Eveleivibe
Ex-Bluelighter
Change and loss affects everyone Eve. Some people find change easier to deal with than others. I hated change at work, it would take months and months to learn about certain things and become a sort of expert on them, and then they would scrap that thing and introduce something new, which meant i had to work hard to learn something new all over again. I guess i dislike change partly due to lazyness. Its like driving a car, it becomes automatic and instinctive once you've learnt how to do it, and i liked work where things became piss easy and could be done on automatic pilot, once i gained the know how, it feels good to have usefull knowledge and to feel competent that you know what you are doing.
I like a little bit of controlled change in my life every now and then, otherwise things would become unbearably dull, but i dont like big upheavals in my private life or my work life. My last workplace changed the system they were using to support their customers, so i went from being an expert having been there for so long i really knew my stuff, and then they introduced this new system that took me straight back to novice level, which i hated not having a fucking clue about anything all over again. That was one of the several reasons why i resigned from my job, as i just couldnt be arsed to learn about this new system, having spent the previous 7 years mastering the old one.
I dont really feel qualified to talk about Loss. Everone who knew Knock has been shocked, stunned, and saddened by this as he was such a great guy. You seem to be a very emotional person to me Eve, there's nothing wrong with that.
Yes I'm an emotional person. I find it a weakness n despise it. It's the reason I got addicted to codeine... Stopped me crying over crap n feeling anything at all but feeling nice n calm, no stress, no constant anger, no being emotional. Then I had to quit n felt immense grief.... so turned to suboxone to address that n have been on suboxone since.
I wish I was one of those hard people who didn't cry, feel all these BS emotions. Unfortunately suboxone doesn't stop it all like codeine but stops me grieving for the codeine...
and now all those feelings are back.
So yes unfortunately I am an emotional person. ugh.