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Fuck Buddies In Australia (Your Opinion)

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jspader

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Hello all,
I am a newcomer to this website, and have noticed how good these conversations are getting. I thought I would start one about fuck buddies, particularly in Australia (that is if you live there etc).
I've heard it's all in your actions as to whether you find one or not, and it takes time. I've recently been chatting with some girls about it, but location and time etc is a worry.
I live in Melbourne, and it's been quite hard to find one, but I wanted to see if people here have similar problems or experiences with this in the Melbourne region, or anywhere in particular.

Hope this can become an exiting topic, with stories and experiences to be shared.

Thanks
 
i cant find a friend who wants to get high with me in the entire region in which i live and you want to find fuck buddies? well,maybe you will find them,who knows..
 
Dude you will find one when you are ready.

Work on yourself, and you will attract beautiful people, when you are realizing your destiny as BEING minute-to-minute a beautiful person yourself.

It's quite difficult to be a lone wolf - unless you already have a certain charming quality - but you seem to have come here as one, instead of talking about going out with your buddies (wingmen can be useful, going as a pack even can be useful for rallying up that courage inside) - I prefer lone wolfing it mostly.

charm their pants off - Throw women at clubs a heavy compliment for instance, before backing off, and only engaging in more conversation if they carry it on - put the ball in their court til you see a good opening then take control of the sexy situation.

My experiences are mostly, they will get on teh offensive, and tell you something along teh lines of "I came here to dance, not to get hit on"... this can be true, but also it can be game speak for "I'm not going to let you get in my knickers THAT easily, show me what you got IE throw some more game speak at me".

I have in the past instinctively followed my compliment up with "Oh easy now, I'm not hitting on you, just pointing out a fact/just giving you a compliment you deserve, as does every human being".

This usually stuns them and gets them offguard, it also breaks the ice more and gets their guard down...it always works better in my experience if it's natural though - don't go in there trying to run game. Just exude game out your pores - this only comes by working on yourself, to the point where day-by-day you are in your element/plan B-psyching yourself up to go out and party and meet lovely ladies for hours beforehand(really?!).

Trust me - if you go to a dance club with good music, and just be yourself, act like there's no one else there and dance your ass off, barely paying attention to anyone else except when you catch someone's eye(male/female) and make an effort to give them a REAL NICE BIG SMILE, or a "hi", you will have multiple women come up to you and offer themselves to you. FACT. take your pick.

Lastly, if you go out looking for a fuck buddy, put it out there outloud - the intent will manifest - be VERY careful about how you word it and you get exactly what you're looking for if it's right for you. So ask yourself, before going out, WHY do I want this, and IS it a good idea for both parties for me to find this?

PEACE, one love
 
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idk.. this is either a poor attempt at trying to find a fuck buddy in Melbourne or you dont realise that the issue of finding a fuck buddy is universal conundrum.

i live in adelaide fwiw, and there was a time i thought it would be nice to find someone who i could share my carnal desires with, and not have to develop an attachment or maintain a 'normal' relationship. after reading this forum for a couple of years, i'm pretty certain if i entered such an arrangement, it would end up with me falling in love or the other person falling for me. i wouldn't bother doing it if i wasn't attracted to the person.

atm my head is at a place where i don't really want to seek out casual sex. i want to find someone who i can be friends with first, and if a romantic relationship grows out of that, all the better. i want a deep connection with someone, and friendship/companionship.

some people can separate sex from their emotions, i dont think im capable tho. i also enjoy being celibate for extended periods of time, so not being in a relationship is kind of a win/win for me atm.
 
This is not a lame attempt at finding one, although it might be at the same time, depending on what people think. I'm not your usual creepy dude. 19 infact.
I just like hearing stories of past experiences, or opinions on this whole type of topic, thats all.
 
In Melbourne it's a bit different, yeah sure there's chicks wearing nothing hanging around everywhere from Bacchus Marsh to Belgrave, but I think you need to find a personal connection with someone and see if they would like to engage in a friends with benefits scenario with you, if they are keen and just want emotion-free sex. It's gonna come down to every unique individual and their own sexual preferences. There's no "lair where sluts hangout" apart from Westfield shopping centres but yeah.
 
angeleyes said:
In Melbourne it's a bit different, yeah sure there's chicks wearing nothing hanging around everywhere from Bacchus Marsh to Belgrave, but I think you need to find a personal connection with someone and see if they would like to engage in a friends with benefits scenario with you, if they are keen and just want emotion-free sex. It's gonna come down to every unique individual and their own sexual preferences. There's no "lair where sluts hangout" apart from Westfield shopping centres but yeah.
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So, what do you think is the best chance for me? I kind of feel like if I do ask someone, it would look like I am desperate or something. Not really sure how I would describe it, but I have a feeling it might not work out :/
 
asking someone the first time you meet them would be creepy and desperate, getting to know someone and hanging out with them a few times, being flirty with them, then picking up signs that they are into you, then asking them, would just be seen as honest. there are probably plenty of girls who are sick of relationships
 
Mysterie said:
asking someone the first time you meet them would be creepy and desperate, getting to know someone and hanging out with them a few times, being flirty with them, then picking up signs that they are into you, then asking them, would just be seen as honest. there are probably plenty of girls who are sick of relationships
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I agree, suggesting the idea immediately; most chicks would think you're a typical using guy and will drop you like a sack of potatoes a lot of the time. Successful guys get a lot of girls but personal chemistry with the right girl will work for the common day lad a lot better anyday.

If you have a feeling it might not work out, what do you have to lose? Unless you come on like a creep or violate them, you'll still be friends if you don't offend them I guess? Depends how you meet though and your relationship with your person and how it progresses. Surely it will still be good. Having strong signals such as intimate flirting often helps steer the ship in the right direction, so you'll pick up fairly quickly which girls appreciate your interest and which don't. So long as you don't come on too strong too quickly, chances are you'll be able to safely suss out your luck with the ladies.

Just be confident about yourself. Don't be a dick; but be confident. :)
 
I've heard of tinder, and have been on websites where they try to sort these type of things out, but most of them have fakes that are actually men. It's rather sad, and disappointing haha.
Any other opinions/stories?
 
im sure OP has jacked off before... masturbation kind of sucks in comparison to sex
 
Yes, Mysterie... you are completely right haha. Mrs Palmer is on vacation at the moment, and her four daughters have passed away.. or I have no hands. You never know haha
 
Mysterie said:
asking someone the first time you meet them would be creepy and desperate, getting to know someone and hanging out with them a few times, being flirty with them, then picking up signs that they are into you, then asking them, would just be seen as honest. there are probably plenty of girls who are sick of relationships
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True that.
jspader said:
So, what do you think is the best chance for me? I kind of feel like if I do ask someone, it would look like I am desperate or something. Not really sure how I would describe it, but I have a feeling it might not work out :/
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seriously jspader, take my advice and you will have no problems ever again.

It's all about the energy/vibrations you send out - if you send out desperate for sex, you will get absolute ugly alcoholic crack fiends hitting on you, but if you work on yourself, work on channeling your sexual energy into creative pursuits(like when going out to a bar/club DANCING) - join a class where you're learning something creative and you will meet a likeminded female, start playing music (drum, guitar and singing) in the park, and females will be attracted to your soul...

Except for going to a bar or a club - which are meat-markets (or MEET markets) specifically designed for you to get a bit merry and find someone to get your rocks off with - you will want to ease off the sexual energy until you see cues that they are attracted to you. Do you have experience with reading womens body language? nay, PEOPLE's body language? If not, I can recommend a few homies on youtube to help you out, as there's a lot of douchbags on there. If so, use it - see the social cues, and hit on her when the time is right.

The main point I am trying to make is go out there into the world displaying creativity, then you will ATTRACT, instead of searching and hunting and looking like a sex-starved teenager.

ONE love
 
Australian women are the best! Funniest to be around! Greatest personalities hands down! They enjoy being sarcastic, humorous, down to earth, and straight up fun! They are the most adventurous & creative in bed :D You'll never want to go back.... I still think about Australian women today. If I had the assets, I'd move over there.
 
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