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This is a violent crime but I don't think it needs a violent solution. Admittedly, this case has stirred up lots of emotion in people, but unfortunately a lot of it seems to be hatred. That was the basis for this crime in the first place.
Those of you who are suggesting that these gang members should be stoned, or are relishing what will happen to them when they get to prison, need to think again. You are wishing a rape upon a rapist. It could be argued that this makes you no better than the rapists themselves.
If this crime TRUELY sickens you, you would not wish it upon anybody. If it makes you angry, instead of thinking revengeful thoughts, have some empathy. You can do a lot more to stop this type of crime happening by having empathy and respecting the women you meet in your life, even if other men do not.
 
If rape is one of the most horrible crimes that man can commit, then surely it is not appropriate to use the worst crime that man can commit, the taking of a life, as punishment.
These discusting men were once easily influenced boys. Their attitudes were shaped by the voices of people, generally men, talking about women in disrespectful ways.
Political correctness has a purpose. The current backlash against P/correctness does not give men a reason to talk about women in a disrespectful way.
Calling a women a bitch, a fuck, using crude slang and colloquialisms to describe sexual activities in a way that is demeaning to women, is only contibuting and reinforcing the image of women being objects to be used by men.
I read these pages of comments and see names of BLers that have been disrespectful to women on previous threads. I have made comment on the things that I thought were derogatory towards women and have been generally berated by the men that made the comments, and in some cases the women that support or ignore the same comments.
I say again, these little things grow into the type of attitudes that lead to the abhorrent crimes such as the one being talked about here. If you use the terminology you contribute to the evils of society. You may not be the person that commits the crime, but you are an accessory before the fact.
Have respect for everyone not just your fucking dealer. Dont do or say something , about someone that you would not like done or said about yourself.
Popular culture and the press paint a picture of drug users as being disrespectful, amoral, risk takers. Being on BL does not give men the right to live that life.
I can only speak for myself but I certainly dont want to contribute, even in a microcosmic way, to the unimaginable ordeal that those women went through, and that will affect them for the rest of their lives.
Phreex, I guess that this week you wont be making flippant comments about rape. Maybe some of you mods and BLers that told me to lighten up when I complained about him using rape as a cheap source for humorous comnments, will have a rethink.
Respect, peace.....
 
Originally posted by shrredda:
I read these pages of comments and see names of BLers that have been disrespectful to women on previous threads. I have made comment on the things that I thought were derogatory towards women and have been generally berated by the men that made the comments, and in some cases the women that support or ignore the same comments.
I say again, these little things grow into the type of attitudes that lead to the abhorrent crimes such as the one being talked about here. If you use the terminology you contribute to the evils of society. You may not be the person that commits the crime, but you are an accessory before the fact.
Fuck off. The biggest problem with bloody feminists is that they generalise and put all men in the same basket. Obviously you hate men, and whatever happened to you to cause that hate I have sympathy for. But don't take it out on the entire fucking gender. I take offence to the fact that by your logic, since I've told a sexist joke in the past then I somehow support pack-rapings.
If you meant something else by that post then I apologise. But nowadays feminists taring all men with the same brush is just as oppressive as the men that make sexist jokes. Generalisations go both ways remember.
 
shrredda
I'm trying to decide which way I take offence to your post more... whether its because I, as a male, am painted as 'disrespectful' and 'amoral', or whether its because you seem to think that I, as a male, am so obviously a potential rapist.
Screw you - take your p/c'ness and stick it. Take your blame on males and stick that too. I accept NO responsibility for this crime simply because of my gender.
 
These were neanderthals. One of them had an IQ (dare we bring that up again) in the bottom 1%. Unfortuantely, nature has adopted a survival of the fitest policy.
Believe it or not, many guys feel ashamed to belong to the same gender as these people, myself included. But there is no need to be so damn didactic about it.
I occassionally tell jokes that can sometimes be offensive, but they are solely aimed at drawing an awful reaction from someone. Sometimes they go too far. If so, I just give them a warm hug and move on.
Taking anything slightly offensive to the lowest common denominator is an awful way to live.
Heck let's dump Christmas because it's a misrepresentation of a religion event that many don't follow, regards how many kids and families love it.
 
C'mon Pleo, I thought you might be a reasonably objective mod most of the time. Obviously I read you wrong. You speak of people making generalizations and then go on to generalize yourself over what "bloody feminists" always do.
Not only that, but beginning your post with the words "fuck off", displays, at least to me, a complete lack of belief in your own thread about feeding trolls and flaming back.
If you are unsure of exactly what Shredda was trying to say, which you implied you were, why don't you ask more questions? Or are you so angered by his/her comments that you don't want to find out that there may be some truth to them?
I very much doubt whether Shredda was saying that you are all potential rapists or that you support gang-rapes. I believe he/she was simply suggesting that even minor things like the sexist jokes you speak of, lead to a much bigger problem in the long run. If you cannot admit that this happens in our society, you must be walking around with your eyes and ears closed, or worse, contributing to some of the problem yourself.
Raving Looney, you do not have to be a neanderthal as such, or have low intelligence to commit rape. Generally speaking, it is a crime motivated by hatred and/or lack of power, not a low I.Q.
As for jokes, if someone tells me an offensive joke and they are suprised that I don't laugh, I can excuse it somewhat. They were simply not aware of my sensibilities. But to tell offensive jokes to people knowing that they will get a bad reaction is really being insensitive and disrespectful to people.
Jakoz, I can understand why you would not want to be associated with a crime like this but the problem is very few men want to accept any responsibility for the degredation of women. But unfortunately it continues to happen all around us everyday in some form or other. So obviously some of us are contributing. We all need to take collective responsibility to make sure it doesn't happen, and that means male AND female!
[ 25 August 2002: Message edited by: Rayda ]
 
Rayda:
We do not need to accept collective responsibility for this crime. Rape has been going on since precivilisation, so I very much doubt that it is the product of today's society. Open your eyes, and stop trying to irrationally dish out blame where it has no place.
I believe he/she was simply suggesting that even minor things like the sexist jokes you speak of, lead to a much bigger problem in the long run. If you cannot admit that this happens in our society, you must be walking around with your eyes and ears closed, or worse, contributing to some of the problem yourself.Aaaah... the old 'if you don't agree with me, then you must be doubly wrong' approach. Here's one for you: if you don't agree with me, then you have three heads. See how effective that approach is?
If I make fun of Americans, then must I have had some responsibility for S11? If I like nice coats, then must I also have a hand in the clubbing of baby seals?
No.
It was these people's choice to commit this crime. I take zero responsibility for it. If you want to run around and feel guilty for it, fine.
Just don't try to force your collective conscience bullshit on me.

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Hmmm... I now wait for Shredda to post. Rayda's and Shredda's IPs are suspiciously familiar, and you normally use each other to back up the other one. If I find you're the same person using different nicks to back up one opinion, I'll destroy everything you've written here.

[ 25 August 2002: Message edited by: Jakoz ]
 
True. It's not an necessarily an intelligence issue and at times it is an issue of power. But how does one prevent an unconvicted, powerful, ignorant, low IQ yet self-confident person from doing such an atrocity without needlessly infringing one his personal rights?
As for the bad taste jokes. I tell them in apporopriate company. Because I know that they'll probably hit one back at me sometime. It all comes down to personality. They are my friends because I understand them and they understand me. It may be be rude, but I don't do it out of habit. It's not like I'm the sort of person who says it all the time.
 
Rayda: why don't you just tell me what shrredda was saying - you've posted from the same computer in the past. Don't go giving me this "very much doubt" and "he/she" shit pretending you don't know them. Or are you both the same person with an alternate nickname which you use to add weight to your arguments?
 
Firstly, the rights of criminals - i don't think that they should necessarily give up their rights when convicted, but I do think that once you cross a certain line in society and do some truly heinous, you rights (to rehabilitation, to see the light of day) should be diminished.
Just another point to add. 55 years is a long time. The guy is only in his early 20s. That means that the court believes that he will not change in the next 40 years. Do you expect to be the same person in 40 years time you are now? TO hold the same beliefs? I dont. I'm not the same person I was 40 months ago.
Yes the crime is horrendous. But does this man really have no chance of rehabilitation?
IMO the best criminal system would be one that can most successfully rehabilitate the criminal.
Anfalicious - while a nice fantasy, I can't see your sentiments having any validity in reality. Your 40 months change most likely involved personal growth and perception change, not (I'm hoping anyways ;) ) the loss of a desire to pack-rape, denigrate and violate women. I think there is a marked difference. Once that line is crossed (the line being to commit violent crimes - rape, cold-blooded murder, child molestation, etc), there is a long, convoluted and immensely difficult (if achievable at all) path to rehabilitation, which IMHO is a big waste of everyone's time. Who pays for such rehabilitation? If someone murders your little girls – like in the case of the English 10 year olds, do you want your money funding “fixing” a person like that? I’d rather see hospitals, schools and welfare improved. Also, how can you really be sure someone has been rehabilitated? I can say I have no desire to molest 6 year old boys, but how can anyone know what thoughts and fantasies I act out in the dark recesses if my mind, how can you KNOW I won’t re-offend? You can’t, and managing the risk and weighing the alternatives, would you be impressed if your “rehabilitated” serial rapist’s next victim was you, your daughter, your mother, your grandmother? Past examples of "rehabilitated" sex offenders have only seen them re-offend, half the time in more violent and depraved acts.
I'd like to think offenders can be rehabilitated, and for some offences rehabilitation does happen, eg serial thieves, drug dealers, etc. But once the taste for blood, rape or molestation has been whetted, I have grave doubts about the ability of the offenders to be rehabilitated. And getting back to my initial question - just by virtue of you having committed a crime, we now should divert resources and time to trying to change you with a view to letting you back out amongst a society where you broke one of its most sacred rules and have severely violated, or worst, killed some of its members? IMHO locking up is fine, you have forgone your right to be rehabilitated the minute you commit the crime. While it’s not a very empathetic view for criminals, I’m sure empathy was the last thing they were thinking of as they violate their victims. Knowing people like that are off the street for a long time gives the VICTIMS (IMHO the important ones here) some closure, solace and goes some way of allowing them to sleep at night.
Shredda - While objectification of women is undoubtedly a part of the crime of rape, it's really drawing a weak link between a lewd joke that may be sexist or objectifying (and that’s to your PERSONAL sensibilities don't forget) and to the crime of rape. I may make an objectifying comment, or joke, or whatever, but when it comes to women I treat them like fucking princesses, never hurt them, never harass them, sensitive to feelings, etc. Matter of fact, for most modern men women dictate their lives - mother, sisters, girlfriends, female friends - and for the overwhelming majority they are treated well, princess-like even ;) . Making jokes is one thing, the crime of rape is a whole different kettle of fish. It's like trying to draw the link between video games and mass murder - yeah there is a link for some sick depraved fucks, but it’s the exception not the rule.
If you use the terminology you contribute to the evils of society. You may not be the person that commits the crime, but you are an accessory before the fact.
You make some funny jokes. An accessory before the fact? That’s a classic. I suppose by being born male that somehow makes me a party to all rapes too? Using the terminology? Come on read what you type. That's akin to "if your German, you are a nazi, or support Hitler".
I can only speak for myself but I certainly dont want to contribute, even in a microcosmic way, to the unimaginable ordeal that those women went through, and that will affect them for the rest of their lives.
Neither do any of us on this board, but by your reasoning and logic, my jokes and my gender have already contributed in a “microcosmic” way. It would have been nice to have been born female and free my conscience of guilt and shame, but alas the Y chromosome. Seriously though, if you don't want to detract from what they went through, you would see the problem lies within the certain sub-group of people, not 50% of the population or in jokes, etc.
Rayda -
You can do a lot more to stop this type of crime happening by having empathy and respecting the women you meet in your life, even if other men do not. - what a load of bollocks. My empathy and respect prevents rape? How? Because rapists will take note of this? Because this somehow gives women a protective shield against attack? The circumstances don't lead to a condemnation of all men, only a select few - a large proportion of men respect women and have empathy for their problems - I think that has been well emphasised everywhere, even in this thread, but that isn't going to go anywhere near stopping rape. Also, it’s not like men are doing nothing to prevent rape, or condoning it – so what is the “lot more” men could be doing?
But unfortunately it continues to happen all around us everyday in some form or other So obviously some of us are contributing.
So does murder, drug dealing, paedophilia, necrophilia, ritualistic sacrifice – obviously someone somewhere is contributing, must be those damn males again, they were born truly evil. The above reasoning is the thing people take issue with.. there is no “truth” in the rhetoric spouted above – you’ll find the same amount of truth in comments like “she asked for it by going with them, and by the way she was dressed”. Both comments are offensive to your intelligence and disrespectful.
We all need to take collective responsibility to make sure it doesn't happen, and that means male AND female!
"Collective responsibility" - I'm curious to know what sort of things come under this banner, and how they can prevent rape. Also, how women and males (like myself in perspective and behaviour) have some responsibility (which we’ve been ignoring up until now) to prevent rape? Sure, the female in these circumstances went along with her attackers in a very naive and irresponsible way, but how can women as a sex have some form of responsibility to make sure rape doesn't happen? My understanding of the crime was that rape is NEVER provoked... hence where does the responsibility fall? There hasn’t been some massive silent condoning of the crime, and that statement seems a bit utopian and far-fetched to have any real meaning.. or am I missing something?
Kudos to Jakoz post 2 for points raised {EDIT} - though, seriously the checking of IPs - is it really necessary?? That seems to cross the line to making it personal... ? {/EDIT}
[ 25 August 2002: Message edited by: SupaspeeD ]
 
Pleonastic, why dont you respond to the flaming and generalization mentioned by Rayda.
Resorting to a personal attack because of your weak arguement is sad.
Yes Rayda and I are acquainted, not that it is any of your fucking business, but, we do not post as a cooperative...[/I!
I think that mentioning that we have used the same computer to all and sundry, is completely inappropriate.
I feel that priveleged information only available to mods should stay that way.
It is my perogative to be able to restrict information about my private life as much as I want to. On a site such as this, and I am sure that most Blers would agree, confidentiality is paramount...
If you would like to discuss my private life Pleonastic please email me and I will take great pleasure in refusing your request.
Feminist: of or relating to or advocating equal rights for women.
Yes Pleonastic I am a feminist but I am not a woman.
My original post was not meant to imply that if you tell sexist jokes that you will become a rapist !
Everything that we say and do influences the flow of things, sociologists and psychologists follow the patterns of behaviour that shape our society, and racist, sexist, or whatever 'ist' stuff does contribute to peoples attitudes and actions.
I know one thing, Raving Looney, I am pretty sure that you would not be making sexist jokes if your sister or partner had been at the brunt of an awful experience like the girls that we are talking about.
That is the bottom line. We are talking about women that are victims of sexual assault here, we should not be arguing the semantics of this thread. Splitting hairs about grammatical context helps no one.
We need to try and minimilise these sort of things in society. I am not that much of an idealist to think that it is easy to eliminate these things, but come on you cant say that sexism and racism does not make these problems worse.
Jakoz I do not like being threatened. I will do what ever is necessary to show you that I am genuine but dont fucking dump shit on me ! I also do not think that your rationalisations for not having a social conscience is valid imput for this particular thread.
I did not say in my original post that all men were potential rapists, if you read properly. Most men never commit such an horrendous crime obviously. I just said that all our actions and words contribute to the problems that society encounters.
Only one of the gang rapists was intellectually affected.
The others were not....
They had jobs, girlfriends, etc....
They have apparently have shown no remorse....
Respect...
 
Shrredda: Go to any nightclub and look at how many women wear clothes with things like "horny" or "Fuck me I'm a dirty slut" written on the front... Now I'm not saying that these women deserve to be raped, far from it, but it's a bit unfair in a society where clothing like this is the norm and accepted, to lump all the blame on men...
 
Pleonastic, why dont you respond to the flaming and generalization mentioned by RaydaI didn't respond because I didn't think it was a generalisation. If there's a dictionary definition for a "feminist" then we have no choice but to lump everyone in as a collective.
Feminist: of or relating to or advocating equal rights for women.What about equal rights for people? Shouldn't that be what we're striving for?
Yes Pleonastic I am a feminist but I am not a womanBWAAAHAAHAAHAHAAHA!!!!!! It's people like you that give real feminists a harder job by totally destroying their credibility. No wonder the feminist movement is a fucking joke run by politically correct bra-burning university undergraduates who organise protest marches in between writing their thesis on masturbation. I'm done responding to you, it's not worth my time because no matter what I'll say you'll say something else about how I'm a man and so I'm evil - read Jakoz and SupaspeeD's replies cos I basically agree with them.
And as for your mate Rayda - why did she pretend she didn't know your gender? Seems like a pretty fucking stupid thing to do... :\
 
Originally posted by shrredda:
I know one thing, Raving Looney, I am pretty sure that you would not be making sexist jokes if your sister or partner had been at the brunt of an awful experience like the girls that we are talking about.
So you are immediately assuming I'm some middle-class white guy who has had it easy and never had to be on the receiving end.
I have been on the receiving end of a lot abuse. The detail of many of those incidents aren't fit for reproduction in a public forum. I've learnt to deal with problems un-emotively and examining it from a distance. Hell, if I didn't do that, I'd have probably killed myslef many times over.
I've had to work damn hard to get where I am, let alone even be living now. Everybody has a cross to bear. Many have it easy, some have it rough. That is the way it goes.
So it all depends how you deal with the problems you encounter. I make jokes on subject matter that I have been exposed to (no detail required), my friends don't know the details of my past and they don't need to. So in the answer to your question, yes I would make jokes on those matters. But as with any joke, the audience is critical.
 
You've all made points that I'd like to address individually but I'll keep it general.
I think some of you have got a bit defensive. I am not irrationally dishing out blame to men, nor am I saying that you are all evil bastards. What I am saying is that we all need to take responsibility. I believe it's your responsibility as a man to treat all the women you come into contact with, with respect, and it is my responsiblity as a woman to let men know that I'm not happy if and when they treat me disrespectfully, to raise my sons (if I had any) with equality in mind, and to not send out mixed messages to men by wearing a skirt up to my arse or a t-shirt with "hot pussy" or something similar on it. Unfortunately, conditioning sometimes ensures that we as women are not very good at backing each other up on this. This understandably leads to lots of confusion for men.
It's far too complex an issue to say that a simple joke results in rape. We all know that's not a strong arguement. But those sort of jokes are the foundation for bigger problems. As shredda said, we all have a hand in influencing the way society is shaped.
Pleo- you certainly make it easy to win a discussion with you! You don't even bother to reply. The reason for the he/she 'shit' as you call it, is because it is not up to me to reveal Shredda's gender if it is not in his profile you wingnut! And yes I was backing up his opinion, just like I will back up other BL's if I agree with them. You may feel like you have exposed us by telling everyone that we are posting from the same computer, but what you have in fact done is abused your powers as a mod and in turn revealed more about yourself than you ever could about us.
 
Pleo- you certainly make it easy to win a discussion with you!Win? With me? LOL! I was addressing shrredda the whole time not you! What, you forgot who was logged in again? ;)
Nobody ever wins an argument on the internet - they just stop eventually. And it's fucking arrogant to assume you have. I think you and shrredda have been put in your place and exposed as dickheads by others, so I didn't feel the need to bother doing it myself.
Anyway, whatever floats your boat. If it makes you feel good then I guess you can chalk it up as a victory. Congratulations. Now, go do the dishes. :D
 
What a disgusting thread. No great victory for clear thinking, nor one for Bluelight as a whole.
Instead of deleting this thread - after we've all finished abusing others and embarrassing ourselves - we should lock it, keeping it right at the top of the forum. Perhaps then it could sit there, judiciously; a mesmerising example that contrary to what we may say or think we're as narrow minded, ignorant and petty as our detractors in the tabloid media.
 
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