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itssuchagoodfeelin

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So i went to hang out with a good girlfriend of mine. Her good friend was there & her boyfriend. They were all doing shots and were pretty wasted. We are all chillin, smokin and they're drinking everything is cool; until my friend & her friend leave the room. Leaving me and her bf alone. Long story short he starts trying to touch my ass and talking dirty. I tell him to back off becuase obviously hes dating my friend. The question is do I tell my friend? maybe he was just really drunk? she really likes him and i dont want to hurt her or take his side and not believe me. Help!
 
Do you think that your friends boyfriend ever drinks without your friend? Then yea definitely. And that's if your really in a not telling mood, I would personally tell no matter what.
 
shishigami said:
Do you think that your friends boyfriend ever drinks without your friend? Then yea definitely. And that's if your really in a not telling mood, I would personally tell no matter what.
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i'd say the rate of drinking does actually take a role here, though in honesty i would tell her otherwise.

it might be some black out drunk mistake fluke that you would make a bigger deal when it was a weird, drunk thing.

but if he is likely to do this often, yes i would tell her.
 
Tell her. Regardless of her reaction, you'll have done the right thing. It's on her if she gets mad.
 
Tough spot!
Tell her though. Just think it over before you go and open up to her about how youre gonna handle things
 
I've been in similar situations many times before. I don't know why, but a lot of my friends boyfriends hit on me.
I learned the hard way that you absolutely cannot keep it to yourself. If it gets out you will look like you allowed him to hit on you because otherwise why wouldn't you have told your friend? Also, if you care about your friend don't let her date a creep.
Even if she doesn't dump him, at least she's been warned. You're her friend right? So BE her friend.
 
i know she won't break up with him...she lets him getaway with so much stupid shit....your in "commited" relationship and you disappear for 3 days, come on...she knows he's messing around. I guess shes lonley....she will fight with him about it but she won't break it off (he lives with her' with no job and his 2 kids are there for the summer, she alrwady has 3 of her own). im afraid if i tell he. cause i think she might stop hanging out with me (we hang out at her place). Or he will say some dumb shit to make it look like its my fault? would I be a horrible friend if i didnt say shit but I would tell her if it happend agian?
 
I told an ex of mine her friend was trying shit.
Long story short, she believed her friend, and i was the asshole. I still don`t get it... The bitch has issues though.
Now i wish i had taken her friend up on stuff... If i knew i was gonna be the asshole, i at least should have done something wrong. I mistakenly believed having some integrity meant something to her... She was/is seriously a head case.
 
It seems as if he isn't worth a relationship with. She may have her blinders on full force though, and that is unfortunate.

You could tell her he is not trustworthy or unfaithful, but ( and this is a big BUT ) maybe she doesn't really care enough to want to know that her relationship--as she wants to believe it--is a sham.

Only you know your girlfriend long enough to know how to tip toe around the specifics of your multiple ongoing interpersonal relationships.

Maybe you could mention it, just so she is aware of his behavior from a trusted source, and then let her "go through it" and make up her own mind based on her experiences with this fellow.
 
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