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getting a girlfriend without a job

You've got to find a sugar mama, my man! Oh, how the times have changed! Now that we believe in equality and independence, well, it's perfectly acceptable for a woman to be the sole bread-winner.

So, get on out there and find a cute little thing with her shit together. If you can wow her in the bedroom, make her laugh, tidy up her apartment from time to time and cook well... well, then there you go! ;)
 
Lie and says you work form home part time as a consultant.... work is never steady and my schedule is all messed up, this allows you to do what you want and you always have an excuse of work
 
There is a difference between someone who is down and out on their luck but is working on things and someone who plans never doing anything to help themselves ever. If your girl is willing to give you a chance, then use that as motivation to do something, otherwise if she just expects walk into a relationship with Mr. Prestigious, Wealth, Financial Prospects and thinks everyone else is too low for her, then tell her to go give Donald Trump a fucking blowjob!
Imagine if I, a guy, went around saying I couldn't date a girl without a job or who isn't Miss Prestige, Wealth, and Financial Prospects. What an asshole I would sound like, especially if I wasn't so well-off financially myself! It's amazing how fucking Sexist our societies still are.

bighooter, if she can't appreciate that you are trying to succeed and actually help you do this, then to hell with her. However, it's not fair to take money from her either and if she gives you a chance you do owe her some work towards improving yourself. The two of you can hang out together without having to buy each other gifts all the time or go to fancy expensive places if you don't have money. Money doesn't add much to love I think. Unless she's trying to start a family ASAP, she should be happy with a guy who is somehow managing to take care of himself and trying to work his way up to a better life, as long as you really are.
 
Watch clips of Jeremy Kyle on UK. It is a talk "show" full of degenerates who have never worked a day in their lives and have been married several times. I am sure you will be fine.
 
bighooter said:
I have no job

and the girl who I was recently going out with dumped me because she said her head is all messed up coz shes had her kid taken off her.
- But she still likes me.

I can only just afford to eat let alone spend any money on her as I dont have a job, ive tried every where but I have a criminal record and considering ive been a flatout druggie for the last 8 years I pretty much look like a demon... so theres no way anyone will employ me in the current state of affairs.

For this reason I feel like a worthless piece of sh1t when it comes to making this girl happy and hence why I have kind of backed off since she split with me even though she says she still likes me.

I just want to know whether any girl would ever go out with someone who doesnt have a job.

I have insane ambition and crazy willpower to succeed even though I have failed enough times I will still get up early in the morning read, excercise, do anything to make myself into a better more employable person.

Its just having a girl who really likes me is driving me insane knowing that if I had a job i'd almost guarantee we'd be together... man i feel so low it makes me feel like topping myself.
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volunteer.
start your own biz.
 
Ive had some of the hottest g/f's when i didn't have a job. Always had money though. In fact I don't have a job now and my g/f is smoking hot, smart, focused, and successful. Personally if a girl demanded I have job I would be long gone. I enjoy an open schedule but if I had zero dollars in the bank I probably would change my mind.
 
To be honest, I wouldn't care if my boyfriend has a job or not. As long as I have mine and I'm doing me then I'm good. Its not like you would be anywhere near the stage of moving in with the girl or anything so having a job isn't such a big deal. Its not like money defines how much you love someone or not. You can always manage a way to find money for dates ect...shit I had to before when I was jobless. Anyways I recommend finding a job first though... I even just got a job in october my first one and now my boss just offered me the job of being the assistant manager after the one now leaves. So dude you can get a job, I'm only eighteen but I busted my ass sending in applications and then working on minimum wage... Now I can be assistant manager. Shit who cares if the girl doesn't like if you have a job or not...you do you and when the time comes you'll find a girl who's actually worth it. People need to realize money doesn't define anything.
 
Get yourself straight, get a job, and the girl will come to you. Now don't be an idiot and take any old girl that comes up. FIND THE RIGHT ONE.
 
xstayfadedx said:
To be honest, I wouldn't care if my boyfriend has a job or not. As long as I have mine and I'm doing me then I'm good. Its not like you would be anywhere near the stage of moving in with the girl or anything so having a job isn't such a big deal. Its not like money defines how much you love someone or not. You can always manage a way to find money for dates ect...shit I had to before when I was jobless. Anyways I recommend finding a job first though... I even just got a job in october my first one and now my boss just offered me the job of being the assistant manager after the one now leaves. So dude you can get a job, I'm only eighteen but I busted my ass sending in applications and then working on minimum wage... Now I can be assistant manager. Shit who cares if the girl doesn't like if you have a job or not...you do you and when the time comes you'll find a girl who's actually worth it. People need to realize money doesn't define anything.
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Money does matter, but I agree that it doesn't define how much you love someone. However, if the guy is a mooch and a bum and the girl is doing her 9-5 working her ass off to make ends meet and he just mooches, then he's a loser and it's a problem. If he's just down on his luck and trying to recover doing what he can, then that's different and understandable.
 
verso said:
You've got to find a sugar mama, my man! Oh, how the times have changed! Now that we believe in equality and independence, well, it's perfectly acceptable for a woman to be the sole bread-winner.

So, get on out there and find a cute little thing with her shit together. If you can wow her in the bedroom, make her laugh, tidy up her apartment from time to time and cook well... well, then there you go! ;)
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This is so true, although I will also agree with Lysis, that most 'pretty' girls are not conditioned to find this at all acceptable. I'm sure the phrase, "I can do better" is constantly repeating in the back of their minds, every time a guy makes a bad decision or messes up.. at least until she has a kid or two.
 
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Lysis said:
Money does matter, but I agree that it doesn't define how much you love someone. However, if the guy is a mooch and a bum and the girl is doing her 9-5 working her ass off to make ends meet and he just mooches, then he's a loser and it's a problem. If he's just down on his luck and trying to recover doing what he can, then that's different and understandable.
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Money doesn't really matter when you're only dating and not even living together... Its not like when you first start dating a guy you jump into the stage of OMGGG YOU NEED A JOB!!! HOW ARE WE GOING TO SUPPORT OUR FUTURE 10 KIDS?!!

And yeah if he's a moocher ect that's a different story.....
 
Yeah, but not at the early stages. If you have money to support yourself and have your own life outside the relationship its not a huge deal. It only becomes a huge deal when you're becoming serious and moving in with each other.

Like I don't get why you guys don't understand what I'm trying to say... You can manage a way to get money together without a job for dates ect or you can even do things that don't involve money. If I have a job its not a big deal if my boyfriend doesn't... Unless we were getting a place together or something.
 
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