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friend's new girlfriend wants to fuck

Well when I was first hanging around there was a little casual contact.. some minor bumping / nudging that kinda let me know without being extremely obvious (this with BF in the same room. Then she called me "baby" when he was close by didn't think much but she was also giving me a certain look of desire/sexual interest. When I came back the next day he took off to run errands and she got really really excited, gave me an intimate embrace and a kiss on the cheek, which is no big deal in Mexican culture but then the way she was looking into my eyes while she was saying "oh me and him are just friends... I like being single and having fun" Then flat out told me she doesn't want to be in a committed relationship.. yes i hugged her back to make it less awkward... and I'd be lying if I said I'm not sexually attracted to her.. I had a moment of temptation followed by a cig break to kind of change the subject...

I think it's also possible they want me to join in a threesome but he is afraid to ask me himself, but it could just as easily not be. Idk he did kind of tell me "she's a freak" so IDK..

Hmm I think the best way to find out may be to roll with them... Pretty sure if I roll with them the truth will come out eventually. One way or the other.

Come to think about it an ex gf of his he now hates was awful flirty with me too. She told me they had just broken up but he never said they were just friends... In both situations he introduced them as his gf (which neither objected to in front of him)

Ok What The Fuck is going on...Maybe he has a taste for really promiscuous girls...? Idk fuck
 
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severely etarded said:
Well when I was first hanging around there was a little casual contact.. some minor bumping / nudging that kinda let me know without being extremely obvious (this with BF in the same room. Then she called me "baby" when he was close by didn't think much but she was also giving me a certain look of desire/sexual interest. When I came back the next day he took off to run errands and she got really really excited, gave me an intimate embrace and a kiss on the cheek, which is no big deal in Mexican culture but then the way she was looking into my eyes while she was saying "oh me and him are just friends... I like being single and having fun" Then flat out told me she doesn't want to be in a committed relationship.. yes i hugged her back to make it less awkward... and I'd be lying if I said I'm not sexually attracted to her.. I had a moment of temptation followed by a cig break to kind of change the subject...

I think it's also possible they want me to join in a threesome but he is afraid to ask me himself, but it could just as easily not be. Idk he did kind of tell me "she's a freak" so IDK..

Hmm I think the best way to find out may be to roll with them... Pretty sure if I roll with them the truth will come out eventually. One way or the other.

Come to think about it an ex gf of his he now hates was awful flirty with me too. She told me they had just broken up but he never said they were just friends... In both situations he introduced them as his gf (which neither objected to in front of him)

Ok What The Fuck is going on...Maybe he has a taste for really promiscuous girls...? Idk fuck
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I would approach it from a different angle. I'm assuming they are sleeping together and they know that you know this.

I'd just bluntly tell him, "Hey, dude. Are you wearing a rubber when you have sex with this girl? Cuz the other night she hit on me and who knows how many other guys she is hitting on behind your back. Just sayin."

If he asks for details, then give him the details. If he is a real friend, he will appreciate that you are concerned for the health of his penis.

One final thing. I feel time is of the essence because the longer you wait to tell him, the longer she has to lie to him and tell him you were hitting on her. Some girls are just like that, man.

If it turns out he they are both down for a three way then all the better. Then you'll get to have your cake and eat it too.
 
I'm wondering if him leaving for "errands" was planned or something. It just seems too stupid for it not to be. I knew she was down when I first met her she was kinda bumping/grinding on me kinda casually.. without looking but doing it repeatedly like if it was accidental she wouldn't have kept on doing it lol. I'm wondering if she told him she wanted to fuck me which is why he left or he really has no clue. So far he seems not to have a clue but like I said he did tell me she's "freaky" (threesomes?)

They both like to roll.. I think the best thing is to bring over one of my gf's to his house when she's there and we all drop some pills and open up about sexuality.. kinda see what happens.
 
^you wont know until you have a discussion with your friend, it's not good to assume things and it will drive you nuts to assume and then think about "what if he really wanted me to have a threesome" or "should I tell him or not". If you want answers, you either do it or you let it go.
 
severely etarded said:
How do I break it to him..? "Hey bro I think your new GF you like a lot is really a whore.."
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You seem for some reason to think you have to be really brash about it... Why not something like "Hey, there's something I need to tell you as a friend. IDK if you're aware but your girl's been coming on to me and it's putting me in an uncomfortable situation." See what he says.

Maya said:
^you wont know until you have a discussion with your friend, it's not good to assume things and it will drive you nuts to assume and then think about "what if he really wanted me to have a threesome" or "should I tell him or not". If you want answers, you either do it or you let it go.
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Annnddd this... You could speculate all day but unless you actually talk to your friend you'll never know.
 
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I would mention that she said she didn't want to be monogamous- just so that he's not walking around like a dumbass being all serious, when she has no intention. And then he can question her when they are together to see where he really stands.
You can say, "I don't know, but I kinda felt like maybe she was coming on to me.... You know we are bros and I would never really act on that sort of thing- I'm just looking out for you. I don't want this girl to make you out to look stupid."
 
iLoveYouWithaKnife said:
I would mention that she said she didn't want to be monogamous- just so that he's not walking around like a dumbass being all serious, when she has no intention. And then he can question her when they are together to see where he really stands.
You can say, "I don't know, but I kinda felt like maybe she was coming on to me.... You know we are bros and I would never really act on that sort of thing- I'm just looking out for you. I don't want this girl to make you out to look stupid."
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Thank you I think this was the response I was really looking for. That's exactly what I'm going to tell him next time I see him
 
Just keep your mouth shut and make it a point to not be alone with her anymore. She cannot be trusted and worse she might make up a story about YOU coming on to her.
 
^ To automatically assume that she cannot be trusted is an unfair opinion to make.

This girl said that she doesn't want to be in a serious relationship- and in all fairness, she could have said the same thing to Severely Etard's friend, for all we know.

I would just keep it simple and to the point- and not let accusations or assumptions take control and make it a bigger problem than it actually is.

Egos don't need to be involved.... like, I can totally fuck your chick...... that proves nothing. But being a good friend means not acting on that--- and helping him be aware that maybe he isn't quite on the same page as her (so he doesn't get hurt).
 
Pretty_Diamonds said:
I vote tell him. Just like super casual… you know the last time you went to the store, you're girlfriend "blah" started hitting on me. It was weird dude.
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thing is often they shoot the messenger but this is a really blasé way to say it which is good

but also if you dont tell him you might get shit for it down the line. maybe he's banging her without condoms thinking she's loyal so might be worth letting him know
 
hit it and quit it

then it just becomes a "he said, she said" type of deal and you always get one out on those

if she says it twice though your friend would probably start to believe her
 
severely etarded said:
Well my friend accused me of trying to nail her the other day because I was talking to her. So now I guess the point is moot. Looks like we're not friends anymore. Oh well friends come and go I suppose
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No, friends don't come and go and it should not have gone down like that. There is a reason the old saying exists....Bro's before hoes. Unfortunately the guy you were friends with has prolly never heard that expression or is blinded by his own immaturity. Sorry, man. He must not have been your bro but it is quite obvious that she was a ho.

Don't worry, she will break his heart and when she does you can rub his face in it and say I told you so.

Jerry Atrick said:
If he is a real friend, he will appreciate that you are concerned for the health of his penis.

One final thing. I feel time is of the essence because the longer you wait to tell him, the longer she has to lie to him and tell him you were hitting on her. Some girls are just like that, man.
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Now that I reread my previous post, this possibly could have been avoided had you told him sooner or even the day it happened. I'm not saying this is your fault. Some guys are just like that. I've had friends get all wrapped up with a girl and completely blow off all their guy pals. Come to think about it, I did it with one girl about 15 years ago. There's a word for this phenomenon but it escapes me right now...
 
Jerry Atrick said:
There's a word for this phenomenon but it escapes me right now...
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Are you thinking of the slang terms "whipped", or "pussy whipped"?

At least you told. I did have something like this happen with a friend and his then girlfriend but she made it really obvious to him that she had a crush on me. I did talk to him about it, and said how it was weird to me but he said just to ignore her and I did that. Another friend of mine was dating a woman who was like the original poster described and nobody told him but he soon figured it out since they would go out and she'd hit on other guys or proposition them for sex or talk about sex, and then say how her BF or my friend was in her opinion really bad at sex.
 
tell him man, he needs to know! this guy ur friend right? tell him, if it means yous falling out then at least u did the right thing
 
My best friend's girlfriend once asserted that I "felt her up" when I hugged her. The hug took place (goodnight I'm outta here, variety) right in front of him and, no, I didn't. Another time, I did tell my friend that his date hit on me. She denied it and asserted that I, in fact, hit on her. If this were to happen again, I think I would "clear the air" by telling him in front of her, apologize if I misunderstood her actions or words, and let him deal with the reality of the situation. Most of the time, a dude is going to side with his wife/girl friend but at least I have provided him with the truth.
 
My mates girlfriend came on to me one nite at there house, and the only reason we didn't have sex is because he was upstairs, we defiantly would of got caught!

When he found out about this a hole load of other shit came out about her as well.
They ain't together anymore.
 
First off props for holding yourself back. I know that can be really hard sometimes. Now if this guy really is your friend just tell him. Just say something like "Dude, that girl your into came on to me the other night. If you really like her you got to drop her, cuz if she did that to me she will do it to someone else and your going to get hurt in the process." If your not that good friends with him just remove yourself from those two for awhile, otherwise you're going to get yourself in a really sticky situation.
 
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