reason: you're not comfortable with the chick, you shouldn't be with her, you're too stressed and should be out solving problems instead of fucking, etc
 
some women do just lie there though lol i guess they fall into the category of being boring anyway. And for the most part, that doesn't really actually matter to me anyway, what i'm getting out of it is much different lol. So the girl's sexual performance really has no impact on whether i would speak to her again, it'd solely depend on my sex drive and desperation for sex, which is incredibly high and always has been. I'd like to think i'm better than that but i'm not. I think you may be shocked at what a male thinks about regarding sex if you were to be one for a day.

and some people actually do try to form relationships based off one night stands, it's certainly not unheard of and these people are probably full of different issues but nevertheless, it's not all concrete by any means.

when it comes to an actual relationship, everything above can be disregarded, it makes a huge difference whether the girl is boring or not and both parties should be much more forgiving in regards to sexual performances as they have a better idea of what their partners average ability is lol.

Oh of course some girls are shit in bed, my point was just that that's related to who they are as individuals, not to their being female. Plenty of guys are shit in bed as well.
But I guess that would indeed become more frustrating if you need sex so often :D

And yeah I do know some people try to form relationships out of one-night stands but I kinda just want to say that's their problem really...

^That's okay Pagey, I kind of expected it from someone....There's a lot of things that girls do during sex that dictates whether it's good or bad, but I still think it's more pressure on the guy.

Being in withdrawals and having been at work from 9 to 7 I felt qualified to take on the job :D
I still don't think there's any more pressure on either party. It depends on the circumstances, on the individuals, on what kind of sex you're having...

I'm sorry. :). I saw this typo and couldn't stop laughing for a minute or 2. I don't even know why.

....okay! Haha

^Not to boast or anything, right?
I've always wondered if I'm sexy minded. What does that entail, exactly?

Good question.
 
It depends on the guy and girl..I can ALWAYS get a hard-on with my Girlfriend, not to boast but she is sexy as hell, her butt is so amazing, cross between J-Los and Kim Kardashians, hence why it's easy for me to get a hard-on, and trust me the sex is amazing, it releases those endorphins, folks have no clue what they are missing out on with women like that. It makes you happy, lucky and wild, especially in bed...

Its sad one can't get a hard on, perhaps they need to change girls? perhaps they aren't good enough to get girls or not sexy minded themselves to get a hard-on? I don't know, but I do know it all depends on the girl and guy and the type of partner you have...Its always been said the more attractive you are the more hard-on, providing you also got a sexy girlfriend too.. Am not boasting but am blessed I got looks, am tallish 6ft, slimmish and very good looking ( so Ive been told), this is why it's easy for guys like that to get sex women which make sex wild and hard-on no problem, opiate or no opiate..

lol let me guess you have a huge dick too? and plenty of money? incredible intelligence? and quite charming by the sounds of it as well.

you are the reason us weirdos have resorted to game theory. Though your slimmish figure could use some tone IMO.
 
^I think we can all assume he has those things and perhaps more. A rocket ship?
But, how many times does he have to tell you he's not boasting?!?
 
Lol you guys make me feel a bit better about things, except for one idiot (sorry but you are). I really wouldn't care if it was a girl from the club but i don't think she only cares about sex
 
As someone who takes drugs/has male friends who take drugs I am aware that when guys are fucked holding an erection is hard but for that reason alone I avoid getting jiggy with someone in that state. I know rationally that it is the drug and not me but I would be worried that I would get offended (and para if i am on drugs too) about it.

I totally would love to mix sex with drugs more because I just can't imagine how amazing it would be but the fear of lost erection and subsequent sexual frustration just puts me off/
 
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