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Girl offended if guy cant stay hard?

alcoholic333 said:
Lol you guys make me feel a bit better about things, except for one idiot (sorry but you are). I really wouldn't care if it was a girl from the club but i don't think she only cares about sex
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performance anxiety or overthinking the situation can add to the issue you are having; on the flipside, discussing it, pinpointing the potential cause/s and bringing closure to these issues can eliminate them and assist you to relax, and just go with the flow.

i cant speak directly for the woman you are seeing; but figure that if she is happy to continue seeing you for now, everything is fine. maybe she too is enjoying getting to know you/spend time with you before engaging in a sexual relationship? either way OP, to answer your question; if a woman really likes a man, and its NOT under the terms of a one night stand or random pick up; dependent on how much she is wanting to invest in developing something with you, is dependent of how understanding and willing to work through the issue with you she will be.

good luck! <3

...kytnism...:|
 
I have been told many times a guy is likely to be more sexy minded when he knows he's decent looking and has a nice slim body, as he knows he can get attention and can realistically have any kind of sex with any sexy female, so this incites your brain to be more horny.. Even my GP said this.. And I've heard it from women themselves..

I rather be slim then toned up muscely, trust me I get more attention being slim...Most girls like slim in my experience. Man that butt on me chest, it always gets me hard, and trust me even on opiate including bup I get hard-on..Like I said it depends on your mind and the type of girl..If you have a sexy butt girlfriend you always get a hard-on..If you got decent looks, nice modelish body you know you do not have to be embarrassed or shy or negative, your confident and boosts your hornyness, so I do believe it's a fact being blessed with looks can bring in sexy girls, which in-turn give you good sex. And that in turn give you a good life as you tend to have less relationship or marriage issues, less issues in the bedroom department, so that is one less issue in life to worry about...Again am genuinely not boasting but proud and blessed in the bed room and self-esteem department..Having some intelligence is a bonus. #


These days girls like a bit of roughness and bad boy trait, allow and forget the nice guy 24/7, that gives you a lonely life..According to an article it said women who cheat and have an affair do so because they simply do not like their nice guy, they like bit of meaness but in a humorous way, bit of roughness and bad boy, together with slim body and looks. It's been said the more good looking you are the better the sex, provided the guy is 6ft or at least 5'11. Trust me you have no clue what your missing out on with having nice booty good looking girlfriend.
 
There are so, so many things I could do with the above post........ Sigh.
I am slim and 6'2" but I fear I'm not enough of a bad boy to take the low road. Anyway, I need to go make sure my girlfriend isn't cheating with someone meanly humorous.
 
Gordon said:
I have been told many times a guy is likely to be more sexy minded when he knows he's decent looking and has a nice slim body, as he knows he can get attention and can realistically have any kind of sex with any sexy female, so this incites your brain to be more horny.. Even my GP said this.. And I've heard it from women themselves..

I rather be slim then toned up muscely, trust me I get more attention being slim...Most girls like slim in my experience. Man that butt on me chest, it always gets me hard, and trust me even on opiate including bup I get hard-on..Like I said it depends on your mind and the type of girl..If you have a sexy butt girlfriend you always get a hard-on..If you got decent looks, nice modelish body you know you do not have to be embarrassed or shy or negative, your confident and boosts your hornyness, so I do believe it's a fact being blessed with looks can bring in sexy girls, which in-turn give you good sex. And that in turn give you a good life as you tend to have less relationship or marriage issues, less issues in the bedroom department, so that is one less issue in life to worry about...Again am genuinely not boasting but proud and blessed in the bed room and self-esteem department..Having some intelligence is a bonus. #


These days girls like a bit of roughness and bad boy trait, allow and forget the nice guy 24/7, that gives you a lonely life..According to an article it said women who cheat and have an affair do so because they simply do not like their nice guy, they like bit of meaness but in a humorous way, bit of roughness and bad boy, together with slim body and looks. It's been said the more good looking you are the better the sex, provided the guy is 6ft or at least 5'11. Trust me you have no clue what your missing out on with having nice booty good looking girlfriend.
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indeed that is precisely how us individuals not blessed with model like looks and height can get girls over people like you. Does take a bit of intelligence and requires the understanding of how to properly use the word 'than' to compare as opposed to 'then'.

who said the better looking you are the better the sex? lol i'll have to read over the old testament and see if i can find that quote. Though you're right, the nice guy doesn't often win. However you've missed something very important, women aren't only attracted to your looks. Ever see a girl with a guy who is way out of his league in terms of looks? i certainly have. Sometimes a girl just wants meat and potatoes and not a fine dinner at a fancy restaurant.

about the tone of your body; i was secretly hitting on you. ;) now how sly was that?
 
Gordon said:
I have been told many times a guy is likely to be more sexy minded when he knows he's decent looking and has a nice slim body, as he knows he can get attention and can realistically have any kind of sex with any sexy female, so this incites your brain to be more horny.. Even my GP said this.. And I've heard it from women themselves..

I rather be slim then toned up muscely, trust me I get more attention being slim...Most girls like slim in my experience.
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Are you aware what a complete douche-bag you sound like? Do you bring this up often in casual conversation about how "sexy minded" and "slim" you are, or do you only do it anonymously on web forums? You have a writing style that's reminiscent of the broken English spoken by the stereo-typical bad guy from an '80s Rambo or Chuck Norris film btw... Which hey, I couldn't go onto a forum that wasn't in my primary language and brag about how awesome I was without looking like an idiot either...but thank God I'd never do it!

Nobody knows who the fuck you are, so I can really can't really think of what would motivate you to make the posts you did in this thread.....The only kind person that would talk themselves up and simultaneously try to talk other people down is someone extremely immature and actually very insecure! Does writing these things somehow make you feel less empty inside and better about yourself?

If a friend came to you in real life and confided in you that they were struggling with feelings of insecurity and anxiety around women would you just tell them, "Sucks for you, if you were as good looking as I was you wouldn't have this problem!"<?

Because I'll tell you right now, if the way you come off online matches the way you come off in real life, you're gonna end up with everyone hating you and trying to knock you down a peg every chance they get! Girls like confidence and maybe a little cockiness, but being a blatant ego-maniac who just brags about themselves is a huge turn-off to everyone and not in the least bit sexy! Take it from someone whose egos gotten them in trouble quite a few times!

And just to let you know, not all girls prefer "skinny guys" to "guys with muscles"...Different women have different tastes in men's bodies...I'm thin myself and I'm friends with girls that I'm just not their type, they like a guy with more meat on his bones...I found this sentence about how "you've been told many times" that you just happen to have the perfect body type that all women are attracted to! That must be great to have everything working in your favor like that....We're all very proud!

Anyway, I'm done with this rant, but it does irritate me that someone who's trying to get legitimate support and advice about a tough issue theyre dealing with should have to deal with this bullshit....
 
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Happened to me once with a drunk hookup with a casual acquaintance. She wouldn't let me fuck her all night, and she even told me she wasn't attracted to me. But then the next morning she was all down for it, but I couldn't get up for the longest time. Then later she said she was in love with me and spent the next few months pursuing me, despite my repeated rejections. Now we're just friends. It would be strange, but she's Chinese, so I just passed it off as some weird cross-cultural exchange.
 
BlueHues said:
Are you aware what a complete douche-bag you sound like? Do you bring this up often in casual conversation about how "sexy minded" and "slim" you are, or do you only do it anonymously on web forums? You have a writing style that's reminiscent of the broken English spoken by the stereo-typical bad guy from an '80s Rambo or Chuck Norris film btw... Which hey, I couldn't go onto a forum that wasn't in my primary language and brag about how awesome I was without looking like an idiot either...but thank God I'd never do it!

Nobody knows who the fuck you are, so I can really can't really think of what would motivate you to make the posts you did in this thread.....The only kind person that would talk themselves up and simultaneously try to talk other people down is someone extremely immature and actually very insecure! Does writing these things somehow make you feel less empty inside and better about yourself?

If a friend came to you in real life and confided in you that they were struggling with feelings of insecurity and anxiety around women would you just tell them, "Sucks for you, if you were as good looking as I was you wouldn't have this problem!"<?

Because I'll tell you right now, if the way you come off online matches the way you come off in real life, you're gonna end up with everyone hating you and trying to knock you down a peg every chance they get! Girls like confidence and maybe a little cockiness, but being a blatant ego-maniac who just brags about themselves is a huge turn-off to everyone and not in the least bit sexy! Take it from someone whose egos gotten them in trouble quite a few times!

And just to let you know, not all girls prefer "skinny guys" to "guys with muscles"...Different women have different tastes in men's bodies...I'm thin myself and I'm friends with girls that I'm just not their type, they like a guy with more meat on his bones...I found this sentence about how "you've been told many times" that you just happen to have the perfect body type that all women are attracted to! That must be great to have everything working in your favor like that....We're all very proud!

Anyway, I'm done with this rant, but it does irritate me that someone who's trying to get legitimate support and advice about a tough issue theyre dealing with should have to deal with this bullshit....
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lol Blue , i'm pretty sure he's trolling
 
Corazon said:
lol Blue , i'm pretty sure he's trolling
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I picture him more like Borat in that movie pursuing Pamela Anderson, "I want sexy times!" lolz

Overcompensating like steve0 up there. I highly doubt things like this would be shared outside the internet.
 
^I pictured him more as a Rico Suave. Striding over to the ladies and using his power of sexy mindedness to woo them. Compliments on their sexy butts would flow freely and he would ALWAYS get the girl. Shortly after they'd be frightened yet transfixed by his ability to instantly get hard-on, opiate or no opiate.

Maybe I'm thinking about Gordon too much. Maybe I'm slightly gay for him. I'm not sure. One thing I do know is that he cuts an impressive figure. Slimmish, tall and good looking(so he's been told.)
 
The only times I've had performance anxiety is in sex outside of relationships. It feels like there's a lot more pressure because the whole purpose of being together is the sex. In all my LTRs, losing the hard on hasn't been a problem.

I think it looks bad if you're trying to hookup and can't get it up. If your long-term partner is rude about it, then that's a red flag that maybe you shouldn't be together.

Also keep in mind that if you jack off or have sex a lot, that's going to make some men more prone to sexual performance issues.
 
So I got a chance and it was some of the best sex I've ever had, sounds like it was up there for her too. I'm gunna get off this sub soon so I know I'm always good, only been takin it a few days so shouldn't be hard
 
Sorry but it is the truth. If a guy is good looking without having douche traits then he is more likely to get a sexy girl. You can have confidence but if your not very attractive? that confidence is not going to mean much compared to a good looking guy who's confident.

I never said anything about skinny, I was referring to a model body, the only women who like bit of meat in my experience tend to be average or unattractive.

A bit of an ego goes far, it's better then being the nice guy who nobody wants. Times and people have changed in the present era, time to catch up.
 
^Would you post a pic of yourself for us. just so we know what we're dealing with and what we need to aspire to if we expect to get women? IDK if you can post pics on this thread, but any thread would do...
 
@FlashGordon: things have always been that way.

the douchey nerdy nice guy caveman didn't get near as many women as the unintelligent yet sexy, strong caveman. Which is why the majority of people today are morons.

a good looking guy with douche traits will still get pretty far as well. A good looking guy who is intelligent and exactly what every girl wants can still be outsmarted by the nerdy introverted douche however. And can you imagine the amount of sexual pleasure a douchey nerd would get, from using their intellectual prowess to seduce a woman compared to a guy who is just berated by vaginas all the time? So in fact, the more disgusting ugly you are and more intelligent, the better the sex you have. I've also known some pretty gross looking guys who get tons of what i would consider to be gross girls and i'm sure the dirty sex they have is much better than the complete lack of sex i have.

For those douchey disgusting fat and stupid guys, well there's always humiliation porn.

fuck if i were only an inch taller i could be bros with you, possibly more, wing man, butt buddy?

@bluehues we don't really need pics as there are more than enough Gordons out there lol. I'm just glad his grammar isn't up to par at least. A Gordon with exceptional intelligence would prove to be a huge threat! It would probably take an organized mob of nice guy douches to take him down!
 
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Berated By Vaginas by Gordon. Subtitle: Not to boast.

Introduction: Blessed with good looks.

Chapter One: The better looking you are the better the sex you have.
 
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